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Yet Another Question About Inmate Divorce

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Halobear

Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? South Carolina and Georgia

This is just a general question as I am trying to get a little information for a family member (my husband's uncle) who is looking to divorce from prison. So of course if you can't answer my questions directly, could I get a point in the direction of who he should be asking?

Here's my main question: he was a resident of South Carolina at the time of his arrest. The reason he was picked up was for a warrant that was outstanding in Georgia from 11 years ago, was working in Georgia at the time of his arrest (commuting to work Monday-Thursday and coming home), and so was extradited back to the county in Georgia that he was originally arrested in in 1997. So is he considered a resident of South Carolina still, or is he now a resident of Georgia? I ask this so that when I write to him, he'll have a time frame of how long he'll have to wait for this divorce. He will only serve a few months, but if he's a resident of Georgia now the divorce may come through before he's done serving. Does he need to be a resident of Georgia for 6 months before he can file, or does being in prison have any kind of bearing on this?

There is a minor child involved, but paternity has not been established and he does not care if she is biologically his or not. He loves her and has been involved since her birth, and actual paternity has never mattered to him at all. Will a paternity test be required? Most likely, she will give up custody of the child, as this is her habit when the divorces start happening. I'm not going to attack her character, but she has 5 children by 3 different men, and the only one that she physically has custody of at this time is the one I am referring to. I'm guessing the answer to this question will be yes, since we're talking about who will wind up with custody here. Usually, when pressure is applied to her she gives up the children without much of a fight. Again, just trying to get information that I can include when I send him this letter I'm about to write him about the in forma pauperis divorce.

He made some stupid choices in his life before this child was born. He was arrested for possession of a controlled substance in a no tolerance county 11 years ago. This had nothing to do with a "violent" crime at all. He was picked up because he thought he had finished paying his restitution but had not, and a bench warrant was issued. I know she will try and make his life a living hell when she finds out the papers are filed, so I'd like to be able to let him know if he'll be able to get this over with now while he's still in there, which would probably be the easiest way to keep the peace.

If you need any other details, I'll tell you what I know. As I said, this is just generalized questions aimed to give him some ideas. He's a trustee in the prison now and has access to some resource materials and has more phone time than others, so maybe he can get the ball started now. Thanks in advance for your replies.
 


LdiJ

Senior Member
Personally, I would either help him hire an attorney or advise him to wait until he gets out, since he is only serving a few months.

No judge is going to even remotely entertain giving him custody if he is still in prison.
 

Halobear

Junior Member
That's fine, I wasn't asking just yet about the custody...I know he's going to have to wait until he gets out to deal with that. He'll probably wind up with custody anyway. As far as the wife is concerned, she uses the kids as a tool to keep the men around until the divorce is done, then she has no use for them anymore and usually gives them up to the fathers. This tactic has worked on my uncle for nearly 10 years now. They've been separated several times, for months each time; but when she threatened him with never seeing his little girl again, he'd go running back. But that's not the issue.

I appreciate your advice for me to tell him to wait until he gets out, I am just trying to find if there's any way to do this with as little conflict as possible. He's been in already for nearly 3 months. She has not called him, written to him, or made any inkling that she cares at all. He already knew she was selfish, but kept hoping she would change...I think the fact that she hasn't contacted him since he's been in there was finally the straw that broke the camel's back.

I was asking because if he could file while he was in jail, she's not going to travel 5 hours to see him and harrass him in person and can't do it by phone. She is a very confrontational person, very nasty and hostile. She will say anything, and I mean ANYTHING, in the heat of an argument. He's thought about divorce many times before but her "extracurricular" life has kept him broke. He felt his only alternative was to go back and keep putting up with it for the sake of his daughter. They usually wind up moving from place to place at least twice a year, he has no property to speak of and is sick of it. He's 40 years old, has nearly worked himself to death trying to get his head above water, and as he puts it, "doesn't have a damn thing to show for it."

He wants his life back and would like to have things in order when he gets out.
 

mistoffolees

Senior Member
Any other advice I can get on this please? Thank you!

IMHO, you already got the relevant answer. There's no way in the world he can plausibly request custody while he's in prison. He could file for divorce while in prison, but then he'd have to file for a change in custody after he gets out which is not a sure thing at all. He's better off waiting until he gets out.

Use the time to research divorce issues in his state to help make the process go smoothly after he's out. Also, use the time to do whatever he can to prepare himself for re-entering the real world.
 

Halobear

Junior Member
Not Asking About Custody!

I realize that he isn't going to get custody right now...but if you'd read in my first post, I said in the first paragraph that my MAIN question is about residency. Since he is a ward of the state, does this trump the 6 month residency rule?

Also, she has moved since he's been in jail and has not told him where she moved to, has not communicated with him at all. Can this be considered abandonment? And can the fact that he doesn't know where his daughter is be considered kidnapping?

Thank you!
 

LdiJ

Senior Member
I realize that he isn't going to get custody right now...but if you'd read in my first post, I said in the first paragraph that my MAIN question is about residency. Since he is a ward of the state, does this trump the 6 month residency rule?

Also, she has moved since he's been in jail and has not told him where she moved to, has not communicated with him at all. Can this be considered abandonment? And can the fact that he doesn't know where his daughter is be considered kidnapping?

Thank you!

No, neither abandonment nor kidnapping even remotely applies in this case.
 

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