Seperating from Husband

[stepmom4ever]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? GA

I know, I know....you TOLD me so,

My husband and I are seperating because things really didn't change that much from when I was being stupid about "Him not doing to me what he did to the ex"..... I now see what everyone was YELLING to tell me. I need to know how will child support and visitation factor in with him already having a child by his ex first? I don't have the means for a lawyer and would like to do this Pro se, will they take into account that he already have to support his first child...I'd like to give him EOW for visits but supervised.....

I made a complete idiot of myself and feel ashame to come back on this site and ask for help.

 

[Ohiogal]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? GA

I know, I know....you TOLD me so,

My husband and I are seperating because things really didn't change that much from when I was being stupid about "Him not doing to me what he did to the ex"..... I now see what everyone was YELLING to tell me. I need to know how will child support and visitation factor in with him already having a child by his ex first? I don't have the means for a lawyer and would like to do this Pro se, will they take into account that he already have to support his first child...I'd like to give him EOW for visits but supervised.....

I made a complete idiot of myself and feel ashame to come back on this site and ask for help.

Your child will ALWAYS come second to the prior baby. ALWAYS. Your child will get even less than that child.

Dang. And we all thought it was true love -- at least that is what you said. What grounds for supervised? You have no grounds. He is a PERFECT father or so you have said on here. It is all Kim's fault. Yet now it is all his fault and he shouldn't be around your child except with supervision? I am confused.

 

[stepmom4ever]

Your child will ALWAYS come second to the prior baby. ALWAYS. Your child will get even less than that child.

Dang. And we all thought it was true love -- at least that is what you said. What grounds for supervised? You have no grounds. He is a PERFECT father or so you have said on here. It is all Kim's fault. Yet now it is all his fault and he shouldn't be around your child except with supervision? I am confused.

Ohiogal,

I will take that, I deserve it. I would like supervised visits because I was the only one taking care of our child, not him. I'm the primary care giver. I just want what's best for our child...he is unstable and I now see it clearly

 

[Proserpina]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? GA

I know, I know....you TOLD me so,

My husband and I are seperating because things really didn't change that much from when I was being stupid about "Him not doing to me what he did to the ex"..... I now see what everyone was YELLING to tell me. I need to know how will child support and visitation factor in with him already having a child by his ex first? I don't have the means for a lawyer and would like to do this Pro se, will they take into account that he already have to support his first child...I'd like to give him EOW for visits but supervised.....

I made a complete idiot of myself and feel ashame to come back on this site and ask for help.

Come on then...on what grounds do you think supervised visitation is appropriate?

(you know how this goes - you need reasons to request such a thing)

 

[Hisbabygirl77]

Ohiogal,

I will take that, I deserve it. I would like supervised visits because I was the only one taking care of our child, not him. I'm the primary care giver. I just want what's best for our child...he is unstable and I now see it clearly

Your being primary caregiver won't factor in to him getting supervised visitation. How is he unstable? Can you prove it? I would say probably not.

 

[stepmom4ever]

Come on then...on what grounds do you think supervised visitation is appropriate?

(you know how this goes - you need reasons to request such a thing)

I just want what's best for our child.... I did everything

 

[stepmom4ever]

Your being primary caregiver won't factor in to him getting supervised visitation. How is he unstable? Can you prove it? I would say probably not.

He is not working, I took care of everything

 

[Proserpina]

I just want what's best for our child.... I did everything

Sweetheart come on - you've been lurking here for WAY too long to believe you can just ask and receive supervised visitation without having a reason.

You know better than that....so, what reasons do you have?

(Not working isn't going to cut it)

 

[Hisbabygirl77]

Sweetheart come on - you've been lurking here for WAY too long to believe you can just ask and receive supervised visitation without having a reason.

You know better than that....so, what reasons do you have?

(Not working isn't going to cut it)

In fact not working just means he has more time to give his undivided attention to the child. That and I assume that OP will have to get a job (if she doesn't have one already) so then he would be the one who would have more time for the child.

 

[Ohiogal]

Ohiogal,

I will take that, I deserve it. I would like supervised visits because I was the only one taking care of our child, not him. I'm the primary care giver. I just want what's best for our child...he is unstable and I now see it clearly

You are not a psychiatrist. You are not able to diagnose him as such. You work and he stays home. You ever leave the baby ALONE with him? EVER? How are you the primary care giver if he is unemployed (or going to babar college) and you are working?

 

[stepmom4ever]

Sweetheart come on - you've been lurking here for WAY too long to believe you can just ask and receive supervised visitation without having a reason.

You know better than that....so, what reasons do you have?

(Not working isn't going to cut it)

I didn't want to get too personal or emotional....I just feel that he should not receive unsupervised visits. He did nothing since I had our child, I paid for everything including child support for his other child. He drinks and smoke from time to time and curse in front of our child around his friends.

 

[Ohiogal]

He is not working, I took care of everything

Really? The child was NEVER left alone with him? EVER? Hmmm... I gotta wonder. You ever testify in court for hubby? Ever? I can see those transcripts when you were saying how great a man he is being used against you. You were under oath if you ever testified.

And I bet Kim has record of you saying what a fabulous man and husband and father your hubby is.

 

[Hisbabygirl77]

I didn't want to get too personal or emotional....I just feel that he should not receive unsupervised visits. He did nothing since I had our child, I paid for everything including child support for his other child. He drinks and smoke from time to time and curse in front of our child around his friends.

Occasionally drinking, smoking and cursing around your child is NOT grounds for supervision or grounds to make him a bad father for that matter.

 

[Ohiogal]

I didn't want to get too personal or emotional....I just feel that he should not receive unsupervised visits. He did nothing since I had our child, I paid for everything including child support for his other child. He drinks and smoke from time to time and curse in front of our child around his friends.

And? So? You CHOSE to pay child support for his other child. After all you were the superior mommy. You were so much better than the child's real mommy and your husband was fantastic. Look at your other threads here -- you bragged about him. And now that you want a divorce, he is scum and horrible and shouldn't be allowed anywhere around YOUR precious child unsupervised. He is allowed to drink and smoke. Unless it is pot and even then that doesn't matter all that much in many jurisdictions. Cursing -- not a problem. He did nothing? I thought he watched the child while you worked?

See, the problem is you have bragged far too much about him on here. You need proof of his horribleness. You need proof that he is a DANGER to your child. What proof do you have?

 

[Proserpina]

I didn't want to get too personal or emotional....I just feel that he should not receive unsupervised visits. He did nothing since I had our child, I paid for everything including child support for his other child. He drinks and smoke from time to time and curse in front of our child around his friends.

You have no grounds.

End of story.