What is the name of your state? Oklahoma/California
I just have a simple question regarding visitation from state to state. When the Judge made gave his decision regarding custody, he stated that when our son goes fror visitation with his dad, it needs to be within a day or two of him getting out school, and be returned in time for him to "settle in, re-coup and readjust to the time zone difference". He said he didn't want to see the dad returning him the day before school because that was not reasonable, however, he never gave a specific amount of time. He basically was trying to make it reasonable for a 6 year old as well as allow my son's dad to get as much time with our son as possible, which I completely understand. I would imagine that only needs to be a couple days or so, but I'm in the middle of trying to schedule a return flight for my son, and my son's dad is insisting I make it on a Sunday before he starts school on Monday. That's not what the Judge said, but it apparently doesn't matter to my son's dad. Plus, our court order has taken over 3 months to get even close to being finalized. My ex's attorney is attempting to add in or take out many things the Judge either didn't say or did, but he doesn't like. So at this point, we don't even have a finalized order to go by, except the transcript of the Judge's ruling.
My question is, since there are many out there who have children going back and forth between two states, what is the norm for returning children from their visitation with the non-custodial parent? My goal isn't to take away time from my ex with our son at all, but is one day sooner too much to ask for our son's sake??? Or in the eyes of those thinking I'm trying to be a sneaky custodial parent, should my son just be lucky to have a chance to settle in or get any sleep before hopping right back into school??
I just have a simple question regarding visitation from state to state. When the Judge made gave his decision regarding custody, he stated that when our son goes fror visitation with his dad, it needs to be within a day or two of him getting out school, and be returned in time for him to "settle in, re-coup and readjust to the time zone difference". He said he didn't want to see the dad returning him the day before school because that was not reasonable, however, he never gave a specific amount of time. He basically was trying to make it reasonable for a 6 year old as well as allow my son's dad to get as much time with our son as possible, which I completely understand. I would imagine that only needs to be a couple days or so, but I'm in the middle of trying to schedule a return flight for my son, and my son's dad is insisting I make it on a Sunday before he starts school on Monday. That's not what the Judge said, but it apparently doesn't matter to my son's dad. Plus, our court order has taken over 3 months to get even close to being finalized. My ex's attorney is attempting to add in or take out many things the Judge either didn't say or did, but he doesn't like. So at this point, we don't even have a finalized order to go by, except the transcript of the Judge's ruling.
My question is, since there are many out there who have children going back and forth between two states, what is the norm for returning children from their visitation with the non-custodial parent? My goal isn't to take away time from my ex with our son at all, but is one day sooner too much to ask for our son's sake??? Or in the eyes of those thinking I'm trying to be a sneaky custodial parent, should my son just be lucky to have a chance to settle in or get any sleep before hopping right back into school??