USCitizen vs Filipina:ChildSupport out of wedlock

[Anne13]

My babys Dad and I had an ongoing k1 visa, when we find out that he got me pregnant. We decided to wait for the visa and get married in the US. But along with the visa process it seems that his changing plans. I tried to ignore that since my pregnancy is critical. I am trying to consider the fact that this pregnancy caught him by surprise. Which is he shouldn't be. Baby arrived getting no support from him for the delivery of my baby, thank GOD I am blessed with a family whose always been there for me. My mom is the one who basically paid for all the expenses and hospitalization. I tried contacting him to acknowledge the birth certificate but he refuses. He came up with several excuse, and I decided to get back on my feet and support myself and the baby. Until one day he decided to end up with the accusations of me of having an affair, and that the baby is not his. And he even told me that I shouldn't try asking for support because he will never do it.

What he did was an insult to me being a woman. I was trying to resolve this issue on our end first before escalating such to lawyers or to any other degree. I've consulted some here in our country and I was told that if the father is not a citizen of our country, then he has no obligation to our son. This doesn't seem just and right that's why I wish to consult your expertise on this.He is in Pennsylvania He seemed to have escaped from the obligations and responsibilities he has for our baby. I've been communicating with him about this and he seemed not to cooperate well. He would always give excuses of low financial income and my being lenient has gone too far for him already. I need help.

 

[babymakesone]

**US law only**

 

[Zigner]

**US law only**

In this case, this may very well be US law related. It's a bit premature, but once the OP has a child support order in her home country, she would need to get it domesticated in the US in order to enforce it.

 

[Anne13]

I have gathered all documents, pictures, and letter from the US Embassy re: k1 visa application. I believe I could use these as a proof of our relationship. But I don't know whats the next step. I'm lost....

 

[Zigner]

I have gathered all documents, pictures, and letter from the US Embassy re: k1 visa application. I believe I could use these as a proof of our relationship. But I don't know whats the next step. I'm lost....

It sounds as if you are a resident of the Philippine Islands. As such, you would need to follow your country's process to obtain a child support order. From there, you can work towards having that order enforced in the US.

I believe that one of the biggest hurdles you will face is that you have no legal proof of the man being the father of your child.

EDIT: In the US, you have no legal proof. I cannot speak to Philippine law. You will need to consult with local legal counsel.

 

[Anne13]

Thanks for the advice! Gathering all this proofs was painful, reminds me how stupid I am. But **** happens. But I have no regrets I am blessed with a beautiful child. His 1 yr old now, and I think its time for me to eat my pride and fight for my babys rights. I guess I need a lawyer and alot prayers

 

[Proserpina]

Thanks for the advice! Gathering all this proofs was painful, reminds me how stupid I am. But **** happens. But I have no regrets I am blessed with a beautiful child. His 1 yr old now, and I think its time for me to eat my pride and fight for my babys rights. I guess I need a lawyer and alot prayers

Quick question, Anne.

Are you actually living in the Philippines? There's a reason why I'm asking

 

[Anne13]

Yes!I am....why?

 

[Proserpina]

Yes!I am....why?

Okay - then it's a non-issue.

Had you been living here in the US, I may have mentioned the original sponsorship forms included in the K1 package.

 

[Anne13]

I've never been in the US, I decided not to continue the K1 visa. About the forms yes he signed everything. I think he even created a letter requesting to speed up the process, so I can give birth in the US. But I dont know what to do /what are the steps?

 

[Antigone*]

I've never been in the US, I decided not to continue the K1 visa. About the forms yes he signed everything. I think he even created a letter requesting to speed up the process, so I can give birth in the US. But I dont know what to do /what are the steps?

K1 Visa or not, there is no proof he is the father of the child. Until you have proof of paternity, then you are limited in what you can do to affect him.

 

[Anne13]

His in the US when I gave birth, so babys birth certificate doesnt have his signature. But he made a letter that was included in our K1 visa application stating that I was pregnant with our child, and his requesting to the US embassy to speed up the process before my due date comes. Can I use that as a proof?

 

[OHRoadwarrior]

http://www.ncsea.org/

Try contacting them to assist you in obtaining proof of paternity.

 

[Anne13]

I already did, but they said they cannot help me unless I'm in the US

 

[Zigner]

I already did, but they said they cannot help me unless I'm in the US

What I told you before is still just as valid:
Consult with local legal counsel.

It sounds as if you are a resident of the Philippine Islands. As such, you would need to follow your country's process to obtain a child support order. From there, you can work towards having that order enforced in the US.

I believe that one of the biggest hurdles you will face is that you have no legal proof of the man being the father of your child.

EDIT: In the US, you have no legal proof. I cannot speak to Philippine law. You will need to consult with local legal counsel.