Transportation Issue

[CJane]

And CP is trying to work with Mom by allowing flexibility with the CO visitation schedule. If he was making Mom follow the letter of order, he would be able to meet half-way on that date.

What you've quoted isn't actually me, btw.

But you're right, IF Dad was making mom adhere to the order, he WOULD be able to meet her in Mobile on the designated date. But he's not. And he's free to decide to follow the order to the letter NOW. But he won't.

However, Dad's being nice doesn't change the fact that if the order is silent, NO ONE is in contempt, and NO ONE has ground rules to follow. And to continue to fight about it is silly.

 

[starting over]

Sorry CJane, I didn't mean to misquote. I still haven't gotten it down to a science.

The only point I was trying to make based on 2M's post, was if Mom did take it to court trying to cite contempt, especially with the emails she has sent, that Mom "flipped-out" by someone not meeting her & the fact of the matter is, technically its not even ORDERED that she have them at that time. Dad is trying to be nice.

I do agreee though, Dad would make everyones life easier by just driving to Pensacola, or Mobile (depending on Mom's mood at the time) as he said he would, and picking up the kids without fuss. Then proceeding with the Modification, then it will no longer be an issue.

 

[2Mistakes]

Actually if 2M really wanted to be a d*ck, no one would have been meeting mom anywhere for the last year and a half, because mom wouldn't have been getting the kids those weekends, as they weren't court ordered.

I'm not sure that the default in MY state is that if an order is silent, the parents split travel, at least not in a situation where 1 parent created the distance and the other parent is still in the same place. I can't find anything either for or against.

If I have to go to Pensacola and get the kids, so be it. I will do so.

And hopefully when we finally get into court for this mod the judge will agree that she should have to do the traveling.

I already said that even if the judge does make her responsible for all travel, me (or the wife) will still meet her 1/2 way when possible.

I'm really not trying to be a d*ck here.

And yes, we were both stupid. Neither of us thought to put anything in the order about travel. Neither did the attorney who handled the stip for us.

Live and learn.

 

[TheGeekess]

Actually if 2M really wanted to be a d*ck, no one would have been meeting mom anywhere for the last year and a half, because mom wouldn't have been getting the kids those weekends, as they weren't court ordered.

I'm not sure that the default in MY state is that if an order is silent, the parents split travel, at least not in a situation where 1 parent created the distance and the other parent is still in the same place. I can't find anything either for or against.

If I have to go to Pensacola and get the kids, so be it. I will do so.

And hopefully when we finally get into court for this mod the judge will agree that she should have to do the traveling.

I already said that even if the judge does make her responsible for all travel, me (or the wife) will still meet her 1/2 way when possible.

I'm really not trying to be a d*ck here.

And yes, we were both stupid. Neither of us thought to put anything in the order about travel. Neither did the attorney who handled the stip for us.

Live and learn.

And when you get to Pensacola, invite Mom to go shark fishing. As the bait.

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

If you are going for a mod, I would stipulate that the half-way point on driving is only up to xxx miles. Otherwise, she might think that Orlando would be cool! (well, maybe not in the summer.)

I would stipulate the distance for an airport, etc.

 

[2Mistakes]

If you are going for a mod, I would stipulate that the half-way point on driving is only up to xxx miles. Otherwise, she might think that Orlando would be cool! (well, maybe not in the summer.)

I would stipulate the distance for an airport, etc.

Your ex is the idjit with the ridiculous airports and flight times, isn't he?

Yeah, that will need to be addressed, as she frequently lives in MI. I could just see her saying that I have to take the kids to Miami airport because they have the cheapest flights.

 

[TheGeekess]

Your ex is the idjit with the ridiculous airports and flight times, isn't he?

Yeah, that will need to be addressed, as she frequently lives in MI. I could just see her saying that I have to take the kids to Miami airport because they have the cheapest flights.

I'd bet Hotlanta has cheaper flights than Miami. Then you and the Mrs could come by and visit the pocket farm!

 

[2Mistakes]

I'd bet Hotlanta has cheaper flights than Miami. Then you and the Mrs could come by and visit the pocket farm!

Woo HOO!!! Road trip!

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Your ex is the idjit with the ridiculous airports and flight times, isn't he?

Yeah, that will need to be addressed, as she frequently lives in MI. I could just see her saying that I have to take the kids to Miami airport because they have the cheapest flights.

oh yeppers. THAT is why **I** am flying up tomorrow. I look forward to the court date.

He wrote a second letter to FOC. He said that **I** exagerated our arrival home on that Monday. We wouldn't be home at 2:30 am - nope, we should be home by 1:30 at the latest. Nothing like a delay on the outbound to have us home at 2:26 AM. So, FOC send ANOTHER letter saying:

1:30 am, 2:30 am - NEITHER are acceptable.

so, 2M, learn by my mistake in NOT having a well defined transportation plan, k'?

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Woo HOO!!! Road trip!

Well, I have relatives NW of Atlanta ... could I swing by too?

 

[2Mistakes]

oh yeppers. THAT is why **I** am flying up tomorrow. I look forward to the court date.

He wrote a second letter to FOC. He said that **I** exagerated our arrival home on that Monday. We wouldn't be home at 2:30 am - nope, we should be home by 1:30 at the latest. Nothing like a delay on the outbound to have us home at 2:26 AM. So, FOC send ANOTHER letter saying:

1:30 am, 2:30 am - NEITHER are acceptable.

so, 2M, learn by my mistake in NOT having a well defined transportation plan, k'?

You got it Tinks. And thank you for the words of wisdom.

Please post tomorrow and let us know what happens, ok?

 

[TheGeekess]

Well, I have relatives NW of Atlanta ... could I swing by too?

Positively!

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

You got it Tinks. And thank you for the words of wisdom.

Please post tomorrow and let us know what happens, ok?

Court isn't till 4pm on Thursday. Afterwards, I'll be meeting friends to celebrate another zero birthday and hopefully will be celebrating that I got my change in court order.

Believe you me, I'll be telling y'all the details.

As for you, well. I wish you and your wife the best. May the X cool down by the time Friday shows up.

 

[penelope10]

I still vote for post #5 as the all time best answer

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Pen, I don't think ex-wifey poo like it much though.

I personally thought it was a great post.