Does anyone have to agree to adoption if man on birthcertificate isnt the father?

[proud_parent]

I will say that I do not understand step-parent adoptions. At. All. It has never made a bit of sense to me.

For the most part, I agree.

However, there are cases when a step-parent adoption is clearly in the child(ren)'s best interests.

I'm not seeing any facts to suggest that OP's is one of those cases.

 

[Zigner]

I adopted my stepdaughter after 5 years of marriage to her mother. Her father was never in the picture for her. At. All. We are father-daughter in every way except biology. There are times that it's appropriate.

 

[CJane]

I adopted my stepdaughter after 5 years of marriage to her mother. Her father was never in the picture for her. At. All. We are father-daughter in every way except biology. There are times that it's appropriate.

Not saying it's inappropriate. Just that I don't personally understand it.

 

[Zigner]

Not saying it's inappropriate. Just that I don't personally understand it.

Fair enough.

 

[longislandguy]

I adopted my stepdaughter after 5 years of marriage to her mother. Her father was never in the picture for her. At. All. We are father-daughter in every way except biology. There are times that it's appropriate.

Are you still married to her?

 

[Eekamouse]

I'm baffled. What part of it do you not understand? The part where someone steps up to become the legal parent of a child they love as if they were their own blood or the part where they take the risk of paying child support on a child that is biologically not theirs should a divorce happen? I'm really not understanding your confusion. If your spouse had a child from a previous relationship and the mother turned her back on that child and was completely gone from the picture, you would not consider adopting that child as your own? Even if you loved the child just as much as your own kids?

 

[longislandguy]

I'm baffled. What part of it do you not understand? The part where someone steps up to become the legal parent of a child they love as if they were their own blood or the part where they take the risk of paying child support on a child that is biologically not theirs should a divorce happen? I'm really not understanding your confusion. If your spouse had a child from a previous relationship and the mother turned her back on that child and was completely gone from the picture, you would not consider adopting that child as your own? Even if you loved the child just as much as your own kids?

I know you weren't asking me, but the part i don't understand is:

If your spouse had a child from a previous relationship and the mother turned her back on that child and was completely gone from the picture

Unless the mother is dead, that child STILL has a mother, i would NOT let this happen, a child is equal parts Mother & Father....No child deserves to lose part of themselves like that....If my daughters mother walked away right now, I would make DAMN sure daughter would still get to see her, even if i had to drive her across the country myself! THAT is what a Responsible parent does! A responsible parent does everything they can to make things right for their child and part of that sometimes means doing everything possible to make sure they have a relationship with the other parent

There is NO WAY i would EVER marry a women who cared so little about her children that she didn't make sure they had a relationship with their father! IMO, that's child abuse

 

[Silverplum]

Are you still married to her?

So creepy to ask personal questions.

 

[longislandguy]

So creepy to ask personal questions.

I was fishing...Since this women had been so quick to push the childs real father out of the childs life, i was wondering if he was still married and had now experienced first hand her attempts at parental alienation.

 

[Silverplum]

I was fishing...Since this women had been so quick to push the childs real father out of the childs life, i was wondering if he was still married and had now experienced first hand her attempts at parental alienation.

Stop it.

Period.

 

[stealth2]

Unless the mother is dead, that child STILL has a mother, i would NOT let this happen, a child is equal parts Mother & Father....No child deserves to lose part of themselves like that....If my daughters mother walked away right now, I would make DAMN sure daughter would still get to see her, even if i had to drive her across the country myself! THAT is what a Responsible parent does! A responsible parent does everything they can to make things right for their child and part of that sometimes means doing everything possible to make sure they have a relationship with the other parent

There is NO WAY i would EVER marry a women who cared so little about her children that she didn't make sure they had a relationship with their father! IMO, that's child abuse

you cannot make someone be a parent or have a relationship with ANYone.

 

[milmom]

I know you weren't asking me, but the part i don't understand is:


Unless the mother is dead, that child STILL has a mother, i would NOT let this happen, a child is equal parts Mother & Father....No child deserves to lose part of themselves like that....If my daughters mother walked away right now, I would make DAMN sure daughter would still get to see her, even if i had to drive her across the country myself! THAT is what a Responsible parent does! A responsible parent does everything they can to make things right for their child and part of that sometimes means doing everything possible to make sure they have a relationship with the other parent

There is NO WAY i would EVER marry a women who cared so little about her children that she didn't make sure they had a relationship with their father! IMO, that's child abuse

Although hard to believe there are some parents out there who just don't want a relationship with their children no matter how hard the other parent tries.

That said, I see a point to step parent adoption in cases where the other parent is absent. The fact that a step parent can raise a child ad their own for the majority of their life and have no rights if the spouse passes would be unfortunate if the child's other biological and legal parent had no part in their life.

 

[longislandguy]

you cannot make someone be a parent or have a relationship with ANYone.

You CAN make it as easy as possible....I've never met a father or mother who said to me "Man, i wish i could see my kids less", usually, it's "This *^%^ is yelling and cussing and threatening me everytime i call to see my kids, I GIVE UP" or "I don't know what to do, I wish i could see my kids more, but ex won't work with me"

I'm not going to say 100%, because nothing is 100%, but if there is a child not seeing one of their parents....It's always been GLARINGLY obvious to me where to look to find blame...the other parent...parental alienation is a lot more then just calling the other parent names infront of the child...

 

[milmom]

You CAN make it as easy as possible....I've never met a father or mother who said to me "Man, i wish i could see my kids less", usually, it's "This *^%^ is yelling and cussing and threatening me everytime i call to see my kids, I GIVE UP" or "I don't know what to do, I wish i could see my kids more, but ex won't work with me"

I'm not going to say 100%, because nothing is 100%, but if there is a child not seeing one of their parents....It's always been GLARINGLY obvious to me where to look to find blame...the other parent...parental alienation is a lot more then just calling the other parent names infront of the child...

You won't say 100% but you'll say always. You sound more ignorant with each of your posts.

 

[longislandguy]

You won't say 100% but you'll say always. You sound more ignorant with each of your posts.

And ignoring the point of the post to pick out off topic details to argue against....Meh, I'll just let that go

Have you EVER heard a non-custodial father or mother say "Man, i wish i had LESS time with my kids"