Recent content by max221

:( Sigh... This sounds like the kind of sick crap my father pulled on me my entire childhood. With someone like this, it only gets worse over time. Dear dad had me so terrified that (of course) I never told anyone what he was doing to me when no one was around. Get that child AWAY from him...

Wow. Thanks for all the advice. I think round-three with the mediator is going to be a free-for-all. What fun... Did I mention that I don't like conflict or confrontation? LOL. Thanks again.

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?IL I was divorced 7 years ago, and I'm the non-custodial parent (with joint legal custody) of two children 13 and 11. I'm supposed to see them every other weekend, though this frequently does not happen. But when I do see them, well...

Thank you for your response. I have a masters degree and I'm self-employed. When I was employed by others, I never made more than 30k; I have greater potential for earnings self-employed. I am doing everything possible to increase earnings, but business is poor these days (bad economy, as we...

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?IL [I also posted this under "Divorce, etc.," wasn't sure where it belonged.] I got divorced 7 years ago; I have two kids 10 & 12 in joint legal custody; their mother has physical custody. My ex makes approx $125k/year; I make...

What is the name of your state?IL I got divorced 7 years ago; I have two kids 10 & 12 in joint legal custody; their mother has physical custody. My ex makes approx $125k/year; I make approx $20k/year: a financial situation that long predated the time of our divorce. At the time of the divorce I...

I read someplace (bad beginning, but I don't remember the source) that it is always good to have a kid go to see their dad. The article pointed out that "forcing" a child to have visits is not the way to go; that it is the responsibility of the custodial parent to encourage and convince the...

I think mediation is worth a try. When is was getting divorced, my ex's attorney made an offer in which I would received roughly 1% of the marital assets and would be allowed to see the kids once/month for a couple of hours with supervision. (Supervision for what? I don't drink/take drugs, I've...

Thank you all for your--sometimes conflicting--advice. And misslawli, thank you for the *blush* compliment. With regard to health insurance, ex has COBRA, with the kids on it. It's expensive, and she wants to save money. I spoke with my lawyer who advised me to never, never agree to do this...

undefinedWhat is the name of your state? Illinois I'm a man from IL, divorced 7 years, with two children ages 10 + 12, who live with their mother, also in IL. There is a joint custody (legal custody) agreement. For the past 7 years, my ex has ignored the terms of the agreement by not...