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I write on behalf of my sister and neice. My neice is 14 yrs old and things have progressed over the last three years.
My neice:
-has had counseling and a psychiatric evaluation
-diagnosed with oppositional defiance disorder
-had several father figures leave her(bio father not known)
-hits her mother, sister 11, and brother 3
-threatens to kill mother and sister
-threatens to kill herself
-has masterbated while on phone with bedroom door open-siblings at home
-has chased sister and mother on several occassions with knife threatening to kill them
-has stole mothers car 3 times-twice hitting parked cars and causing damage
-runs away to boyfriends (different each time)- ends up at drug dealers home being passed around for sexual gratification by men and boys
-has contracted herpes and crabs
-is very manipulative-puts on good show for social workers, counselors, judges, etc
-has been in juvenille detention several times-longest stay 14 days-usually only hold her til mom can pick her up
-had 90 days on the shelf-then violated her probatiuon and the court held her til mom would come get her-did not give her any time in juvey
My sister:
-has done everything courts have asked her to do from counseling to parenting classes
-is full-time college student-bachelors degree in business in May '05
-only income is child support for other two kids
-loves her daughter-has tried all suggested approaches
-has had courts dismiss a domestic violence charge against daughter
-court wouldn't file charges when daughter stole her car three times
-is so emotionally distraught affecting her health-migraines, IBS
This past week sister went to court cause daughter ran away again-my sister refused to take her home. The family feels it's just a matter of time before she seriously injurs or kills someone. The court refuses to give daughter the time in juvenille we feel she should serve. How can the court expect my sister to keep this child under control? Nothing thus far has worked-it only gets worse. Why should my sister continue to put herself and her other children at risk? At some point it becomes truely detrimental to the other children in the home.And she has time on the shelf that they won't give her.
Heck, even the child has said " mom I don't know why they keep letting me out".
The judge was shocked when my sister refused to take her home. Then tried to deter her with the threat of having to pay child support. My sister said ok. Now they said they would pursue abandonment charges against my sister. Can they really do that? Can my sister go to jail? Should she retain a lawyer? Why won't the court give the daughter the sentence of the 90 days they suspended before? There is something wrong with this picture.
Mom feels if court would step up and keep her in juvenille detention it might be enough to show daughter no one is playing here. She has been through hell with this child and doesn't know what else she can do.
Thanks to anyone who can answer my questions or at least provide some direction.
I write on behalf of my sister and neice. My neice is 14 yrs old and things have progressed over the last three years.
My neice:
-has had counseling and a psychiatric evaluation
-diagnosed with oppositional defiance disorder
-had several father figures leave her(bio father not known)
-hits her mother, sister 11, and brother 3
-threatens to kill mother and sister
-threatens to kill herself
-has masterbated while on phone with bedroom door open-siblings at home
-has chased sister and mother on several occassions with knife threatening to kill them
-has stole mothers car 3 times-twice hitting parked cars and causing damage
-runs away to boyfriends (different each time)- ends up at drug dealers home being passed around for sexual gratification by men and boys
-has contracted herpes and crabs
-is very manipulative-puts on good show for social workers, counselors, judges, etc
-has been in juvenille detention several times-longest stay 14 days-usually only hold her til mom can pick her up
-had 90 days on the shelf-then violated her probatiuon and the court held her til mom would come get her-did not give her any time in juvey
My sister:
-has done everything courts have asked her to do from counseling to parenting classes
-is full-time college student-bachelors degree in business in May '05
-only income is child support for other two kids
-loves her daughter-has tried all suggested approaches
-has had courts dismiss a domestic violence charge against daughter
-court wouldn't file charges when daughter stole her car three times
-is so emotionally distraught affecting her health-migraines, IBS
This past week sister went to court cause daughter ran away again-my sister refused to take her home. The family feels it's just a matter of time before she seriously injurs or kills someone. The court refuses to give daughter the time in juvenille we feel she should serve. How can the court expect my sister to keep this child under control? Nothing thus far has worked-it only gets worse. Why should my sister continue to put herself and her other children at risk? At some point it becomes truely detrimental to the other children in the home.And she has time on the shelf that they won't give her.
Heck, even the child has said " mom I don't know why they keep letting me out".
The judge was shocked when my sister refused to take her home. Then tried to deter her with the threat of having to pay child support. My sister said ok. Now they said they would pursue abandonment charges against my sister. Can they really do that? Can my sister go to jail? Should she retain a lawyer? Why won't the court give the daughter the sentence of the 90 days they suspended before? There is something wrong with this picture.
Mom feels if court would step up and keep her in juvenille detention it might be enough to show daughter no one is playing here. She has been through hell with this child and doesn't know what else she can do.
Thanks to anyone who can answer my questions or at least provide some direction.