What to do now?

[hopelessinil]

What is the name of your state? Il and the custodial parent has moved to ind

Ok just got a strange phone call from the ex's sister and mother. I am on summer vaction with our kids and they just called and said not to take the kids back to the my ex wife. If I didnt want custody they were going to take them from her.

I am confused? They have no rights to do so? Right? If I keep them I get introuble also, Right?

 

[CourtClerk]

This post is so unbelievably vague it's ridiculous.

Yes, you must return the kids unless a court intervenes. No, they have no standing to take the children from her.

 

[hopelessinil]

I do apologize for that!

The phone call was vague also I do apologize for that but I was blown away. They said something about an old boyfriend was staying with her. And that our kids were to not go back there at all that they did not need to be around him at all. I am not sure what that meant for sure without speculating. But they said he was the reason for her last psych ward stay and move. But they left out too much for me to have any legal standing to keep our kids from her. Right?

 

[CourtClerk]

You have NO legal standing to keep the kids from her and neither do her family. That they don't like the boyfriend will NEVER hold up in court. They don't even have a say as to what happens to the kids.... at. all.

Enjoy your vacation. Return the kids upon the termination of your parenting time.

 

[hopelessinil]

Thank you so much!!

 

[LdiJ]

The phone call was vague also I do apologize for that but I was blown away. They said something about an old boyfriend was staying with her. And that our kids were to not go back there at all that they did not need to be around him at all. I am not sure what that meant for sure without speculating. But they said he was the reason for her last psych ward stay and move. But they left out too much for me to have any legal standing to keep our kids from her. Right?

I think that you need to call them back and try to get them to be specific. Tell them that you can't legally refuse to return the kids and that they legally can't take them from mom. Tell them that if you have grounds to try for emergency orders that might be a possibility, but not without more information and specific facts.

My guess if that if mom's own family is willing to suggest that its not safe for you to return the kids, that there is at least some possibility that it isn't. However you can't just up and not return them, you have to take it to court and you can't do that based on nothing more than a vague warning from mom's family.

 

[hopelessinil]

Thank you for your advice!

Thanks I am going to do that now!

 

[stealth2]

And they said**************

 

[hopelessinil]

My ex mother in law just returned my phone call!! She would not be completely specify but said that when my ex was with her boyfriend, the last time, there was meth involved, physical violence against my ex and my oldest child. That was why her family moved her to indiana to get her away from him.

I told them it was all heresay unless they wanted to testify or produce me documentation. I would gladly use it after hearing my son was slammed against against the wall by him.

 

[LdiJ]

My ex mother in law just returned my phone call!! She would not be completely specify but said that when my ex was with her boyfriend, the last time, there was meth involved, physical violence against my ex and my oldest child. That was why her family moved her to indiana to get her away from him.

I told them it was all heresay unless they wanted to testify or produce me documentation. I would gladly use it after hearing my son was slammed against against the wall by him.

Is there any chance that mom does NOT have the boyfriend there voluntarily?

 

[hopelessinil]

hopelessinil

No my ex told me they were back together before I picked up the children. I did not realize there was ever a problem before but I think alot is kept from me.

 

[CourtClerk]

And how was your son slammed against the wall by him and other acts of violence between him and your son and you not know about it at the time it was occurring?

 

[fairisfair]

Is there any chance that mom does NOT have the boyfriend there voluntarily?

what??? you mean she has been KIDNAPPED???

 

[fairisfair]

And how was your son slammed against the wall by him and other acts of violence between him and your son and you not know about it at the time it was occurring?

I was wondering the same thing.....

have you asked your son what happened?

 

[CourtClerk]

I was wondering the same thing.....

Yeah, especially since grand-mama apparently had the information back then. She's willing to put her nose where it doesn't belong now, why not say something to someone who can do something about it WHEN IT'S HAPPENING??? Imagine, her daughter's boyfriend is ABUSING her grandson and she says nothing. He comes back into the picture and he's the anti-christ. Sounds to me more like she doesn't like boyfriend and will do anything to make daughter leave him, including threatening her with her kids. Call me a skeptic, but something stinks about this whole thing (and not on the OP's part).

have you asked your son what happened?

And if it did happen, why he didn't tell you about it sooner? Time to open up a dialogue with your boy about being able to tell you anything, anytime without fear. That you are there to protect him, but you can only do that if you tell him.