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18 Y/O trouble with D parents about bonds and social security,and child suport

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What is the name of your state? MA

I am an 18 year old senior in high school, and also a high hoor student. I am planning on attending college next year. I also have 8 to 10 thousand dollars worth of savings bonds which were given to me as a young child by my grandmother. I spoken with my parents about cashing my bonds and they are telling me that they are to be used to help pay for my college education. All of the bonds have either my mother or my father as the cosigner on them because I was so young when they were bought. They are telling me that I have no rights to them even though my name is on them. I am also recieving $800 a month social security whichs comes out of my mothers disability plan now that I am 18. My mother is telling me that since I will not hand the checks over to her and since I told my dad that the checks were coming in my name that I am being kicked out of the house. Along with disability checks and her half of the social security collects child support from my father. The divorce states that my father is responsible for providing child support until I am 23 with the condition that I remain in school. He is also responsible to pay for half the portion of my medical bills which insurance does not cover. My question is since I am 18 and a considered a legal adult can my parents with hold bonds that belong to me? If my mother does kick me out and my father takes me in will this makes the child support payments to my mother cease if they sign a contract or will they need to go to court? If my father for some reason does not take me in full time, and only lets me stay at his house half the week and my mother kicks me out am I eligible to collect child support from him? If I moved in with a relative would he still be held responsible to pay until I am 23 as long as I stay in school? Would there be any way to collect child support from both parents if this happens? Is it possible for my father to collect child support from my mother is I move in with him?
 
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Zephyr

Senior Member
the only way you will get any type of answer is to trim that down a bit, and break it up into paragraphs
 

Zephyr

Senior Member
I am not sure there is anything you can do to compel your parents to sign the bonds----all of the rest is irrelevant
 
bigdreams11 said:
What is the name of your state? MA
************** If my father for some reason does not take me in full time, and only lets me stay at his house half the week and my mother kicks me out am I eligible to collect child support from him? If I moved in with a relative would he still be held responsible to pay until I am 23 as long as I stay in school? Would there be any way to collect child support from both parents if this happens? ....

YOU are not eligible to collect child support from EITHER of your parents. If you consider yourself a LEGAL adult, do what all other legal adults do--go to work, get a place to live & pay your own bills.

If you will still be dependent upon one of your parents while going to college, the other parent may be responsible for also providing financial support. To the parent you are dependent upon--NOT TO YOU. Any child support issue is between your parents and the court.

Using your bonds for your college education is a smart move and I can understand why your parents are insisting upon this. What do you plan to use them for?

If you want to make decisions about your life all by yourself, you can certainly do so. Just take all the responsibility for yourself. Do not expect support or help from your parents if you don't wish them to have any input on your decisions. That is what being an adult is all about--you don't sound ready for that.
 
IrishLady47 said:
YOU are not eligible to collect child support from EITHER of your parents. If you consider yourself a LEGAL adult, do what all other legal adults do--go to work, get a place to live & pay your own bills.

If you will still be dependent upon one of your parents while going to college, the other parent may be responsible for also providing financial support. To the parent you are dependent upon--NOT TO YOU. Any child support issue is between your parents and the court.

Using your bonds for your college education is a smart move and I can understand why your parents are insisting upon this. What do you plan to use them for?

If you want to make decisions about your life all by yourself, you can certainly do so. Just take all the responsibility for yourself. Do not expect support or help from your parents if you don't wish them to have any input on your decisions. That is what being an adult is all about--you don't sound ready for that.

I plan on using the bonds to purchase a vehicle which will get me to school and a higher paying job everyday. I am already recieving full tuition from the state because of adavanced MCAS scores. The only thing left to pay for is books, meals, and room and board. I am fully prepared to take of student loans to cover these costs. Do I have any legal right to these bonds now that I am 18?
 

