Special Occassions

[norm9838]

What is the name of your state? Indiana In the Indiana Parenting time guidelines it states ( There will be occasions when scheduled parenting times may need to be adjusted because of illnesses or special family events such as weddings, funerals, reunions, and the like. Each parent should accommodate the other in making the adjustment so that the child may attend the family event.

With this in mind do you think a judge would review a request to have your child on your wedding day if it happened to be on the other parents parenting time.

Also I have a brother who is getting married in a couple of months and they wanted my child to be in the wedding but it is also on her mothers parenting time.

I know that if I asked she will not concede to change times or even try to be civil concerning these types of situations.

So could I file this with the judge to get permission without making this a big court deal?

In the past whenever she has had a death in the family, etc she has called and came and picked our child up. But that was when someone past away. I have to honestly say I do not think she would even let me get our child if that happened on my side of the family without there being a big stink.

 

[fairisfair]

you will notice the word SHOULD in these very general instructions. Yes, in order to be a good parent, you should take special events into consideration, but that doesn't mean that legally you must. I doubt a judge would even entertain the thought of scheduling a court date to determine whether or not to order a child's attendance at a wedding. Perhaps a better idea might be to take parenting time into consideration when scheduling those big events. (PS this in no way indicates my personal feelings about your Biatch of an ex)

 

[BelizeBreeze]

What is the name of your state? Indiana In the Indiana Parenting time guidelines it states ( There will be occasions when scheduled parenting times may need to be adjusted because of illnesses or special family events such as weddings, funerals, reunions, and the like. Each parent should accommodate the other in making the adjustment so that the child may attend the family event.

With this in mind do you think a judge would review a request to have your child on your wedding day if it happened to be on the other parents parenting time.

Also I have a brother who is getting married in a couple of months and they wanted my child to be in the wedding but it is also on her mothers parenting time.

I know that if I asked she will not concede to change times or even try to be civil concerning these types of situations.

So could I file this with the judge to get permission without making this a big court deal?

In the past whenever she has had a death in the family, etc she has called and came and picked our child up. But that was when someone past away. I have to honestly say I do not think she would even let me get our child if that happened on my side of the family without there being a big stink.

A judge is not going to entertain such a motion to amend the current order for a one-time issue. If the two of you can't work it out then your child should be raising you.

 

[nextwife]

you will notice the word SHOULD in these very general instructions. Yes, in order to be a good parent, you should take special events into consideration, but that doesn't mean that legally you must. I doubt a judge would even entertain the thought of scheduling a court date to determine whether or not to order a child's attendance at a wedding. Perhaps a better idea might be to take parenting time into consideration when scheduling those big events. (PS this in no way indicates my personal feelings about your Biatch of an ex)

How does one "keep those things in mind" when their Aunt schedules THEIR wedding, a cousin schedules THEIR Bar Mitzvah, a half sibling's Sunday school Schedules THEIR communion and so on?

 

[moburkes]

How does one "keep those things in mind" when their Aunt schedules THEIR wedding, a cousin schedules THEIR Bar Mitzvah, a half sibling's Sunday school Schedules THEIR communion and so on?

I think she meant when OP scheduled THEIR OWN wedding, not the other people.