Interfering w/ Custody

[stepmom04]

By geez...Lets burn our bras.

I've read your "advice" on other posts. Your not helpful..you are rude and sarcastic in every response.

Speaking of periods..sounds like someone is on there's right now.

Didn't say a dad couldn't do it, just said I'd do it for him.

 

[Silverplum]

By geez...Lets burn our bras.

That's tacky.

I've read your "advice" on other posts. Your not helpful..you are rude and sarcastic in every response.

That was tacky, too.
Also quite untrue.

Speaking of periods..sounds like someone is on there's right now.

You know so much about me!

Didn't say a dad couldn't do it, just said I'd do it for him.

That's not what you said.

For Pete's sake, we all know what you wrote. We can read. Own your statement. Live it. Enjoy your backwoods world.

 

[Humusluvr]

Though I'm no expert, I've taking many classes in stepparenting.

You have??? Give me the name and course number.

 

[stepmom04]

95% of your post and the posts before are "tacky" as you love to say.

Are you offended that I'm from Arkansas....Yes it's in the south, but we have liberated. Thank you.

 

[stepmom04]

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[StampGirl]

Oh yes..every father wants to explain to there daughter about their period. THere are certain things a woman needs to do. Just like there are some things a father needs to explain to their son.

Get over yourself.

BACK THAT TRUCK UP HONEY.

It just so happens that our oldest daughter was at her dad's house for the weekend. She had a test the following Monday. It was in none other than that wonderful sex ed class they make 7th graders take. He sat down with her and reveiwed EVERYTHING with her so she was prepared for the test. Was either of them embarrased? Maybe at first. BUT they both muddled through it TOGETHER. WHY? BECAUSE they are father and daughter. DID the stepmom get invovled??? NO. WHY? BECAUSE for once she respected her boundaries. Doesn't happen often but damnit I give it to her on that one.

 

[StampGirl]

By geez...Lets burn our bras.

I've read your "advice" on other posts. Your not helpful..you are rude and sarcastic in every response.

Speaking of periods..sounds like someone is on there's right now.

Didn't say a dad couldn't do it, just said I'd do it for him.

How nice of you. Do you hold his thingy when he pees too? Let the man grow up for heavens sake.

 

[Humusluvr]

DID the stepmom get invovled??? NO. WHY? BECAUSE for once she respected her boundaries. .

I think that is why 90% of the people are here. They just don't know where the boundaries are. They get all emotional and feeling like they deserve a cookie or whatever, and then want to start changing people's names to mom or dad.

Its nice that a new hubby is nice to the child. Does that make him "dad?" NO!!!!!!! He is a great "step dad."

Its all about communication, setting limits, and respecting boundaries.

 

[Humusluvr]

How nice of you. Do you hold his thingy when he pees too? Let the man grow up for heavens sake.

Oh goodness. What a mental picture

 

[stepmom04]

Well that's great that he did that. There is nothing wrong with it. And there is nothing wrong with the dad teaching about the period. I know my boundaries. 4 years ago, after a month of not seeing her kids a cracked out mom called me *Me!!!* and said that I'm so glad you have stepped in to be my kids "mother". On about 20 times since then...she has said that to me. Should a child be robbed of opportunites that other children there ages have...just cause they don't have a mom that cares.

Have you thought of who the kids would ask about a situation like that? I know...my stepdaughter would ask me. She would ask me, not her "real" mother. Face the facts...sometimes stepparent/daughter have a closer relationship than the natural parents. I just happens. Nothing that is forced upon, it just happens.

When I married my husband, I married him that we can work things out together in everything in our lives. Which happens to be his children from another woman. Yes he is capable of doing it himselfs, but we are a team and that makes a good marriage. To work as teams.

My daughter would have this taught by her mother.....why should my stepdaughter have it taught by someone that she thinks of as her mother.

 

[StampGirl]

I think that is why 90% of the people are here. They just don't know where the boundaries are. They get all emotional and feeling like they deserve a cookie or whatever, and then want to start changing people's names to mom or dad.

Its nice that a new hubby is nice to the child. Does that make him "dad?" NO!!!!!!! He is a great "step dad."

Its all about communication, setting limits, and respecting boundaries.

Exactly. As I have said many times to my Ex....Tell your wife to back the heck up because she didn't sleep with you and create these children. As much as she wants to THINK she did, last time I checked MY name was on the birth certificate along with his. NOT HERS.

 

[Humusluvr]

Well that's great that he did that. There is nothing wrong with it. And there is nothing wrong with the dad teaching about the period. I know my boundaries. 4 years ago, after a month of not seeing her kids a cracked out mom called me *Me!!!* and said that I'm so glad you have stepped in to be my kids "mother". On about 20 times since then...she has said that to me. Should a child be robbed of opportunites that other children there ages have...just cause they don't have a mom that cares.

Have you thought of who the kids would ask about a situation like that? I know...my stepdaughter would ask me. She would ask me, not her "real" mother. Face the facts...sometimes stepparent/daughter have a closer relationship than the natural parents. I just happens. Nothing that is forced upon, it just happens.

When I married my husband, I married him that we can work things out together in everything in our lives. Which happens to be his children from another woman. Yes he is capable of doing it himselfs, but we are a team and that makes a good marriage. To work as teams.

My daughter would have this taught by her mother.....why should my stepdaughter have it taught by someone that she thinks of as her mother.

Well, all that's about to change if mom gets her wishes in court, now isn't it?

Doesn't sound like you're singing the same tune as you were when you began this thread.

 

[stepmom04]

Do you have custody of your child? Do you see your child?

I get what you are saying. If I got to be a normal stepparent...I'd be less likely to be so "involved". Unfortunately....the real mom is pretty much non existing...expect when convenient to her. Which unfortunately isn't as convenient than children need.

 

[stepmom04]

What tune am I singing different?

My tune is the same. For some reason it went from my original post to periods.

Bottom line...her allegations were lies and will be founded lies.

Oh please...even if the court gave her the children...they'd be home in 5 minutes. She won't even get them on her court appointed times...why would she keep them. *I also have her on the recorded conversation that she doesn't want the children....that was something her lawyer wanted her to do.

 

[StampGirl]

Well, all that's about to change if mom gets her wishes in court, now isn't it?

Doesn't sound like you're singing the same tune as you were when you began this thread.

Yeah no kidding eh?

Heck I don't like the flakey weird things my stepson's mom does. I don't even understand it LOL Do I critizise or comment etc? NO. My husband is able to handle that. Does he get involved in my issues with the girls dad? NO. Like I said, he would be CRAZY heck I don't even want to be involved in that mess LOL

Yeah well his stepmom says how glad she is that I "accept" her son as my own blah blah blah. Thats nice. THanks. I appreciate it, I do. However, it doesn't change the stance I have: I am the stepmom, not his Mom. I don't step on her toes, nor do I get close to them. I don't communicate with her regarding HER son, thats what his DAD is for.

Figure out what your role is and stay there. DONT cross lines its confusing.