LdiJ

Senior Member
bigdreams11 said:
What is the name of your state? MA

I am an 18 year old senior in high school, and also a high hoor student. I am planning on attending college next year. I also have 8 to 10 thousand dollars worth of savings bonds which were given to me as a young child by my grandmother. I spoken with my parents about cashing my bonds and they are telling me that they are to be used to help pay for my college education. All of the bonds have either my mother or my father as the cosigner on them because I was so young when they were bought. They are telling me that I have no rights to them even though my name is on them. I am also recieving $800 a month social security whichs comes out of my mothers disability plan now that I am 18. My mother is telling me that since I will not hand the checks over to her and since I told my dad that the checks were coming in my name that I am being kicked out of the house. Along with disability checks and her half of the social security collects child support from my father. The divorce states that my father is responsible for providing child support until I am 23 with the condition that I remain in school. He is also responsible to pay for half the portion of my medical bills which insurance does not cover. My question is since I am 18 and a considered a legal adult can my parents with hold bonds that belong to me? If my mother does kick me out and my father takes me in will this makes the child support payments to my mother cease if they sign a contract or will they need to go to court? If my father for some reason does not take me in full time, and only lets me stay at his house half the week and my mother kicks me out am I eligible to collect child support from him? If I moved in with a relative would he still be held responsible to pay until I am 23 as long as I stay in school? Would there be any way to collect child support from both parents if this happens? Is it possible for my father to collect child support from my mother is I move in with him?

Lets see....your mom is providing a roof over your head, utilities, food in your stomache etc......all things which the SSDI check is supposed to cover. Yet, you feel that since the check is now coming in your name...that you should get to spend it as you see fit....instead of spending it on the things its supposed to cover**************..AND you are looking for ways to get money out of your dad too???

If I was either of your parents, I would kick your greedy little butt out too.
 

AHA

Senior Member
bigdreams11 said:
What is the name of your state? MA

I am an 18 year old senior in high school, and also a high hoor student. I am planning on attending college next year. I also have 8 to 10 thousand dollars worth of savings bonds which were given to me as a young child by my grandmother. I spoken with my parents about cashing my bonds and they are telling me that they are to be used to help pay for my college education. All of the bonds have either my mother or my father as the cosigner on them because I was so young when they were bought. They are telling me that I have no rights to them even though my name is on them. I am also recieving $800 a month social security whichs comes out of my mothers disability plan now that I am 18. My mother is telling me that since I will not hand the checks over to her and since I told my dad that the checks were coming in my name that I am being kicked out of the house. Along with disability checks and her half of the social security collects child support from my father. The divorce states that my father is responsible for providing child support until I am 23 with the condition that I remain in school. He is also responsible to pay for half the portion of my medical bills which insurance does not cover. My question is since I am 18 and a considered a legal adult can my parents with hold bonds that belong to me? If my mother does kick me out and my father takes me in will this makes the child support payments to my mother cease if they sign a contract or will they need to go to court? If my father for some reason does not take me in full time, and only lets me stay at his house half the week and my mother kicks me out am I eligible to collect child support from him? If I moved in with a relative would he still be held responsible to pay until I am 23 as long as I stay in school? Would there be any way to collect child support from both parents if this happens? Is it possible for my father to collect child support from my mother is I move in with him?

Ok, since you are legally an adult, GET A JOB AND STOP WHINING ABOUT HOW MUCH CHILD SUPPORT YOU COULD GET FROM BOTH YOUR PARENTS!!!!!! YOU don't get child support, the person who is paying your bills get the child support.
YOU need to stop figuring out how others can pay your way and be a man and pay it yourself!
YOU obviously don't give a sh*t about your parents and because of that I hope that they DO kick your spoiled @ss out where you HAVE to provide for yourself and stop being greedy and selfish. Time to leave the babystage, dude, and grow up!
 

LdiJ

Senior Member
bigdreams11 said:
I plan on using the bonds to purchase a vehicle which will get me to school and a higher paying job everyday. I am already recieving full tuition from the state because of adavanced MCAS scores. The only thing left to pay for is books, meals, and room and board. I am fully prepared to take of student loans to cover these costs. Do I have any legal right to these bonds now that I am 18?

