Turning 18, arears owed, can i get them instead of my parents?

[migente]

What is the name of your state? california

both my parents owe each other arrears for child support.. since I lived with my mom for 5 years, and my dad 5 years.. my dad owes my mom $28,000 and my mom owes my dad $15,000. My dad wants for him and my mom to put the money toward my college.. my mom wants her arrears for her...

am i intitle to that money, can i sue for that money or is it my parents?

josh almost 18 years of age... with two dead beat parent

 

[stealth2]

Nope - it's not your money. Never was, never will be. Your parents are the ones who paid for your expenses (Mom when Dad wasn't paying support, Dad when Mom wasn't), and you're not a party to that.

 

[TNBSMommy]

Good lord, people wonder why they get attitude when they ask questions. This question has been asked three times by three different people today. Stealth, Nextwife, Blonde Lebinese, Ldij, and BB have all answered this exact question, all three posts are on the first page. It isn't even about searching for an answer, it is about SCROLLING down ONE PAGE!!! Is that REALLY that hard for you people to do?? Anyway, just had to rant about that for a minute. Now I am done, carry on.

 

[Phnx02]

The unpaid child support was to take care of you and all your shelter, food, & clothing needs while growing up and still in your parent's care. Although CS is/was FOR YOU - it's not given to children directly because otherwise it would all be spent on video games - ya know!??!? It is paid to the parent to put a roof over your head and food in your mouth (and still buy you a video game or 2).


So even though you may not see it this way - that you think the money should come directly to you, it doesn't work this way. If your parents can agree to now put all this unpaid money towards your college - great!......it's still going to you - just in a different form. If not, try to see your mother's side.....she was "shortchanged" over the years when she didn't receive CS but still had to provide everything for you on her own (and your dad as well when she didn't pay him). I suspect what your mother is now saying/feeling: your dad still owes her a balance between what she didn't pay and what he didn't pay and she wants to be paid back the money she should have recieved years ago. I know it sounds trivial - because either way the money still goes to(wards) you....but if your mom and dad paid each other everything like they were supposed to in the previous years, then things would now "be even" between them and they could start with a clean slate as far as now paying for your college. They both seem to have good intentions....but dad is getting out of paying less than his half/fair share if you lay it out on the table like I described above.