visitation

[lisars]

This question is,I guess, Part2 from a question I posted last week.It was about visitation transportation to and from my ex's on his weekends.Last summer I got remarried,and moved with the kids an hour and a half away from their father.Since it was summer vacation,I would drop the kids at my parents house(10 minutes from my ex)early on Fridays,so that they could spend a few hours with their grandparents, before he would pick them up.Now that they are both back in school,they get home too late to be able to spend that extra time with my mom&dad.Am I responsible for providing one way transportation to his house?When I told him that from now on, he's going to have to pick up and drop them off,he went off on me.Since I moved away,he feels I should be responsible for BOTH ways. A fact that he has neglected to mention for the last 7 months since we moved.Even back when I told him we were moving he didn't have any objections. Now, all of a sudden, he's full of them.Help!

 

[lisars]

oops!

I forgot, we all live in PA.

 

[LadyBlu]

Re: oops!

I forgot, we all live in PA.

Some courts do make it the parent that moves away responsibility to transport the children back and forth for visitation. You will need to petition the court for a modification of the visitation order to get it changed.

 

[lisars]

The problem, if you want to call it that, is that there is nothing through the courts.We only stated in our divorce agreement that I was to be the CP and there were no restrictions on were I could live with the kids.We ,perhaps stupidly,thought we could have a friendly(if there is such a thing) divorce.We wanted to keep the courts out of it as much as possible.I'm beginning to regret that now.He's started his mid life crisis at 32 and has joined a band.So when he has to play out, he wants me to switch weekends around to accomodate his schedule. But any deviation on my part,is only met with hostility and accusations of wanting more CS.He's making me crazy,and I'm almost to the point of telling him,"Fine,let's let a judge decide everything we don't seem able to agree on." But,I know he won't want to do that because he's paying less for two kids that what I've been told is state min. for one child. And I don't want the money to become an issue,because my new husband supports these two as if they were his own.All of the CS I receive,goes straight into their savings accounts.Any ideas or suggestions out there? I need to find the least confrontational way to present this to him.He gets defensive easily, and thought me to be irrational and demanding.How can I get through to him?HELP!

 

[MySonsMom]

I would suggest splitting the transporation half and half. Pretty fair to me.