should i persue?

[terminatedone]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? PA


what should I do? I was dating a guy and I thought we were honest. we are both in our 50's. he told me he wasn't seeing anyone and I found out he was. I was more worried about my health than anything else. him messing around and he knew I was not for that and he even told me he would tell me but he did not. when I called him out on it, he got mad, irate and hostile. he then stated I was stalking him. all I did was create a fake profile online and played like another woman trying to hook up with him. he sent me a picture of this woman and her husband and he stated he was having 3 ways with them since September. we were dating and his last text to me in November he said he wasn't with anyone. let alone I slept with him in November. he did lie to me and put my health at risk. my concern is that he had sent me an email stating he was going to get all my pictures and text messages and emails and send them to my family and my boss. he stated he will get me fired. I have been laying low cause I do not trust him and he will do stuff like this in a heartbeat. he is a pathological liar. he fits all the signs. I do fear every day going to work that I don't know what he will do. I also found out he is an x-con, owns a gun (which is against the law) has drugs in his house (if caught it will be a 3rd strike against him), has video cameras throughout his house and takes pictures and videos of all the women he does and now posts them online without their knowledge. one former fling even told him to remove them and he waited 3 months and put them back up. since he is an x-con, he has buddies that he served time with and even is their contact if they get in trouble. he has copies of their birth certificates, drivers licenses and stuff. I know I was there when he got the call from one of them in another state who just got locked up. I do fear for my life, but I also do not want this to go public and of course he has told me he has friends that will take care of his business if need be. he is a bully and I do not know what to do? he has threatened me with blackmail and when I told him that he is trying to black mail me, he stated that quoting legal stuff is not going to do anything. he thinks he is above the law. I walked away immediately, blocked his number, his email and so forth....but I fear every day what he might do. I want to report him but want to do it without him knowing it is me. can that be done? what is the best way to handle this?

 

[eerelations]

You can't do anything until he actually does something. The longer you keep laying low and refuse to communicate with him, the less likely he will do something. So that's your best option - lay low, no communication.

 

[terminatedone]

You can't do anything until he actually does something. The longer you keep laying low and refuse to communicate with him, the less likely he will do something. So that's your best option - lay low, no communication.

that is what I have been doing and thank you. just a shame that he will probably put someone else through the same thing if they call him out on his lies.....lol

 

[commentator]

It is highly unlikely that he would ever follow through on his threats. Getting you fired is probably something he could not do with dirty pictures or whatever he has from you from outside work. Unless he had actual evidence that you were doing something bad at work, he might get you investigated, or warned, but I really doubt he could get you fired. It does sound like he was a very bad actor, and that you hung around for far too much of his disgusting business. Sure it will be embarrassing if he followed through on his threats. But I doubt he will.

Now from here on out, I suggest you see a counselor, and discuss your fears and actions, your situation with this man with them, try to get yourself some peace of mind. He used you until you stopped letting him, now he'll move on to someone else who will be willing to let him for some period of time until they catch on. In the meantime, restore your own self image and your own situation. Work hard, be professional, be careful, watch your back, and do not in any way contact this person again or allow him to contact you.

If he does come back around or contact you, hang up, leave the scene, go away. When you've made it very clear you do not wish the contact, if he pursues it, immediately speak with law enforcement. No, he's mighty likely not going to have you killed by some of his "contacts" if you go to the police. Every self respecting bully and con man known in the world has threatened to hurt your people or have you killed if you go against their wishes. "I know the right people....." is the stuff of every ordinary jerk who ever tries this stuff. Be firm, be away from him, and soon you'll have no further problems with him.