funnybabyboy200
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Pennsylvania
Hello.
I have done a lot of digging around since my last post. I've been reading info on custody, co-parenting, etc. I have also spent some time looking at criminal backgrounds of my ex & my son's paternal grandma.
I think I have made the right decision to not allow grandma to have alone time with my son. She has an extensive criminal background, from unlawful restraint, possession of controlled substances with intent to deliver/manufacture, many DUI's, prostitution, etc. She's a peach. The most recent infraction was in 2006. She's 60 years old. She has a substantial alcohol problem. There have been several incidents that I was present for that included her calling my ex "to say goodbye", and we would go to her apartment to find her laying on the floor, in her underwear, or naked, unconscious & extremely drunk, with her house torn apart & pills scattered around. It's crazy.
Is it possible to limit or exclude her from having alone time with my 2 year old based on that kind of stuff?
I have also spoken to my ex's ex-wife. He did the same things to her (filed false PFA's, filed for custody of their children using Forma Pauperis). She agreed to testify on my behalf during the custody hearing. He has called children services on her 7 times in the past 7 years, saying things like she hits the kids with bats, but knows not to leave marks, she is on drugs, etc. He had a CYS case opened in 2007 that I wasn't aware of until quite some time later. He choked his son, & beat his other 2 children with a belt. They were ages 13, 10, & 9 at the time. She told me how he beat her on a weekly basis after being out drinking. Most of this is documented in the single PFA she filed against him. He choked her so badly she couldn't speak, and punched her in the face until her eyes were swollen shut.
He did physically abuse me, but not to that extent. He pushed me down the stairs, breaking 2 of my ribs. I have the hospital report, however, I didn't tell the Dr. I was pushed, I told him I fell. His middle son, 12 at the time, witnessed it, however. That same day he hit me in the face, cutting my lip open & causing swelling. I have pictures.
There were also some other minor incidents. While picking my son up from his father's house, my phone rang, & I didn't answer it. I could tell he was going to do something, & I started to move farther away from him. He tackled me & smacked my head against a radiator until I gave him the phone. My son, 1.5 years at the time, saw the whole thing.
I know all of this sounds pretty crazy, but I never called the police. So does it even mean anything that he did this stuff? I mean, I could make any old thing up. Will it help that his ex-wife is going to testify to his physical and emotional abuse, and she has actual evidence to back it up? He threw her out on the front porch naked, and the neighbors called the police. She never went back after that. She also has the PFA, which was adjudicated (sp).
I will never let him touch me again. His ex-wife went through so much more than I did. She told me horrible, horrible stories. And he told me a slightly different version of events that didn't involve him beating her, so I believe her. She told me that she would do anything she can to help me, that he's just plain crazy.
What do you think will happen? Is he going to get any sort of custody? Is it possible that he might NOT get visitation?
The judge assigned to my case is the same judge that had their custody case. He gave my ex 50/50 physical & legal custodyin their case. They switched every week. And the violence was apparent at that time, she had filed a PFA about a year before the custody petition was filed. Is it possible that the violence wasn't brought up in their custody case?
I know I have a lot of questions. You guys have been extremely helpful to me, and it really helps me sleep at night. Thanks in advance.
Hello.
I have done a lot of digging around since my last post. I've been reading info on custody, co-parenting, etc. I have also spent some time looking at criminal backgrounds of my ex & my son's paternal grandma.
I think I have made the right decision to not allow grandma to have alone time with my son. She has an extensive criminal background, from unlawful restraint, possession of controlled substances with intent to deliver/manufacture, many DUI's, prostitution, etc. She's a peach. The most recent infraction was in 2006. She's 60 years old. She has a substantial alcohol problem. There have been several incidents that I was present for that included her calling my ex "to say goodbye", and we would go to her apartment to find her laying on the floor, in her underwear, or naked, unconscious & extremely drunk, with her house torn apart & pills scattered around. It's crazy.
Is it possible to limit or exclude her from having alone time with my 2 year old based on that kind of stuff?
I have also spoken to my ex's ex-wife. He did the same things to her (filed false PFA's, filed for custody of their children using Forma Pauperis). She agreed to testify on my behalf during the custody hearing. He has called children services on her 7 times in the past 7 years, saying things like she hits the kids with bats, but knows not to leave marks, she is on drugs, etc. He had a CYS case opened in 2007 that I wasn't aware of until quite some time later. He choked his son, & beat his other 2 children with a belt. They were ages 13, 10, & 9 at the time. She told me how he beat her on a weekly basis after being out drinking. Most of this is documented in the single PFA she filed against him. He choked her so badly she couldn't speak, and punched her in the face until her eyes were swollen shut.
He did physically abuse me, but not to that extent. He pushed me down the stairs, breaking 2 of my ribs. I have the hospital report, however, I didn't tell the Dr. I was pushed, I told him I fell. His middle son, 12 at the time, witnessed it, however. That same day he hit me in the face, cutting my lip open & causing swelling. I have pictures.
There were also some other minor incidents. While picking my son up from his father's house, my phone rang, & I didn't answer it. I could tell he was going to do something, & I started to move farther away from him. He tackled me & smacked my head against a radiator until I gave him the phone. My son, 1.5 years at the time, saw the whole thing.
I know all of this sounds pretty crazy, but I never called the police. So does it even mean anything that he did this stuff? I mean, I could make any old thing up. Will it help that his ex-wife is going to testify to his physical and emotional abuse, and she has actual evidence to back it up? He threw her out on the front porch naked, and the neighbors called the police. She never went back after that. She also has the PFA, which was adjudicated (sp).
I will never let him touch me again. His ex-wife went through so much more than I did. She told me horrible, horrible stories. And he told me a slightly different version of events that didn't involve him beating her, so I believe her. She told me that she would do anything she can to help me, that he's just plain crazy.
What do you think will happen? Is he going to get any sort of custody? Is it possible that he might NOT get visitation?
The judge assigned to my case is the same judge that had their custody case. He gave my ex 50/50 physical & legal custodyin their case. They switched every week. And the violence was apparent at that time, she had filed a PFA about a year before the custody petition was filed. Is it possible that the violence wasn't brought up in their custody case?
I know I have a lot of questions. You guys have been extremely helpful to me, and it really helps me sleep at night. Thanks in advance.