Nope...not without the cosigner's signature.
 

zippysgoddess

Senior Member
Why on earth would you want student loans, when you could have the stuff paid free and clear with those bonds? That makes no sense, and is not a very mature, or smart decision. Get a grip, you don't need a car that costs thousands of $$ to get from point A to point B, you can get a car that costs $1,000 or less, that will do just fine. Use the money for what it is intended for, and get over it.

No, you do not get the social security as a dependent child, it is supposed to help support you in your parents home, and if you are getting it under your mother, it will stop when you move out on your own.

GROW UP!
 
None of you understand the situation. My mom has collected more money over the years in child support that it's not even funny. She should be using the child support to put a roof over my head. My dad has been paying out about 2 grand a month to her in child support and med insurance. She should be using that money to support me. The whole reason for the checks coming in my name is for me to decide how it is spent and if I chose to use it to provide for myself. There is no reason for this check to be used to provide for me because my mother already gets one which does that. I have already made calls and learned I will get the check every month until I graduate high school no matter where I reside. My parents are loaded and my child support over the years has created a nice bank account for my mother to use towards her new home in CA when I gradutate. Is there any legal way to get the cosigner to have to sign the bonds?
 

Wolflmg

Member
bigdreams11 said:
None of you understand the situation. My mom has collected more money over the years in child support that it's not even funny. She should be using the child support to put a roof over my head. My dad has been paying out about 2 grand a month to her in child support and med insurance. She should be using that money to support me. The whole reason for the checks coming in my name is for me to decide how it is spent and if I chose to use it to provide for myself. There is no reason for this check to be used to provide for me because my mother already gets one which does that. I have already made calls and learned I will get the check every month until I graduate high school no matter where I reside. My parents are loaded and my child support over the years has created a nice bank account for my mother to use towards her new home in CA when I gradutate. Is there any legal way to get the cosigner to have to sign the bonds?

I say you got one of three options,

Option one sit down and talk to your parents, make it a two way conversation. Let them say what they have to say and then you say what you want to say.

Option two, get a lawyer and go about sueing your parents for the money you think they owe you

Option three, you and your parents go into family consouling and talk about this money ordeal with a professonal. Someone who will be able to help you and your parents, see from both side.

Just remember, their the only parents your ever going to have.
 
Wolflmg said:
I say you got one of three options,

Option one sit down and talk to your parents, make it a two way conversation. Let them say what they have to say and then you say what you want to say.

Option two, get a lawyer and go about sueing your parents for the money you think they owe you

Option three, you and your parents go into family consouling and talk about this money ordeal with a professonal. Someone who will be able to help you and your parents, see from both side.

Just remember, their the only parents your ever going to have.

I completely hear where your coming from. I sat down with my mom and told her I didn't want to take the SSI check, and all I wanted was what is rightfully mine. After the discussion was over she handed the bonds that listed her as the co-owner . Once I got them I realized I don't even need her signature to cash them. My dad is dead set on them being used for college and refuses to sign anything. Thankfully he is not in possession of them and I am the co-owner. I never meant for all of this to turn out the way it did and I'm glad it's over with.
 

Zephyr

Senior Member
bigdreams11 said:
None of you understand the situation. My mom has collected more money over the years in child support that it's not even funny. She should be using the child support to put a roof over my head. My dad has been paying out about 2 grand a month to her in child support and med insurance. She should be using that money to support me. The whole reason for the checks coming in my name is for me to decide how it is spent and if I chose to use it to provide for myself. There is no reason for this check to be used to provide for me because my mother already gets one which does that. I have already made calls and learned I will get the check every month until I graduate high school no matter where I reside. My parents are loaded and my child support over the years has created a nice bank account for my mother to use towards her new home in CA when I gradutate. Is there any legal way to get the cosigner to have to sign the bonds?


are you trying to tell us you have no roof over your head, no food to eat, no running water, obviously don't have internet access, what exactly is your definition of what the support should be spent on?
 

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