The Parole Board Screwed Us

[amandawilliams]

undefinedWhat is the name of your state? TEXAS

We need help. My husband has a stipulation om his parole now stating that we, he and I, are not to have ANY contact for the duration of his parole. As of Oct. 26th 2004, I filed assult charges on him in August BECAUSE HE BUSTED OUT MY WINDSHIELD NOT BECAUSE HE HIT ME, PLUS MY MOTHER THREATENED ME WITH MY OLDEST DAUGHTER. SHE DOES NOT LIKE HIM BECAUSE HE HAD JUST GOTTEN OUT ON PAROLE JANUARY 6-2004. then had them dropped. But the Parole Board put that stipulation on there, at that time I was 8mths pregnant with his child. Because of us not having contact with one another he was unable to witness his daughter being born. On January 19 2005 the sherifs office came and pickedhim up on a blue-warrent, failure to notify change os address. I did go see him several times until his Parole-Hearing 02-11-05, which at that time we were discussing getting married by Proxy. On February 11, 2005 at 10:30 am we were married, still are. But we need to know how can we get this stipulation dropped, and fast. Before they send him off, they are figuring rather back to TDC for the remainder of this time, 3 yrs, or to ISF for 90 days or 180 days. With this no contact thing I am unable to write to let him know how our daughter is doing, not able to send cards or pictures from her, nothing. Plus I can't take her to see him, and he is missing her real bad. He even asked a friend to tell me to figure out something fast before he go crazy. PLEASE HELP!!

 

[seniorjudge]

Q: I filed assult charges on him

A: This can result in the following: We need help. My husband has a stipulation om his parole now stating that we, he and I, are not to have ANY contact for the duration of his parole. As of Oct. 26th 2004, I filed assult charges on him in August then had them dropped. But the Parole Board put that stipulation on there, at that time I was 8mths pregnant with his child. Because of us not having contact with one another he was unable to witness his daughter being born. On January 19 2005 the sherifs office came and pickedhim up on a blue-warrent, failure to notify change os address. I did go see him several times until his Parole-Hearing 02-11-05, which at that time we were discussing getting married by Proxy. On February 11, 2005 at 10:30 am we were married, still are. But we need to know how can we get this stipulation dropped, and fast. Before they send him off, they are figuring rather back to TDC for the remainder of this time, 3 yrs, or to ISF for 90 days or 180 days. With this no contact thing I am unable to write to let him know how our daughter is doing, not able to send cards or pictures from her, nothing. Plus I can't take her to see him, and he is missing her real bad. He even asked a friend to tell me to figure out something fast before he go crazy. PLEASE HELP!!

 

[OhBullship]

undefinedWhat is the name of your state? TEXAS

We need help. My husband has a stipulation om his parole now stating that we, he and I, are not to have ANY contact for the duration of his parole. As of Oct. 26th 2004, I filed assult charges on him in August then had them dropped. But the Parole Board put that stipulation on there, at that time I was 8mths pregnant with his child. Because of us not having contact with one another he was unable to witness his daughter being born. On January 19 2005 the sherifs office came and pickedhim up on a blue-warrent, failure to notify change os address. I did go see him several times until his Parole-Hearing 02-11-05, which at that time we were discussing getting married by Proxy. On February 11, 2005 at 10:30 am we were married, still are. But we need to know how can we get this stipulation dropped, and fast. Before they send him off, they are figuring rather back to TDC for the remainder of this time, 3 yrs, or to ISF for 90 days or 180 days. With this no contact thing I am unable to write to let him know how our daughter is doing, not able to send cards or pictures from her, nothing. Plus I can't take her to see him, and he is missing her real bad. He even asked a friend to tell me to figure out something fast before he go crazy. PLEASE HELP!!

If you want to stay with him you are going to have to learn to be a better punching bag. You might as well rough up that child of yours too because statistically she will grow up to be a punching bag herself.

