Urology procedures caused ED

[quincy]

No ED itself is not like sex abuse. But all of the instrumentation that was used, the catherization, the camera scope forced into you, the tools that are going up orifices that are not normally penetrated. This is all intense. The blood that come out of your urine for days. And the burning sensations. How you end up with scar tissue in your ureter. And ultimately with sexual dysfunction.

I don't question your discomfort. I am sure it is not pleasant. All the more reason to seek medical help when problems persist.

 

[Stennett]

But then, I would still strongly encourage you to get a second opinion, see another doctor. I certainly empathize with your not liking your urologist! Particularly in this field, the technologies and treatment procedures change, sometimes the more experienced and highly, highly recommended doctors are more comfortable with some of the older procedures and continue to use them, while a doctor with a different perspective may have a much more successful and less painful way to do things. This was certainly what we found with urologists, To quote the new doctor, "You mean he's still doing it THAT way???" You have been traumatized, it may take some time to recover. But don't give up.

Thanks for your encouragement. At least one person sees and understands my perspective about the technologies used and the intensity that can be borne from urology.

 

[Just Blue]

No ED itself is not like sex abuse. But all of the instrumentation that was used, the catherization, the camera scope forced into you, the tools that are going up orifices that are not normally penetrated. This is all intense. The blood that come out of your urine for days. And the burning sensations. How you end up with scar tissue in your ureter. And ultimately with sexual dysfunction.

May I ask how old you are?

 

[commentator]

Stennett, I honestly believe that of all the indignities of growing old, the problems my husband had with his urological issues and the first, highly recommended, highly rated urologist who treated him came closer to making him give up on life than anything else that has happened to either one of us. Though now, I am happy to report, there are no problems.

One thing that having a lot of stuff wrong with you fairly early in life can do is convince you that you're not circling the drain because you feel horrible at any given time. You will get better, this will not be your life from here on out to the soon approaching end. You feel bad, but you will feel better later. That's what I have had to try so hard to convince my very depressed and formerly very healthy never had anything wrong with him before husband when he dealt with these issues.

And we've done brain surgery, cancer, open heart, replacements of various parts, but the bladder stents and the urologist who suggested that my husband 'go walk around in the mall, take your mind off it' when he was convulsing on the floor with spasms....well, it's pretty awful. You've been through a traumatic experience, and it needs to be first of all, thoroughly treated. As I said, because our urologist was supposed to be SO wonderful, we were pretty slow in finding that newer, nicer, more recently trained doctor, but the difference when we did was significant.

And the healing did take a lot of time, six or eight months of horrible surprising incidents post surgery, just when things seemed to be getting better.....etc. Fortunately we have some friends in the medical profession who were very encouraging and helped us work through it all, even though they were not treating us directly. Things did get better eventually, and Blue's suggestion about the therapist to help you deal with your mental anguish isn't half bad. You've had some. Best wishes to you on your continuing and complete recovery.

 

[Just Blue]

Stennett, I honestly believe that of all the indignities of growing old, the problems my husband had with his urological issues and the first, highly recommended, highly rated urologist who treated him came closer to making him give up on life than anything else that has happened to either one of us. Though now, I am happy to report, there are no problems.

One thing that having a lot of stuff wrong with you fairly early in life can do is convince you that you're not circling the drain because you feel horrible at any given time. You will get better, this will not be your life from here on out to the soon approaching end. You feel bad, but you will feel better later. That's what I have had to try so hard to convince my very depressed and formerly very healthy never had anything wrong with him before husband when he dealt with these issues.

And we've done brain surgery, cancer, open heart, replacements of various parts, but the bladder stents and the urologist who suggested that my husband 'go walk around in the mall, take your mind off it' when he was convulsing on the floor with spasms....well, it's pretty awful. You've been through a traumatic experience, and it needs to be first of all, thoroughly treated. As I said, because our urologist was supposed to be SO wonderful, we were pretty slow in finding that newer, nicer, more recently trained doctor, but the difference when we did was significant.

And the healing did take a lot of time, six or eight months of horrible surprising incidents post surgery, just when things seemed to be getting better.....etc. Fortunately we have some friends in the medical profession who were very encouraging and helped us work through it all, even though they were not treating us directly. Things did get better eventually, and Blue's suggestion about the therapist to help you deal with your mental anguish isn't half bad. You've had some. Best wishes to you on your continuing and complete recovery.

Zig was the one to suggest therapy.

 

[commentator]

Zig was the one to suggest therapy.

oops, but it was a good idea!

 

[Just Blue]

oops, but it was a good idea!

It was a very good idea. Zig has lots of those.

 

[Zigner]

It was a very good idea. Zig has lots of those.

Nah - as they say, even a broken clock is right twice a day!

 

[Just Blue]

Nah - as they say, even a broken clock is right twice a day!

Awww...it's so cute when you play humble and lovable Shoeshine Boy!!