Problems with Bio Mom

[Peanuts200788]

So what should I do, just stand back and let my husband deal with her yelling antics and threating to take me to court because she says I'm overstepping. I will do just that but I know the problem will persist because I'm his wife now and she's not

Quit overstepping and he wont have this problem!!! The solution is simple....you just don't want to see it...

Your hubby and this woman had sex...created a child...it's THEIRS not yours...let THEM take care of it...support your husband, but as far as calling the child yours?! BACK OFF!!!

 

[ErinGoBragh]

So what should I do, just stand back and let my husband deal with her yelling antics and threating to take me to court because she says I'm overstepping.

Yes, you should step back.

Yes, you are overstepping!!!

I will do just that but I know the problem will persist because I'm his wife now and she's not

Wish I could believe you but I don't. You won't step back because you're so jealous (and yes, you ARE the one married to the poor man- so give the jealously a break!) and you'll destroy your marriage with him to try to have things your way in the end, if I'm betting right.

You have NO right to listen to their phone conversations.

You have NO right to parent THEIR child.

And let things go their course with him and her without your interference.

You are creating an environment their child, and your husband, will probably end up hating you for creating.

 

[stepmom4ever]

My husband is okay with me listening on phone calls, infact, he inititated it because he knows how she can start yelling on the phone about things. He wants me to be around for pick up and drop offs.

 

[ErinGoBragh]

I do this because I think she wants my husband back (they were never married).

My husband is okay with me listening on phone calls, infact, he inititated it because he knows how she can start yelling on the phone about things. He wants me to be around for pick up and drop offs.

Which reason is it, because your husband wants you to listen or because you think she's after your hubby?

Oh quick, time for her to scramble to get her story straight!

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

My husband is okay with me listening on phone calls, infact, he inititated it because he knows how she can start yelling on the phone about things. He wants me to be around for pick up and drop offs.

Your husband might be okay with your actions, but the mother of the child is NOT. Therefore, unless you want to find yourselves in court (and you in the hallway), BACK OFF.

I am dealing with someone who reminds me of you and let me tell you, I can make mincemeat of the situation. YOU have NO rights. Once you get it thru your head, then it MIGHT improve.

 

[proudwifey]

Maybe I missed something here

Is there even a court ordered visitation schedule between the FATHER and MOTHER? If not, he should go to court to get one. Otherwise, she could easily turn and say no more visits until an order is established.
And if the subject of YOU gets brought up at court, then HE can explain to the judge why you seem to need to hold his hand every step of the way. DAD is a big boy, and MOM is a big girl. Let THEM take care of THEIR family business

 

[stepmom4ever]

Your husband might be okay with your actions, but the mother of the child is NOT. Therefore, unless you want to find yourselves in court (and you in the hallway), BACK OFF.

I am dealing with someone who reminds me of you and let me tell you, I can make mincemeat of the situation. YOU have NO rights. Once you get it thru your head, then it MIGHT improve.

I understand what you are saying and yes we went to court and I was not allowed in the courtroom per her request. However, I'm not going anywhere as far as being his wife. I will try to back off but she will have to accept the fact that he's married now

 

[ErinGoBragh]

GA Law on Eavesdropping:

2-13 (1) Any person in a clandestine manner intentionally to
2-14 overhear, transmit, or record or attempt to overhear,
2-15 transmit, or record the private conversation of another
2-16 which shall originate in any private place;

3- 3 (4) Any person intentionally and secretly to intercept
3- 4 by the use of any device, instrument, or apparatus the
3- 5 contents of a message sent by telephone, telegraph,
3- 6 letter, or by any other means of private communication;

Just out of curiosity.. I doubt it, but if mom didn't know exes wifey was listening at first, could wifey be thrown in jail under either code?

 

[profmum]

I'm truely not posing mom as a bi**h. But I'm his wife and I'm gonna be a part of this childs life with my husband. Why is it wrong to be involved. I'm not trying to take the mother out of the picture.

You can be involved as a SMUM, but you are overinvolved and trying to take Mum's place, that is unforgivable, Mum has every right to request what she did wit Dad about interaction.. Listening on the phone.. what manipulative, controlling behavior STEPMUM!

 

[ErinGoBragh]

stepmom4ever, you don't TRY to back off. You just DO it.

A simple concept for most people, but not you, it seems.

 

[Zephyr]

I have read what you said and I apologize for offending you. It's just that I believe in a two parent home.

what does that have to do with this child that you have no legal relationship with????

 

[Zephyr]

So what should I do, just stand back and let my husband deal with her yelling antics and threating to take me to court because she says I'm overstepping. I will do just that but I know the problem will persist because I'm his wife now and she's not

mmmm...ever thought that if you weren't overstepping, she might stop yelling about taking you to court for doing so????


here's your sign.....sheesh

 

[ErinGoBragh]

"have read what you said and I apologize for offending you. It's just that I believe in a two parent home."
He has two parents.

His father, and his mother.

His mother NOT being you.

 

[stepmom4ever]

what does that have to do with this child that you have no legal relationship with????

It's just my beliefs, thats all. I'm not trying to offend anyone

 

[majomom1]

I understand what you are saying and yes we went to court and I was not allowed in the courtroom per her request. However, I'm not going anywhere as far as being his wife. I will try to back off but she will have to accept the fact that he's married now

And she is not going anywhere either... she is Mom.

Chances are very good that SHE will be around longer than you, if you keep this up. I so hate the phrase "she needs to accept... blah blah blah" YOU need to accept that fact that she is Mom and Dad needs to deal with her on his own.

It is so simple... YOU stay off the phone and YOU stay away from pickup/drop off... there is no more conflict. Mom has no say what happens when Dad gets back to your house.