Unjust alimony

[AmaRod44]

Florida. Hello,
I have a friend who I am trying to help. He is paying $4500 a month in alimony and child support. 3500 alimony/1000 child support. I watch as he slaves to work literally 80 hours a week as a cop to pay this. He works day and night. He has no money for himself and never sleeps. The time he does have is used to rush to see his daughter and pay for what she wants or needs then rush back home. His ex keeps yelling for more and uses the 14 year old as guilt to get him to give her more money. Two of the three kids are grown so there's just the 14 year old minor now. The ex has quit her job and just lives the high life while he is in and out of doctors and therapy for the stress after two years of this. They were married 20 years. She was a hairdresser so she hid all of her earnings when she was working.

He lives with his father because he can't afford to live on his own.

I am the mother of the 14 years old girls school friend. Me and my husband see the ex laughing about all of this and just saying that "he" will pay for everything. She has a boyfriend that takes her out. She is never home with the child and is always drinking or smoking. It's pathetic.

Is there anything we can do to help this guy? His pride gets in the way of helping himself.

 

[Zigner]

Florida. Hello,
I have a friend who I am trying to help. He is paying $4500 a month in alimony and child support. 3500 alimony/1000 child support. I watch as he slaves to work literally 80 hours a week as a cop to pay this. He works day and night. He has no money for himself and never sleeps. The time he does have is used to rush to see his daughter and pay for what she wants or needs then rush back home. His ex keeps yelling for more and uses the 14 year old as guilt to get him to give her more money. Two of the three kids are grown so there's just the 14 year old minor now. The ex has quit her job and just lives the high life while he is in and out of doctors and therapy for the stress after two years of this. They were married 20 years. She was a hairdresser so she hid all of her earnings when she was working.

He lives with his father because he can't afford to live on his own.

I am the mother of the 14 years old girls school friend. Me and my husband see the ex laughing about all of this and just saying that "he" will pay for everything. She has a boyfriend that takes her out. She is never home with the child and is always drinking or smoking. It's pathetic.

Is there anything we can do to help this guy? His pride gets in the way of helping himself.

Frankly, I'd suggest that you mind your own business. I'm sure your daughter's friend's dad doesn't want his dirty laundry aired to all by strangers.

 

[not2cleverRed]

Florida. Hello,
I have a friend who I am trying to help. He is paying $4500 a month in alimony and child support. 3500 alimony/1000 child support. I watch as he slaves to work literally 80 hours a week as a cop to pay this. He works day and night. He has no money for himself and never sleeps. The time he does have is used to rush to see his daughter and pay for what she wants or needs then rush back home. His ex keeps yelling for more and uses the 14 year old as guilt to get him to give her more money. Two of the three kids are grown so there's just the 14 year old minor now. The ex has quit her job and just lives the high life while he is in and out of doctors and therapy for the stress after two years of this. They were married 20 years. She was a hairdresser so she hid all of her earnings when she was working.

He lives with his father because he can't afford to live on his own.

I am the mother of the 14 years old girls school friend. Me and my husband see the ex laughing about all of this and just saying that "he" will pay for everything. She has a boyfriend that takes her out. She is never home with the child and is always drinking or smoking. It's pathetic.

Is there anything we can do to help this guy? His pride gets in the way of helping himself.

You could invite him to dinner at the house. Good excuse for your husband to barbeque.

Legally? Well, since you are not a legal party in this, pretty much nothing. I suppose you can take your kids college fund and offer to use it to pay for this guy's legal fees instead.

There's a reason why the alimony is so high; there is another side of this story

 

[Eekamouse]

Florida. Hello,
I have a friend who I am trying to help. He is paying $4500 a month in alimony and child support. 3500 alimony/1000 child support. I watch as he slaves to work literally 80 hours a week as a cop to pay this. He works day and night. He has no money for himself and never sleeps. The time he does have is used to rush to see his daughter and pay for what she wants or needs then rush back home. His ex keeps yelling for more and uses the 14 year old as guilt to get him to give her more money. Two of the three kids are grown so there's just the 14 year old minor now. The ex has quit her job and just lives the high life while he is in and out of doctors and therapy for the stress after two years of this. They were married 20 years. She was a hairdresser so she hid all of her earnings when she was working.

He lives with his father because he can't afford to live on his own.

I am the mother of the 14 years old girls school friend. Me and my husband see the ex laughing about all of this and just saying that "he" will pay for everything. She has a boyfriend that takes her out. She is never home with the child and is always drinking or smoking. It's pathetic.

Is there anything we can do to help this guy? His pride gets in the way of helping himself.

What in the world makes you think that this is any of your business? If anyone is pathetic, it's you. Worry about your own life and keep your nose out of other people's affairs. How would you like it if someone, not even an actual friend-just some nosy busybody mother of one of your kid's school friends, started airing your family business on the internet because they "so want to help you out."

 

[cbg]

No. Of course there is nothing you can do to help this guy.

Don't even imagine that you have all the facts here.

 

[Lovingfatherof2]

His pride gets in the way of helping himself.

His probably did it to himself, he most likely agreed to the amounts he pays because of some kind of misplaced pride.

 

[oliviasmom]

Did he have an attorney? My guess no. He needs to bring his paperwork and orders to one now. You very likely don't know the whole story