And it's a bigger turn off to see someone posting as someone OTHER than himself or herself.
Her first post was posted as if she was DAD. If she had said, "Hey. I'm married to a man who has a 15 year old daughter who doesn't want to visit and he is wondering what his rights are," I would have answered differently. Honesty is always nice.
Honestly? WHen I read the question I paid no attention to her NAME. I was just looking to answer the question. As a long time poster here, I can tell you that your so called "standard answer" is NOT a standard answer for most of the "oldies".
Quite frankly I don't have any idea if YOU are a mommy or not, and I don't really care-I for example I am not japanese poetry either. We have NO idea who most of the posters here, even long term ones really are. I have posted here many years and can tell you that we have had long time posters go off the deep end and turn out to not be who they really are.
Arguing over "who" is asking the question mucks up the board, and makes it hard to find REAL answers. Give the real answer first, and THEN if the poster screws up or is a jerk, then you can get all in their face, until then, I think its more important to just give an answer. I don't want to wade through 3 pages of calling someone a blowup doll to get legal advice.
In the end as far as the OP goes, I was less interested in the fact it was a stepmom than I was in the fact this question is one that gets asked ad nauseum...