Bonus Check question

[cookiek]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
New Hampshire


In my divorce in 2000 I was granted a weekly alimony plus a 30% piece of my x=husbands bonus checks. I receive my alimony every week but only received my bonus checks 3 times since 2000. My x=husband informed me back then, that the company he works for no longer gives bonus checks due to the economy. Is there any way I can be sure that he is still no longer receiving these bonus checks without hiring a lawyer again?

 

[jumac]

easy way i can think of would be to call his company and ask. Worst thing that would happen is they say they can't tell you.

 

[cookiek]

I already did call his company ..they said they would need a lawyer to call to find this out..Can't really afford a lawyer right now..
Thanks

 

[CourtClerk]

The man is already paying you your alimony every week.... let him have SOMETHING to himself. Let it alone, it'll cost you more to find out, than what it's probably worth anyway. I can think of a few ways for you to get your own bonuses if you want them.

 

[Zigner]

The man is already paying you your alimony every week.... let him have SOMETHING to himself. Let it alone, it'll cost you more to find out, than what it's probably worth anyway. I can think of a few ways for you to get your own bonuses if you want them.

I have to disagree. If the OP has an agreement, signed off by the judge, then why should she NOT seek out what is due? If he is concealing his bonus checks, the court may very well order HIM to pay the costs involved in tracking it down.

 

[CJane]

I have to disagree. If the OP has an agreement, signed off by the judge, then why should she NOT seek out what is due? If he is concealing his bonus checks, the court may very well order HIM to pay the costs involved in tracking it down.

I agree.

I don't LIKE alimony, think it's a REALLY bad idea for the payor AND the payee because it creates/furthers/encourages dependency...

BUT, if it's in the order and he's not paying it, I don't see why she should just take his word for it that he's no longer getting the money.

That said, I can't believe she can't afford to pay an attorney to draft a letter/make a phone call.

 

[nextwife]

Does he work for a publicly traded company? You might look their at their annual reports to see if there are any comments about witholding bonuses.

 

[cookiek]

Yes..he works for GoodYear.
It was a 30 year marriage and he was unfaithful twice! The first time he cheated he left me and moved in with her for 4 years..begged for forgiveness, I took him back. After 5 years he was at it again with a different lady..so you see...I AM entitled to alimony and all else that was granted to me. We married very young and had 3 kids together and I was very mistreated for many years but stuck by him and probably never would have left if it wasn't for his cheating. I just want what I am entitled to..you know the old saying "Wanna play, you gotta pay"??

 

[nextwife]

Yes..he works for GoodYear.
It was a 30 year marriage and he was unfaithful twice! The first time he cheated he left me and moved in with her for 4 years..begged for forgiveness, I took him back. After 5 years he was at it again with a different lady..so you see...I AM entitled to alimony and all else that was granted to me. We married very young and had 3 kids together and I was very mistreated for many years but stuck by him and probably never would have left if it wasn't for his cheating. I just want what I am entitled to..you know the old saying "Wanna play, you gotta pay"??

Actually, alimony is NOT a consolation prize for being cheated on. If it were, all those guys whose wives cheated would be GETTING alimony, rather than paying it.

 

[gr8rn]

The company I work for stopped paying bonuses 2 years ago due to the economy. I would venture to bet that he is telling the truth. There can't be too many companies doing that well that they still pay bonuses.

I do hope you are doing something to support yourself and not just living on what you get from him??

 

[nextwife]

The company I work for stopped paying bonuses 2 years ago due to the economy. I would venture to bet that he is telling the truth. There can't be too many companies doing that well that they still pay bonuses.

I do hope you are doing something to support yourself and not just living on what you get from him??

Yup. Both my husband and I are earning LESS than two years ago. But we are happy to be still employed.

 

[stealth2]

Heck - our company stopped giving increases across the board about 18 mos ago. We have been told that, due to a pretty good year, they will bring raises and some benefits that were cut back. I don't know of many companies that have been giving pay raises OR bonuses over the past year+.

However, I agree that, if it is in the order, it is something you are entitled to. Not because he cheated, though. You CHOSE to stick by him despite being mistreated - you don't get a prize for making a foolish choice.