brtblueyes
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? Arkansas
Here is my problem...I had to call the law on my husband tonight. He had been drinking(he is this way when he isn't drinking, too), we came in the house and he started yelling at my daughter(16). She had washed some clothes and it pissed him off. He was calling her a lazy bum and other nasty things. I also have another daughter (20) who had to move back here because of financial trouble. He talks to her like crap and in general treats them like crap. He calls them lazy pieces of ****. I told him that I was sick of him treating them like that and he proceeded to slap me on both sides of the head and grab my ears and hair, and shake me, and tell me to just dare to do anything about it. As the argument grew more heated, I told him to back off or I would get my gun(it stays locked in my truck glove box and I only hoped to scare him), and he said he would kill me. It being turkey season here, there were 2 guns by the door and I grabbed them and threw them in my truck bed to keep him from getting them. Next thing, I know, he has a loaded gun sighted in on me from the front door. He told me he was going to kill me. Keeping it pointed at me as walked up to the house. He also got rough with my daughter when she had the phone and was trying to call 911. In the mean time he finally layed down the gun by his chair, I tried to grab it and run and we struggled, he was trying to point it toward my daughter, so I gave in and let go. He then puts up the gun on the rack in the bedroom and leaves. My daughter is soooo upset. Although, it is the 3rd time I have had to call the law on him in the past 12 months. I called the police and he had told me that if I did, I would regret it. He is hiding, they were looking for him all night. I am new to order of protection, which is what they advised me to do. Last 2 times I called after he hit me, I was told the law had changed and they had to see him abuse me. Thank goodness it was someone different, who actually seemed to care that me and my girls are in a very abusive home. Where do I go from here? The officer left a number of a abuse shelter. I called them and they want me to come in tomorrow. I now have reason to believe he has stashed alot of money away from the income of our farm. All of a sudden, all of the bank statements have disappeared for this account. Since we married 4 yrs. ago this week, I have had the only income from a job. He quit his job like a few days before we got married. The farm is what he has been working on. It hasn't showed any profit, and I have been bank rolling it, and have co signed on loans for cattle. I also noticed, that he has put our cows up for a loan, and my name was not on it. The bank recently told me that I couldn't borrow money against our cows without his co signing! How can they loan it to him without my co signing? I really think that he has been trying to get me to leave. I don't know what he has up his sleeve. I have our income tax forms, showing that he should have some money. He has recently accused me of hiding money, and I think he got the idea himself. I will get away from him, but he is like a cat, and always ends up landing on his feet. I am pretty sure that he was only interested in my income. Nice little set up where I pay ALL the bills and he invest any money he makes back into the farm( and probably in his pocket). His parents have finaced our home, and will problably lie about us making the yearly payment. I know, I have been very stupid... I just need to what documents would be helpful in proving my case?? And how to keep him away from my girls when I am at work?? Sorry to unload, but I feel so stupid, and I don't want to make anymore mistakes... I want to at least have a chance of not losing everything. Needless to say I am scared, he has been in my life for 11 yrs. I have been through it all, watched him get away with stuff like this before. Help!!
Here is my problem...I had to call the law on my husband tonight. He had been drinking(he is this way when he isn't drinking, too), we came in the house and he started yelling at my daughter(16). She had washed some clothes and it pissed him off. He was calling her a lazy bum and other nasty things. I also have another daughter (20) who had to move back here because of financial trouble. He talks to her like crap and in general treats them like crap. He calls them lazy pieces of ****. I told him that I was sick of him treating them like that and he proceeded to slap me on both sides of the head and grab my ears and hair, and shake me, and tell me to just dare to do anything about it. As the argument grew more heated, I told him to back off or I would get my gun(it stays locked in my truck glove box and I only hoped to scare him), and he said he would kill me. It being turkey season here, there were 2 guns by the door and I grabbed them and threw them in my truck bed to keep him from getting them. Next thing, I know, he has a loaded gun sighted in on me from the front door. He told me he was going to kill me. Keeping it pointed at me as walked up to the house. He also got rough with my daughter when she had the phone and was trying to call 911. In the mean time he finally layed down the gun by his chair, I tried to grab it and run and we struggled, he was trying to point it toward my daughter, so I gave in and let go. He then puts up the gun on the rack in the bedroom and leaves. My daughter is soooo upset. Although, it is the 3rd time I have had to call the law on him in the past 12 months. I called the police and he had told me that if I did, I would regret it. He is hiding, they were looking for him all night. I am new to order of protection, which is what they advised me to do. Last 2 times I called after he hit me, I was told the law had changed and they had to see him abuse me. Thank goodness it was someone different, who actually seemed to care that me and my girls are in a very abusive home. Where do I go from here? The officer left a number of a abuse shelter. I called them and they want me to come in tomorrow. I now have reason to believe he has stashed alot of money away from the income of our farm. All of a sudden, all of the bank statements have disappeared for this account. Since we married 4 yrs. ago this week, I have had the only income from a job. He quit his job like a few days before we got married. The farm is what he has been working on. It hasn't showed any profit, and I have been bank rolling it, and have co signed on loans for cattle. I also noticed, that he has put our cows up for a loan, and my name was not on it. The bank recently told me that I couldn't borrow money against our cows without his co signing! How can they loan it to him without my co signing? I really think that he has been trying to get me to leave. I don't know what he has up his sleeve. I have our income tax forms, showing that he should have some money. He has recently accused me of hiding money, and I think he got the idea himself. I will get away from him, but he is like a cat, and always ends up landing on his feet. I am pretty sure that he was only interested in my income. Nice little set up where I pay ALL the bills and he invest any money he makes back into the farm( and probably in his pocket). His parents have finaced our home, and will problably lie about us making the yearly payment. I know, I have been very stupid... I just need to what documents would be helpful in proving my case?? And how to keep him away from my girls when I am at work?? Sorry to unload, but I feel so stupid, and I don't want to make anymore mistakes... I want to at least have a chance of not losing everything. Needless to say I am scared, he has been in my life for 11 yrs. I have been through it all, watched him get away with stuff like this before. Help!!
