Buried my nephew yesterday

[Indiana Filer]

I was just notified by Mom that she was contacted by the Highway Patrol today. They are coming tomorrow morning re: a homicide investigation. Mom attempted to contact her attorney, but was unable to. She is concerned that maybe she shouldn't speak with the officers tomorrow.

She needs to speak to the police. They're trying to get the full picture of what happened in the accident.

Mom has surprised me with her reaction with all of this, although I feel that she is correct in the way she feels. She does not want this other child prosecuted in her son's death.

She is entitled to feel that way, but the choice is not her's to make. It will be up to the prosecutor. Mom can certainly express her views on this, and the prosecutor should take that into consideration. If there was a crime committed, however, the prosecutor may choose to take action.

Her view is, one child is already lost.....there is nothing anyone can do to change that. It is senseless for another child to have his life ruined.

Yeah, well, this adult (not child) caused a life to be lost. It was his actions that led to that loss of life. There are consequences to those actions.

If this child survives, he will have to deal with the guilt in what has happened.

And I've seen people, who caused wrecks that took lives, continue to party, drive wrecklessly, etc. This guilt may not last long.

Jail or any other punishments are not necessary.

That's up to the Court, not mom.

Prior to the accident, the other child was enlisting in the Military.

If this person takes his punishment like an adult and learn from these experiences, he can still go on to have a successful life. He won't be going into the military, I'd bet.

Does anyone have any advice for Mom?

She needs to talk to the police so that the prosecutor can determine what actions are necessary.

 

[Antigone*]

Starting Over,

Remember I told you this hit very close to home. Well let me tell you what happened to my 17-year old daughter last year.

She was coming home from work at 3pm on Memorial Day. A green Honda Civic with two young me zipped from the third land to the right lane where my daughter was traveling. They hit her car, she tried to avoid the collission and her vehicle rolled. They took off. A car tried to follow but they zipped in and out of lanes. The good samaritan couldn't get close enough to get the plate.

One year later my daughter lies in a vegitative state, with no hope for a productive life. I wish the CHP could have found the person who did this to my little girl because you know what ~ they WILL do it again. They had to have seen her roll, they felt the crash of metal upon metal.

Tell your mom to let the police to their job. They may find that this young man was reckless and the DA may file charges, then again maybe not. It isn't for your mom to decide. It is her obligation to share what she knows, so the right action can be taken.

Again, I am sorry for your loss. In cases like these, nobody wins.

 

[Just Blue]

Starting Over,

Remember I told you this hit very close to home. Well let me tell you what happened to my 17-year old daughter last year.

She was coming home from work at 3pm on Memorial Day. A green Honda Civic with two young me zipped from the third land to the right lane where my daughter was traveling. They hit her car, she tried to avoid the collission and her vehicle rolled. They took off. A car tried to follow but they zipped in and out of lanes. The good samaritan couldn't get close enough to get the plate.

One year later my daughter lies in a vegitative state, with no hope for a productive life. I wish the CHP could have found the person who did this to my little girl because you know what ~ they WILL do it again. They had to have seen her roll, they felt the crash of metal upon metal.

Tell your mom to let the police to their job. They may find that this young man was reckless and the DA may file charges, then again maybe not. It isn't for your mom to decide. It is her obligation to share what she knows, so the right action can be taken.

Again, I am sorry for your loss. In cases like these, nobody wins.

Oh Sweetie...I am so sorry!!!

 

[Antigone*]

Oh Sweetie...I am so sorry!!!

Sorry for this short hijack Starting Over

Thanks Blue ~ We are hanging in there. Everday I am able give her a kiss is a blessing!!!

 

[starting over]

She needs to speak to the police. They're trying to get the full picture of what happened in the accident.

I told Mom that as well, I just wanted to check for other opinons since I am not a Lawyer. I told Mom that they would want to know if there was any other history, what their demeanors were that day before they left (the accident occured about 4 miles from Mom's house)

She is entitled to feel that way, but the choice is not her's to make. It will be up to the prosecutor. Mom can certainly express her views on this, and the prosecutor should take that into consideration. If there was a crime committed, however, the prosecutor may choose to take action.

I told Mom this as well, and she understands that the State may still file charges. Especially if they have discovered any drugs or anything of that nature in his system. Although, I do understand that she is not wanting an eye for an eye, for this I think it takes great strength.


Yeah, well, this adult (not child) caused a life to be lost. It was his actions that led to that loss of life. There are consequences to those actions.

Yes, this I know. We have lost a piece of our family. Although he was legally an adult, in my opinion he was still just a boy. I have a son that is 17 1/2 and even though he will be 18 soon, he is still a child (although not legally) He still has alot of growing up to do, just as these other 2 boys did.


