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StepFather concerned about change in visitation

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Tool1248

Junior Member
My wife and I have been married since 2001. She was divorced in 2000 and a custodial mother of two(7-girl and 9-boy). Long story short... they lived in Tennessee(as do we now) in 1999. He up and ran off to Kentucky and moved in with his parents. She filed for divorce and it was finalized in 2000. He now lives two blocks away from his parents (still out of state). He was extremely sporatic in child support payments until they finally stopped. After 4 visits to court he is now on wage assignment. Visitation was set up as follows... every other weekend and every two weeks in the summer. 48 hours at Christmas and Thanksgiving. He provides all transportation.
He has gone to a lawyer to change the visitation. He now wants us to take the children to him during his visitation (a distance he created before the divorce and has never changed) and wants the for the entire Christmas break every other year. He wants to claim them every other year on his taxes, six consecutive weeks in the summer, the entire Spring Break (which we promised to his mother every year as it is the only vaction time they get that is not promised to him), and he now wants us to carry all insurance. The thing I do not understand is that the Petition he signed states "there has been a material change in circumstances in that he now lives in Kentucky and due to the travel distance the visitation set out is no longer feasible." This is an out and out LIE. He has lived there since before the divorce was requested for and he SIGNED this.
As a concerned stepfather who loves and thinks of his stepchildren as his own, I am concerned at the lack of guidance and respect he shows them anyway. I fear him gaining more control and pushing more responsibility on us. Can he do any of these on the basis of a falsehood?

Tool1248
 


It's possible he could get some of what he's asking for, such as, the every other Christmas vacation and claiming them on taxes every other year. It's also reasonable to ask that you carry insurance since he lives out of state. Most likely his insurance won't cover his children living in TN. As far as him being able to ask for a mod based on a lie? Both parents lie in family court every day. Not much you can do about it really.
 

Tool1248

Junior Member
Smarty Panties said:
It's possible he could get some of what he's asking for, such as, the every other Christmas vacation and claiming them on taxes every other year. It's also reasonable to ask that you carry insurance since he lives out of state. .

I'm just unsure on what grounds he can request anything when nothing has changed in 6 years, and the divorce papers state that no changes may be made to these provisions in whole or part unless agreed upon by both parties. I can't understand how he can try to demand us to drive all the way there when he created the entire distance.

Smarty Panties said:
As far as him being able to ask for a mod based on a lie? Both parents lie in family court every day. Not much you can do about it really.

This lie is a signed legal document which can be proven false (it clearly states above his signature that he is sworn under oath) as his address from 6 years ago is two blocks away from current address. Can we do anything about this?
 
Tool1248 said:
I can't understand how he can try to demand us to drive all the way there when he created the entire distance.

I seriously doubt he's going to get that one.



Tool1248 said:
This lie is a signed legal document which can be proven false (it clearly states above his signature that he is sworn under oath) as his address from 6 years ago is two blocks away from current address. Can we do anything about this?

You (or rather your wife) can point that out to the judge.
 

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