Moving with child

[childrenRpeople]

Thanks for the support.
I should clarify. I will still be polite and ALWAYS coparent with him because that's best for our son.
But I will not trust him personally. We had established a level of friendliness and affection and mutual interest in one another's well-being (so I thought). Nothing romantic. It will just be hard to regain that. Maybe possible in time. But not for a long time.
I feel sad that was ruined. I know my son appreciated it.

 

[childrenRpeople]

Yes, me too. My mistake was not getting his approval in writing and filed with the court. Agreed.Which is why I will not trust my ex's word again. We discussed every step of the move from the idea to the area, to the house search, to making a deposit, to entering escrow....everything. I sent him info about the school district, the schools to research. He's not been left in the dark. He gave me his verbal support all along...but still, my bad. I should have gotten it in writing.
Even his daily school pick-ups of our son aren't in writing. I just verbally told him to go ahead and do it.

I can even understand him changing his mind. But the fact that he did it at the 11th hour and did all the talk of wanting to ruin me and my family and told me he HATED all of us (right in front of our 10 year old, mind you) tells me to be cautious from now on. Everything has to be in writing and filed with the court. Lesson learned.

 

[LdiJ]

Yes, me too. My mistake was not getting his approval in writing and filed with the court. Agreed.Which is why I will not trust my ex's word again. We discussed every step of the move from the idea to the area, to the house search, to making a deposit, to entering escrow....everything. I sent him info about the school district, the schools to research. He's not been left in the dark. He gave me his verbal support all along...but still, my bad. I should have gotten it in writing.
Even his daily school pick-ups of our son aren't in writing. I just verbally told him to go ahead and do it.

I can even understand him changing his mind. But the fact that he did it at the 11th hour and did all the talk of wanting to ruin me and my family and told me he HATED all of us (right in front of our 10 year old, mind you) tells me to be cautious from now on. Everything has to be in writing and filed with the court. Lesson learned.

I understand how you feel completely. After 8 years of good co-parenting and your ex being supportive of your move all along, I am not surprised that it did not occur to you to get it in writing and get it filed with the courts.

I also think it was pretty low of dad to attempt to change his mind at the 11th hour and to say all of those things to you...particularly in front of the child.

You have to understand that there are a few people on these forums who simply cannot stand people who move the children away from the other parent, no matter what the circumstances are.

 

[Silverplum]

I fixed it for you.

You have to understand that there are a few people on these forums who have a high regard for both parents, and feel strongly that there are very few situations that truly call for separation of parent and child/ren.

When I want for you to speak on my behalf, I'll let you know. Till then, don't assume the honor.

 

[LdiJ]

I fixed it for you.



When I want for you to speak on my behalf, I'll let you know. Till then, don't assume the honor.

I was not speaking on your behalf.

 

[Silverplum]

I was not speaking on your behalf.

Sure. I totally believe you. Let's do lunch.

 

[Just Blue]

Sure. I totally believe you. Let's do lunch.

May I come? I vote for Legal Seafood!! I'll even pay for the Steamers!!!

 

[Silverplum]

May I come? I vote for Legal Seafood!! I'll even pay for the Steamers!!!

I would totally LOVE to have lunch with YOU!

 

[childrenRpeople]

Wer'e moving a little over an hour away. Our son isn't being seperated from his dad. He gets all of his every weekend usual time.
He won't be picking him up everyday from school anymore but that was ending soon anyhow...you see, for 2 years now my ex has reminded me that it was temporary and that it would have to end when he moved onto another professional opportunity he's had his eye on.
So, it was fine for him to part with that time when it was on HIS terms...but not on mine.

 

[childrenRpeople]

...and in those conversations, he always wanted my reassurances that I could take over alternative afterschool care or pick-ups for our son.