blossom3533
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? KY
My ex-husband sued for custody and we went through a protracted legal battle (about 8 years). He lost and trial, then tried to revise his case when that Judge lost re-election. The new judge refused to close the case without a civil restraining order (basically, just a long order that indicates he can't continue various stalking behaviors). It also said that he could not have further time-sharing without going through anger management. So, instead of doing that he just dropped off and we haven't heard from him in almost 4 years.
In the meantime, my child has had 2 surgeries, braces, and endless doctor visits and tests (due to some underlying medical issues I won't get into but include a genetic condition and an immune deficiency). The braces: $5,000, one of the surgeries came to around $4,000; the other was maybe $1,000. Just yesterday I opened an envelope and it's a bill for $500 and I need to call to find out what it's for - and this is routine. I would say, including the braces, we're easily talking $20,000 over the 4 years, maybe more.
We have an operational agreement saying the person who brings the child to the appointment pays and the other parent reimburses. What should I do at this point given that the situation is so contentious? I will add that he knows about these expenses - in fact, one clinic absolutely bungled our records and I think sent him the bill and it bounced back to me (he has a history of faxing the legal documents). So I know he knows that there are some major expenses and I guess he figures this is the bonus for the situation we're in.
(I do have a lawyer, obviously, trying to think this through before I likely contact her).
My ex-husband sued for custody and we went through a protracted legal battle (about 8 years). He lost and trial, then tried to revise his case when that Judge lost re-election. The new judge refused to close the case without a civil restraining order (basically, just a long order that indicates he can't continue various stalking behaviors). It also said that he could not have further time-sharing without going through anger management. So, instead of doing that he just dropped off and we haven't heard from him in almost 4 years.
In the meantime, my child has had 2 surgeries, braces, and endless doctor visits and tests (due to some underlying medical issues I won't get into but include a genetic condition and an immune deficiency). The braces: $5,000, one of the surgeries came to around $4,000; the other was maybe $1,000. Just yesterday I opened an envelope and it's a bill for $500 and I need to call to find out what it's for - and this is routine. I would say, including the braces, we're easily talking $20,000 over the 4 years, maybe more.
We have an operational agreement saying the person who brings the child to the appointment pays and the other parent reimburses. What should I do at this point given that the situation is so contentious? I will add that he knows about these expenses - in fact, one clinic absolutely bungled our records and I think sent him the bill and it bounced back to me (he has a history of faxing the legal documents). So I know he knows that there are some major expenses and I guess he figures this is the bonus for the situation we're in.
(I do have a lawyer, obviously, trying to think this through before I likely contact her).
