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What is "Shared Parental Responsibility" really

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clomicka

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What is the name of your state?Fl
Background:
We have been to mediation when daughter was 5 to more definitively outline the visitation schedule. Custoday was not reversed due to previous agreement. Father originally gave mother primary with no fight because child was a breast fed baby and he felt baby was better off having more time with mother. Obviously, the bio mother (primary residential parent)and father (secondary residential parent) do not communicate well.

As far as bio father is concerned, there is no shared parental responsibility. Father can not render any opinion in the child's well being. We only get called if their is a dire emergency. When the child's school grades fall, or detentions, absences from school, activities, etc...bio father is never notified. BF finds out from the child when she "visits" with our family. I say visit because that is what her bio mother calls it.

Bio Mother has our daughter (from an astranged relationship), a son from her first marriage (ended in divorce) child arrangement is joint custody. Her current husband was single and now they are expecting their first child in June. Our daughter is very unhappy with the situation, she is 14 1/2 and wants to live with Bio Dad. We just helped her get into a magnet high school, which mother did not wish for her to go. She showed interest in the arts program and asked to audition. Mother tried to stop her, but she really wanted to go; she made it into program but mother is trying to stop her from going. The school is closer to bio dad's house.

Child has had neck problems while she was with bio father during the holidays; bio father always contacts mom upon any "event" which warrants both parent's attention. We sent all doctor information. Mother refused to take her and pay for dr since dr was not part of her insurance plan $5 co-pay. Both parents have child covered because mother refused to give bio father insurance card because it had her SS# on it. Child needs additional visits, mom won't let step-mother take her.

Daughter needs help in school. Step-mother is a certified math teacher and has offered to pick up daughter from school one extra day and bring her home by 6pm (2 hrs) and mom won't let her. She has forbid step-mother from spending any time with child. Bio mother's new husband can do anything and spend all the time he wants with daughter. She has been tardy and absent (skipping) school this year because she is hanging with new crowd of people. Mom helps daughter meet with these individuals and doesn't know they smoke dope and skip school. She doesn't ask the right questions. Dad and step mom have good relationship with daughter. During TV pgm about teens and sex, daughter said she wanted to live with bio Dad and step mom because she knew mother was promiscuous at age 14 and she wants to grow up and have a healthy sexual relationship trying to abstain until she finds the right guy.

Bio mother is 4 months from delivering new child and doesn't have a room for the new baby? We believe they are planning to do a rigged garage room for our daughter. Our daughter is always saying they have no money and will cry about it. By the way, we pay over $550 a month in child support. She has her own room with bio father.

If mother continues to hang up on father, block emails, fails to accept mailed correspondence and does NOT allow father to participate in decisions (MAJOR) ones that affect the child's life, can we get an attorney to help us reverse custody allowing the child to succeed at her new high school and live a normal life? She wants to live with dad, her school is suffering, she may not have a livable room in FL (without proper build out, bugs will be in her garage room), and we can not help her with school and extra ciricular activities on regular basis do to time restraints. Bio mom has never involved her in any nor paid for any extra ciricular events. Father has involved child in gymnastics, ballet, acting, music, etc with one day a week visits and every other weekend. She can never become good at anything because mom refuses to participate after we invite her to help.

Also, what does liberal visitation mean? Can't we have an extra day like to help daughter with math; mom is not able to and leaves house too early to get her to school for teacher tutoring at school. Her grades have dropped from honor roll "a's" to "c's and border line d's".

HELP Please.....
Steve
 



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