And I've seen people, who caused wrecks that took lives, continue to party, drive wrecklessly, etc. This guilt may not last long.

You may very well be correct on this, I hope not.....but, it wouldn't surprise me either.


That's up to the Court, not mom.

I agree, although she will express her wishes.

If this person takes his punishment like an adult and learn from these experiences, he can still go on to have a successful life. He won't be going into the military, I'd bet.


No, I don't believe he will either.....at this point, they are not sure he will survive. If he does, he has very extensive injuries to overcome.....some of which may be life altering.

She needs to talk to the police so that the prosecutor can determine what actions are necessary.

I will let her know again. I told her that I post to this board & I respect all of the opinions expressed on here.

Sorry, I have never learned to quote someone like you have, so I tried my best

 

[starting over]

Starting Over,

Remember I told you this hit very close to home. Well let me tell you what happened to my 17-year old daughter last year.

She was coming home from work at 3pm on Memorial Day. A green Honda Civic with two young me zipped from the third land to the right lane where my daughter was traveling. They hit her car, she tried to avoid the collission and her vehicle rolled. They took off. A car tried to follow but they zipped in and out of lanes. The good samaritan couldn't get close enough to get the plate.

One year later my daughter lies in a vegitative state, with no hope for a productive life. I wish the CHP could have found the person who did this to my little girl because you know what ~ they WILL do it again. They had to have seen her roll, they felt the crash of metal upon metal.

Tell your mom to let the police to their job. They may find that this young man was reckless and the DA may file charges, then again maybe not. It isn't for your mom to decide. It is her obligation to share what she knows, so the right action can be taken.

Again, I am sorry for your loss. In cases like these, nobody wins.

First of all Thank you for the condolences you expressed in your first post, I apologize for not responding earlier.

Thank you for sharing your story, I can't imagine that was easy for you. I am so sorry to hear that your family has suffered as well. After reading your post, I am at a loss for words. I couldn't imagine not knowing who could be so wreckless and uncaring. Yes, they would have had to have known what they did. I hope one day your family will have answers.

In a way, even though our family has lost this boy....we are relieved that he is not suffering physically like the driver may if he recovers.

I do understand that the Police have a job to do, and I do want them to do it. If they discover that the driver had drugs/alcohol in his system that may have been a contributing factor....I just don't know how I will feel.

I am proud of Mom that she is not letting her emotions rule her right now, if that makes sense. All of our lives, she has NEVER thought about anyone else but herself. This is the first time I have ever witnessed her taking another persons feelings into consideration. I am really impressed by her trying to "think" things through given her loss

 

[abaga]

PIP is different than coverage for injuries to someone else should they sue. PIP is for medical benefits to cover medical expenses. People also have coverage to protect them in case of lawsuits. For instance, I have 250,000 per person/500,000 per accident...so, if there are 10 people in my car and I have an accident (just a number...I wouldn't transport that many people as my car only seats 5 at the most), the most it would pay out is 500K.

I was just notified by Mom that she was contacted by the Highway Patrol today. They are coming tomorrow morning re: a homicide investigation. Mom attempted to contact her attorney, but was unable to. She is concerned that maybe she shouldn't speak with the officers tomorrow.

Mom has surprised me with her reaction with all of this, although I feel that she is correct in the way she feels. She does not want this other child prosecuted in her son's death. Her view is, one child is already lost.....there is nothing anyone can do to change that. It is senseless for another child to have his life ruined. If this child survives, he will have to deal with the guilt in what has happened. Jail or any other punishments are not necessary. Prior to the accident, the other child was enlisting in the Military.

With regard to the insurance I posted about before, according to the attorney, there was no PIP coverage on his policy and therefore no monies will be available. Just as well, at least she won't have to fight with Dad.

Does anyone have any advice for Mom? Thanks in advance.

 

[starting over]

PIP is different than coverage for injuries to someone else should they sue. PIP is for medical benefits to cover medical expenses. People also have coverage to protect them in case of lawsuits. For instance, I have 250,000 per person/500,000 per accident...so, if there are 10 people in my car and I have an accident (just a number...I wouldn't transport that many people as my car only seats 5 at the most), the most it would pay out is 500K.

That is interesting information, I just spoke with Mom and told her. She has requested that I contact the attorney Monday for clarification. Thanks for the insight.

 

[abaga]

That is interesting information, I just spoke with Mom and told her. She has requested that I contact the attorney Monday for clarification. Thanks for the insight.

The attorney can get a copy of the declaration page which shows how much coverage the driver had at the time of the accident.

Good luck. I am so sorry for your loss!

 

[xylene]

Just for the record, a homicide investigation means an investigation into an unnatural death, not necessarily a prosecution.