visitation/transportaton issue

[tinam0308]

What is the name of your state?Illinois.
my daughter is 8 years old, and recently began visitation with her father, who she hasn't known for 7 1/2 years. Things were going good, and she immedaitely wanted to stay over, and even calls him "Dad." However, her father, changes the visits quite frequently, and wants me to drop her off to him, and pick her up. I was doing this at first, he didn't live very far away, but he has moved twice the distance. Isn't it the visiting parents responsibility to make arrangements for the transportation of the visits? How does this work. He lives with his sister, and Has no license due to a DUI. His sister has picked her up before, and I don't have a problem with that, However, she has suggested that he could pick my daughter up, knowing he has no driver's license. Which I will not allow.

 

[stealth2]

You don't need to do anything except follow the court order for visitation.

 

[tinam0308]

You don't need to do anything except follow the court order for visitation.

the order doesn't state anything about transportation. it does say every other weekend, and he changes the weekends. I can't even make plans with my daughter for the weekend I think he isn't going to have her, because he changes everything. And then he wants me to cater to him, by doing his job of picking her up. What's that? Annoying, and irresponsible!!!

 

[VeronicaGia]

the order doesn't state anything about transportation. it does say every other weekend, and he changes the weekends. I can't even make plans with my daughter for the weekend I think he isn't going to have her, because he changes everything. And then he wants me to cater to him, by doing his job of picking her up. What's that? Annoying, and irresponsible!!!

So simply don't change weekends with him. Tell him you are following the court order to the letter in that regard.

Personally, I believe since he moved, he has to do the transportation. If he doesn't have a driver's license then he'll have to ask someone else to do it. While you could be nice and help out once in a while, unless a judge orders you to do the driving, it's up to you. But keep in mind he could have a case for visitation denial that may or may not go anywhere.

The fact is your child needs both parents. Don't make the child suffer.

 

[tinam0308]

visitation/transportation issue...

the last time i spoke with the ncp, i told him, i don't want to argue about this, and we decided that he would have his sister pick her up on fridays, and i would pick her up on saturday from his home. Last weekend he wanted to switch the weekends due to a funeral, I, trying not to argue with him agreed. Now, I called to comfirm for this weekend and he stated he may be going out of town. He told to my daughter last weekend on the phone, he might take her roller staking "this" weekend. and now he doesn't know if he is even going to make the visitation. I am very tired of this switching around, and it seems NOTHING is for sure with him. I have to cancel my plans with my daughter, and family, so that he gets his visits when he wants. This is really getting to be a pain, can I go to court and have the visits made out more specific, and if he wants to change them this frequently do I have to do it. I don't want to stop them seeing each other, but can't he make up his mind. I understand that things come up, like a funeral, but this is crazy.