want to move from NV to CO with children

[rebeccaapq]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?
I currently live in Nevada and would like to move to Colorado with my children for many reasons. I have two boys, 6 and 8. I have primary custody and joint legal custody. They see their dad on Sundays and Mondays. I would like to move to Colorado, but am a teacher and would only move if I were able to get another teaching job. We have no family here; our closest family is my father, in Colorado. I have no desire to raise my children in Las Vegas, with the crowded schools and the highest dropout rate in the nation. My main reason is that college is only ten years off, and Nevada has basically two colleges, UNLV and Reno. I'm not impressed with UNLV at all and know little about Reno, other than it's 9 hours away from us. Colorado has at least 10 4 year colleges. As a teacher, I know I won't be able to afford out of state tuition, and I would like to move with my boys before they are in middle school. Their father won't give me his permission to move.

I would like to know what my chances are that the court would approve this move and approximately how much it would cost me. I don't want to apply for a job and get letters of reference and possibly hired if it turns out there's no way I can go.

Thanks for your input!

 

[karma1]

No one can tell you what a judge might do....

but I do know of several situations, here in Las Vegas, where a parent asked the court to move away--one just right over the border to Utah...

the moving parents incurred all transportation costs, and in one case, the NCP actually had visitation times increased....odd, but it happened.

THere are lots of colleges in this area and I would think that is a weak arguement for moving.

Drop out rates cannot soley be attributed to the education system--and I would think that is a weak arguement too...

You are employed now, obviously---as a teacher--which makes me wonder (and this is unrelated to the parental move-away)---why not become a part of the solution to the drop out problem-(as a parent and a role model to your students?) just curious on that one...

You want to move to be closer to your own father?
what about the kids father?

JMO

 

[rebeccaapq]

I'm not particularly concerned about the dropout rate, but I think it reflects the education problems in Nevada. I disagree about their being many colleges here. I'm not saying the kids shouldn't see their dad. They should; I just feel that the quality of life here isn't great, and it could be so much better. I want to be near my father because he can help me maintain a home. Otherwise, I have to hire someone for pretty much anything. My ex won't help at all. My boys could see their dad over the summer and over their school breaks. I don't have a problem with that. The point is not to take them away from him, but I don't want to be stuck here when I have no support here at all. I could ask to move all the way back to Wisconsin, where we both have tons of family, but that is really far. He can drive to CO to see the kids in a day; it's a 10 hour drive to where I want to go.

Thanks for the reply.

 

[juke]

Maybe it's a 10 hour drive in dry weather...but you DO know that CO gets a lot of snow in the winter, don't you? And that it lands on the roads, making them icy and slippery, thus causing delays?

And why on earth would your ex maintain your home for you?

 

[stealth2]

We have no family here; our closest family is my father, in Colorado.

Well, no. YOU may have no family in NV. Your children DO. Their father.

As for college.... perhaps you haven't heard, but there are very cool things known as scholarships. Kids who excel in a wide variety of areas can actually get money for school! To make up a shortfall, they can take out loans! Or *gasp* - work their way through college! Isn't that amazing? And even more so - hundreds of thousands of people have actually done so to get college degrees!

Seriously - if your ex objects to this move, it's unlikely to happen. You've yet to present any compelling argument that it would be better for your boys to be moved from their father.

 

[SOOStressed Out]

Same Boat

Ok, there are many people on here who have conflicting opinions on this matter...I can relate to this subject on so many levels, it isn't even funny.

As a child who grew up in Las Vegas, first of all, I say, yes, it is a VERY good idea to try and relocate. I hated Vegas, and back when I was there, we had the highest pregnancy rate in the NATION. Not good. I was there from the time I was 9 until I was 16 years old. Almost none of my friends went to college and few even graduated high school. I also can relate because it was my mother and I who lived there, and my father lived in CA. I had no problem with being that far away from my Dad. It was just a way of life. I have lived in Arizona and California. These people think that it has this devistating affect on the kids make me laugh. Kids are happy when they have a good home life and when they have a good relationship with both parents. What makes it difficult is when the parents are at each other's throats and they can't just be respectful of each others lives, etc.

Now as an adult I am faced with the same thing. I want a better quality of life for my son and I. His Dad contributes VERY minimal, yet he will be the first to try and stop me if I want to move out of state. I don't want to take my son from his Dad AT ALL. But I will NEVER own a home or even a condo here in CA. A tiny junky condo starts at $350,000 here and homes that are basically NOTHING start at 500,000. Who can afford that? My ex can, but the $300 child support he gives me doesn't cover a whole lot. Are we supposed to suffer because HE wants to see my son every other weekend for 6 hours, and no overnight visits? This is less than 2% time! He is able to remodel his entire beautiful home, and look for investment property while we eat dirt?

 

[stealth2]

Gee - you picked a winner, didn't you?

 

[SOOStressed Out]

Gee - you picked a winner, didn't you?

Yeah...dont I wish I could turn back the clock!