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mommyanme

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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NC

Ok the issue is this. I gave dad extra days near memorial weekend in 2011 because the way our schedule fell he didn't see S3 for nearly a month with Mother's day and how our weekends worked and one weekend he said he was sick. I was trying to be nice. Fast forward 2 years later and Dad is saying he's going to file contempt and change of custody if I don't let S3 stay extra time. Legally I don't think that just because I let it happen 1 time that he'll get far, but instead of asking the email was long and drawn out accusing and threatening legal action without knowing what my answer would be. But I had actually made plans to leave town and notified him more then 2 months ago about it, in writing. Am I correct in knowing he won't get far since his time runs from Fri to Mon. But the modification of time when this happens might be a possibility correct?

PS Yes I am considering taking the high ground and saying yes just to be fair and have no argument. I mean really what does it hurt, he can get long weekends out of town with His sibling and I anytime.
 


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single317dad

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mommyanme said:
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NC

Ok the issue is this. I gave dad extra days near memorial weekend in 2011 because the way our schedule fell he didn't see S3 for nearly a month with Mother's day and how our weekends worked and one weekend he said he was sick. I was trying to be nice. Fast forward 2 years later and Dad is saying he's going to file contempt and change of custody if I don't let S3 stay extra time. Legally I don't think that just because I let it happen 1 time that he'll get far, but instead of asking the email was long and drawn out accusing and threatening legal action without knowing what my answer would be. But I had actually made plans to leave town and notified him more then 2 months ago about it, in writing. Am I correct in knowing he won't get far since his time runs from Fri to Mon. But the modification of time when this happens might be a possibility correct?

PS Yes I am considering taking the high ground and saying yes just to be fair and have no argument. I mean really what does it hurt, he can get long weekends out of town with His sibling and I anytime.
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You are not required to give Dad any more time than the court order dictates. He'll have no basis for legal action if you stick strictly to the order.

If you consistently, over a long period of time, left the kids with Dad primarily then that could be considered status quo, but your past actions don''t even come close to resembling that.
 
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Silverplum

Senior Member
mommyanme said:
PS Yes I am considering taking the high ground and saying yes just to be fair and have no argument. I mean really what does it hurt, he can get long weekends out of town with His sibling and I anytime.
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*happy sigh*

I love your attitude!! :):):):):):):):):):) <--- possibly an unprecedented number of smilies from me!
 
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gam

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Silverplum said:
*happy sigh*

I love your attitude!! :):):):):):):):):):) <--- possibly an unprecedented number of smilies from me!
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I love her attitude also, I've loved her attitude from the first time she posted here, she hung in, took her lumps, answered the tough questions and SHE CAME BACK TO THE FORUM. Most put up a snotty pissy fit, carry on about all the lovely attitudes of the regular posters here and never come back.

I'm a big believer in taking the high road as much as possible. But I will point out to her that she gave dad extra time 2 years ago for this holiday weekend, and that dad now automatically expected her to give him that extra time again. So if she takes the high road again, then when it's his holiday weekend again in 2015, she better have it in her head to take the high road again and give him that extra time. She is setting a pattern on this same holiday weekend.

Somewhere in all of this dad is missing that mom is taking the high road and giving HIM EXTRA TIME that she does not have to give.
 
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mommyanme

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gam said:
I'm a big believer in taking the high road as much as possible. But I will point out to her that she gave dad extra time 2 years ago for this holiday weekend, and that dad now automatically expected her to give him that extra time again. So if she takes the high road again, then when it's his holiday weekend again in 2015, she better have it in her head to take the high road again and give him that extra time. She is setting a pattern on this same holiday weekend.

Somewhere in all of this dad is missing that mom is taking the high road and giving HIM EXTRA TIME that she does not have to give.
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I've considered that idea since you posted it and I thought about pointing that out to him, but it's lost words on deaf ears and with him, would be me itching for a rage if I did. So now I either resign myself to this every 2 years or take the punch in the gut from him now. It really is something I could assert control over but I just don't have the energy anymore after everything else Dad has put us through. So taking your words to heart, I'll resign myself to letting him have the extra day every other year if it happens that way. The words "That's Fine" are easier said then reading the nasty blast I'll get back and defending my decision with a lame reason, if I say No.

In the words of most the seniors here****************************.It's just not a hill to die on. Thanks for the help and 3rd party outlook on it :)
 
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