If you want to live with him then you need to learn to keep your mouth shut when he hits you. You might as well buy duct tape for your daughters mouth so she can learn early enough not to talk either, since her adult relationships are likely to resemble yours.

If you are uncomfortable doing those things to your daughter and you insist on being stupid enough to pursue this relationship would you please turn your child over to people who are capable of raising her. She deserves at least one parent who is smarter than a stump.

 

[garyl24]

man alot of that is uncalled for. i agree that if she want to stay with a man that beats her she shouldnt come looking for help because no one feels sorry for her. and she needs to think about her daughter. but dude you have no right calling her daughter those names. hell if you have to talk to people like that why no keep your comments to yourself?

 

[garyl24]

and by the way, the parole board didnt screw you, you screwed yourself. you filed charges and this is what you got.

 

[OhBullship]

man alot of that is uncalled for. i agree that if she want to stay with a man that beats her she shouldnt come looking for help because no one feels sorry for her. and she needs to think about her daughter. but dude you have no right calling her daughter those names. hell if you have to talk to people like that why no keep your comments to yourself?

Read the reply more closely and it might make sense.

 

[JudgeNJury]

If You're Not From Texas - Don't Reply

People from other states just do not understand. He's a typical cowboy Texan right. Works hard all week, drinks lots of beer all night and becomes dim-witted and thick right? He has his drunken rights to punch you in the gut and slap you around and yell out dirty words because he's a Texan right? And you want him right?

Well, button-up your pie hole becuase this is what you want and you deserve the best, living in squalor in a used up trailer on some one else's land and getting knocked around while getting knocked up Right?

Go Texas rednecks! You folks have the best stories.

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

man alot of that is uncalled for. i agree that if she want to stay with a man that beats her she shouldnt come looking for help because no one feels sorry for her. and she needs to think about her daughter. but dude you have no right calling her daughter those names. hell if you have to talk to people like that why no keep your comments to yourself?

Would you rather it be sugar coated? It is reality.

 

[stealth2]

Oh Whaa. That Parole Board is just so mean that they don't want to risk you or your child being beaten up again. How dare they be so mean? And why on earth would they want to protect someone from their own stupidity. Or protect an innocent child from her parent's stupidity?

 

[AHA]

undefinedWhat is the name of your state? TEXAS

We need help. My husband has a stipulation om his parole now stating that we, he and I, are not to have ANY contact for the duration of his parole. As of Oct. 26th 2004, I filed assult charges on him in August then had them dropped. But the Parole Board put that stipulation on there, at that time I was 8mths pregnant with his child. Because of us not having contact with one another he was unable to witness his daughter being born. On January 19 2005 the sherifs office came and pickedhim up on a blue-warrent, failure to notify change os address. I did go see him several times until his Parole-Hearing 02-11-05, which at that time we were discussing getting married by Proxy. On February 11, 2005 at 10:30 am we were married, still are. But we need to know how can we get this stipulation dropped, and fast. Before they send him off, they are figuring rather back to TDC for the remainder of this time, 3 yrs, or to ISF for 90 days or 180 days. With this no contact thing I am unable to write to let him know how our daughter is doing, not able to send cards or pictures from her, nothing. Plus I can't take her to see him, and he is missing her real bad. He even asked a friend to tell me to figure out something fast before he go crazy. PLEASE HELP!!

I need to understand something. If he beat you while you were pregnant WITH HIS CHILD (ie he clearly has NO respect for you OR his own child) so severly that you had to call the cops on him, WHY WHY WHY are you so eager to get him out and give him the power to beat you again(probably even more easily now that you are not pregnant!) and risk your daughter's life? Doesn't she deserve a better future than that? As a mother that should be the number one priority, regardless of who made the kid with you. Who cares if he's missing her so badly he's going crazy. He lost her the second he laid a hand on you(her mother), and you need to keep that in mind, so that her life doesn't get ..when you could easily have prevented that. I don't care if he's Texan, Mexican, German or African, HE IS A DOG and vicious dogs should be kept locked up. If he has an alcohol problem he needs AA and most likely anger management treatment, no REAL man behaves like that. Please please please this is your one chance to save yourself and more importantly save your daughter, DON'T LET THIS CHANCE GO TO WASTE! And please don't add more kids into this very very messed up and unsafe family situation. Kid's deserve a chance at a decent future, not an uphill battle from the second they are born.

