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profmum

Senior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? CO

Xfiles and I share 50-50 of our 5.5 yr old DD who is in private kindergarten. Last Nov I asked dad about schools for next year and suggested three schools both of which were not the home school for where either one of us lived. He agreed to two of the schools and we applied for a "school of choice". Well DD did not get into either school through school of choice because there were no slots. A school of choice is a school that is within the same district but not the home school that is assigned based on your home address. Both the home schools assigned to mine and Xfiles current addresses are the lowest performing schools.

Our CO says that "we have to agree about choice of school".

In the interim I have beent trying to sell my house for over a year to move into one of these neighborhoods. Long story short, I found a house where the
home school is one of the two we agreed on (let us call this school A), 6 miles from where I currently live and will be moving there in May.

I have to inform him of the move and my new address within 3 days of moving, which of course I will.


If he objects to school A now (for whatever reason), does he have a legal leg to stand on?

This is a school we agreed on and it will be possible for DD to go there because I will be living in that area.

School A is about 5 miles further than her current school for a total distance of about 9-10 miles that he would have to drive her to everyday on his week. Now he presumably weighed all these options when he agreed. Of course he can change his mind now. There are other legal issues going on with him including a very contentious break with his attny and the denial of both his appeals on CS and atty fees.. all in all he may be out for blood!

There are ways to minimize that distance by dropping her at one of the bus stops, my house, which is closer etc.
It is a public school, which is what he wanted (i wanted private).

So a little nervous.. since I am moving and I really dont see any need to ask him "about my move".
 
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Ohiogal

Queen Bee
What proof do you have that he agreed to the school before? He could change his mind but it would be entirely vengeful for him to change his mind ONLY after you moved.
Try this: Send him an email saying:

I know we agreed upon schools A, B and C. if there is anyway to get baby into them I am still for them and am working on ways to try to get her into one of those schools.

See if he responds. If he responds: Yeah I wish so too or something else stating he likes those schools, then with the move finalized you can state Baby girl is going to be able to go to school A. We can both relax now.
 

profmum

Senior Member
What proof do you have that he agreed to the school before? He could change his mind but it would be entirely vengeful for him to change his mind ONLY after you moved.
Try this: Send him an email saying:

I know we agreed upon schools A, B and C. if there is anyway to get baby into them I am still for them and am working on ways to try to get her into one of those schools.

See if he responds. If he responds: Yeah I wish so too or something else stating he likes those schools, then with the move finalized you can state Baby girl is going to be able to go to school A. We can both relax now.


OG we only communicate via email so I have the email from him agreeing to school A. But that is a good idea!
 

wileybunch

Senior Member
So is his prior communication on this enough? Just thinking about loud that if profmum asks him now and he said he changed his mind, there goes that idea.
 

profmum

Senior Member
So is his prior communication on this enough? Just thinking about loud that if profmum asks him now and he said he changed his mind, there goes that idea.

In some ways yes I suppose, but he can change his mind anytime. So there may be a battle anyways, the question is what is his rationale for changing his mind? My move was planned over a year ago (it took this long because of the market!) and yes it was for a better school among other things.

So if there is a battle, it will come down to (I think), what we agreed on, what is Dad's alternative choices and the rationale for those choices and whether those choices are best for DD. It is a risk I have to take. I think it would been a little different if I was not moving and then it takes away the choice for school A, which is an award winning school as opposed Dad's home school which is much lower performing by orders of magnitude.

It will be interesting now that Dad has gone pro se..!
 

2Mistakes

Senior Member
I think you're worrying way in advance, about something that may not even be a problem.

Why don't you just tell Dad that you are moving into school district A, and wee one can go to school there now.

I learned (from this board) to stop worrying about things that weren't problems yet.

I used to worry about what the lovely ex MIGHT say or do.

Now I just worry about what she DOES say and do.
 

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