sticking point in mediation

[socalguy27]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? CA

Can anyone please help me out with advice on the following issue?

If I sent money to my parents before (on several occasions, to help them when they were sick, and my dad's retired, so limited financial means - therefore, a moral obligation for me) without her knowledge (because she's going to create a living hell if i tell her, i have verified that truth before), do i have to return half the money to her now? i know one of the first questions that may be raised is whether this was an attempt to move money before the divorce, and even my wife will agree that that was not the case. my only intention was to help them out when they needed me.

Can anyone please help me out on this issue - this has been a major sticking point. thanks so much.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? CA

Can anyone please help me out with advice on the following issue?

If I sent money to my parents before (on several occasions, to help them when they were sick, and my dad's retired, so limited financial means - therefore, a moral obligation for me) without her knowledge (because she's going to create a living hell if i tell her, i have verified that truth before), do i have to return half the money to her now? i know one of the first questions that may be raised is whether this was an attempt to move money before the divorce, and even my wife will agree that that was not the case. my only intention was to help them out when they needed me.

Can anyone please help me out on this issue - this has been a major sticking point. thanks so much.

If she raises the issue then demand 1/2 of all lunches, movie tickets, gas and other expenses she has spent on friends and family.

 

[socalguy27]

If she raises the issue then demand 1/2 of all lunches, movie tickets, gas and other expenses she has spent on friends and family.

is she legally entitled to the money i gave to my parents for helping them out?

i was looking on the internet, and this is what i found, under section "1100 b" of the California Code:

http://www.leginfo.ca.gov/cgi-bin/displaycode?section=fam&group=01001-02000&file=1100-1103

this is what it says:

"(b) A spouse may not make a gift of community personal property,
or dispose of community personal property for less than fair and
reasonable value, without the written consent of the other spouse.
This subdivision does not apply to gifts mutually given by both
spouses to third parties and to gifts given by one spouse to the
other spouse."

My point is: the money given was NOT a "gift", so i DO NOT owe her half of it.
any opinions/advice? thank you for reading.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

Am I speaking to a blank wall?

I gave you my answer.