 

[You Are Guilty]

Poster - don't listen to all these people. They have no clue what they're talking about. I think you should make sure you do everything you can to get back with this guy - whatever it takes. Frankly, my taxes are high enough and every one of you lowlifes who gets killed and/or thrown in jail for life is less of a drain on the rest of us. So go for it!

 

[seniorjudge]

Would you rather it be sugar coated?

....Yes....

 

[OhBullship]

Seniorjudge, I understand that my message was offensive and I wasn't expecting it to bring a smile to the face of our readers. I knew the OP would not be able to ignore it though.

Posts like this leave me with the desire to pound my head against cement. Yes, she loves him and every other thing, but she is teaching her child that this is the way that normal humans relate.

We would not smack our young children, or tape their mouths shut. We would not name our daughter ..., the thought of it horrifies us. She is teaching her young child that it is her place in life and I hoped that by being so direct it might shock this woman into reality.

She doesn't want that for her daughter, no one would. Her options are to either let go of the relationship, let go of the child so the child has a shot in life, or she might as well teach these things outright so when the daughter does begin to have adult relationships at least she will be prepared for them.

If she doesn't want more for herself then at least she can do better by her child.

 

[amandawilliams]

Well Listen Here.................

IF I WOULD TYPED IT A LITTLE BIT BETTER THEN ALL OF YA WOULD HAVE KNOWN THAT HE NEVER LAYED A HAND ON ME!!!!! HE BUSTED OUT MY WINDSHEILD. MY MOTHER THREATENED ME WITH MY 5 YR OLD. SO I FILED CHARGES THEN HAD THEM DROPPED A FEW DAYS LATER!!!!!!!!!
THANK YOU
AMANDA WILLIAMS
AND I WILL NOT DUCT TAPE MY BABIES MOUTH SHUT NOR CHANGE HER NAME. THANK YOU

Seniorjudge, I understand that my message was offensive and I wasn't expecting it to bring a smile to the face of our readers. I knew the OP would not be able to ignore it though.

Posts like this leave me with the desire to pound my head against cement. Yes, she loves him and every other thing, but she is teaching her child that this is the way that normal humans relate.

We would not smack our young children, or tape their mouths shut. We would not name our daughter, the thought of it horrifies us. She is teaching her young child that it is her place in life and I hoped that by being so direct it might shock this woman into reality.

She doesn't want that for her daughter, no one would. Her options are to either let go of the relationship, let go of the child so the child has a shot in life, or she might as well teach these things outright so when the daughter does begin to have adult relationships at least she will be prepared for them.

If she doesn't want more for herself then at least she can do better by her child.

 

[AHA]

IF I WOULD TYPED IT A LITTLE BIT BETTER THEN ALL OF YA WOULD HAVE KNOWN THAT HE NEVER LAYED A HAND ON ME!!!!! HE BUSTED OUT MY WINDSHEILD. MY MOTHER THREATENED ME WITH MY 5 YR OLD. SO I FILED CHARGES THEN HAD THEM DROPPED A FEW DAYS LATER!!!!!!!!!
THANK YOU
AMANDA WILLIAMS
AND I WILL NOT DUCT TAPE MY BABIES MOUTH SHUT NOR CHANGE HER NAME. THANK YOU

Ever heard of a thing called "sarcasm"? Regardless of what a "man"(!!??) pounds on when he can't control his anger, if you have to call the police on him, then you are obviously not safe, but it's up to you to make or break your life and your kid's life. Enjoy