When does summer visitation start?

[cmptrtechswife]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? California

My husband and I have different opinions on when summer visitation of his 3 children should start per his court order.

Here are the facts and all opinions would be appreciated.

Regular weekend visitation starts Friday at 3 PM if there is school and noon if no school until Monday at the start of school or noon if no school. The last day of school is this Thursday and gets out at 1:25. Friday would be our normal visitation weekend.

Three Day Weekends = Whichever parent has physical custody of the children for that weekend, keep the children for the extra holiday weekend day (whether it be a Friday or Monday Holiday).

Three day weekends shall include Martin Luther King Jr. Day, Presidents’ Day, Memorial Day, Labor Day, Veteran’s Day and all other additional school holidays.

And just recently the mediators recommended the following that was adopted as part of the court order.

Summer vacation time to be split between mother and father. With father getting the first week of summer. Visitation time to be from Sunday at 6 PM to Sunday at 6 PM - one week with father and one week with mother.

- So with that said, when does our visitation actual begin?

 

[stealth2]

Summer vacation time to be split between mother and father. With father getting the first week of summer. Visitation time to be from Sunday at 6 PM to Sunday at 6 PM - one week with father and one week with mother.

- So with that said, when does our visitation actual begin?

This seems pretty clear to me! The Sunday following the last day of school, Dad gets the kid(s) at 6pm for a week. Then Mom has the kids for a week. Then Dad. And so on and so forth with exchanges occuring at 6pm on Sundays. What's to have differing opinions about?

 

[cmptrtechswife]

That makes sense for the summer visitation but in your opinion do we give up our regular schedule weekend which is this Friday at noon since there is no school?

 

[stealth2]

I would say yes. Summer visitation supercedes regular visitation.

 

[cmptrtechswife]

I understand where you are coming from on this. However, your opinion is now the third (3) on this subject.

Husband says he sees it that he can get them on Thursday since it is the last day of school and Friday in essence would be considered a 'holiday' since there is no school.

I do not agree (and apparently neither does the ex) because I would think our time would start Friday at noon and run until the following Sunday since that would be our first week with them.

So...I am more confused then ever...

 

[stealth2]

Summer vacation begins on Thursday. Therefore, summer visitation begins on Sunday. There is no "regular" weekend once summer vacation begins.

 

[abstract99]

My husband and I have different opinions on when summer visitation of his 3 children should start per his court order.

Are these your kids? You should really just let mom and dad figure it out. When step-parents try to step in it only gets more complicated. It is hard enough for 2 adults to agree let alone 3.

 

[haiku]

(Abstract, I don't think its that big a deal to attempt to interpret an order, in her home,that affects HER home, with HER husband. If she were directly doing that with HIS ex, then it might be a different story)

the summer visitation supercedes the regular weekend visitation during schooltime.

when school is over, summer visitation begins. your husband gets the first full school vacation week starting that sunday.

The week school is back in session you will resume the regular weekend schedule.

 

[abstract99]

(Abstract, I don't think its that big a deal to attempt to interpret an order, in her home,that affects HER home, with HER husband. If she were directly doing that with HIS ex, then it might be a different story)

the summer visitation supercedes the regular weekend visitation during schooltime.

when school is over, summer visitation begins. your husband gets the first full school vacation week starting that sunday.

The week school is back in session you will resume the regular weekend schedule.

No my point is that I have enough of a hard time dealing with aranging thigs with my ex. If I also had to deal with my wife arguing with me it would complicate things. If she is looking for legal clarity that is one thing but if mom and dad can come to a different agreement then she should really stay out of it.

 

[Ron1347]

First of all, at least in 'this' particular instance, step mom can't stay out of it, and even with her trying to help matters get clarified I happen to believe she does need to help get her 'husbands' debate cleared up.

As far as hubby's interpretation...it's like the others have said..."Hubby is misinterpreting the wording of the order. He is incorrect in his assumption"! Sorry...like it or not...he gets the kids on 'Sunday, 6 p.m.', and just because there is no school on a given day does not exactly qualify that day as a legally recognized 'Holiday', as in the true definition!

 

[haiku]

No my point is that I have enough of a hard time dealing with aranging thigs with my ex. If I also had to deal with my wife arguing with me it would complicate things. If she is looking for legal clarity that is one thing but if mom and dad can come to a different agreement then she should really stay out of it.

She didn't say if the ex was consulted for her interpretation yet. I see her as trying to be helpful here.

And in my house, my husband discusses everything with me, before he discusses it with his ex. I am his wife afterall. Its important to him that I know whats going on in my house because he has to live with me. Kinda like in this case, even though they are both wrong-

"honey, schools out this thursday, so I get to pick up the kids on thursday. Is this alright with you?" "Umm Hon, I think per the court order, you have to wait till friday, right?" "really? let me see it." "lets see what free advice has to say!" and so on.... nobody has even asked the ex, her opinion yet.

And now they know that those of us here are saying its Sunday, so now her husband can call the ex and say he is getting them on Sunday, and know that his end is square.

 

[cmptrtechswife]

First of all, I want to thank everyone for their opinions, thoughts and ideas on the matter.

To answer the question of why I do not stay out of this since it is not my matter. I would have to say that my husband and I have 3 sets of children that go in 3 different directions for a total of 7 kids. So, maybe that will clear some things up for you.

Now for a confusion - since I did not have the court order here with me when I wrote the above, I took another look at it and this is what it says:

In the mediation report that was adopted as a court order states:

During summer vacation, the father shall have the children on alternate weeks from Sunday evening at 6 PM until the following Sunday at 6 PM.

However, where I got the first week was we asked for it in court when the report was adopted to cut down on confusion. Apparently I did not ask for enough clarification.

I am sure that none of these new facts changes anything, but I had to ask...

 

[stealth2]

Doesn't change a thing.

 

[cmptrtechswife]

I did not think so...but would never known for sure if I had not asked.

Thank you very much!

 

[LdiJ]

First of all, I want to thank everyone for their opinions, thoughts and ideas on the matter.

To answer the question of why I do not stay out of this since it is not my matter. I would have to say that my husband and I have 3 sets of children that go in 3 different directions for a total of 7 kids. So, maybe that will clear some things up for you.

Now for a confusion - since I did not have the court order here with me when I wrote the above, I took another look at it and this is what it says:

In the mediation report that was adopted as a court order states:

During summer vacation, the father shall have the children on alternate weeks from Sunday evening at 6 PM until the following Sunday at 6 PM.

However, where I got the first week was we asked for it in court when the report was adopted to cut down on confusion. Apparently I did not ask for enough clarification.

I am sure that none of these new facts changes anything, but I had to ask...

It doesn't change anything. Summer vacation starts on the day that school lets out. The order states that his time is Sunday to Sunday, every other week. The regular weekend visitation has ended until the next school year starts. He gets the kids on Sunday. There is absolutely nothing to interpret here. Its crystal clear.