Acting legally without the other parent

[profmum]

And......new thread because really, the question, with which you were OH so helpful, was now "this is what the language of my CO states, am I interpreting this correctly or how can I interpret this so the court doesn't get pissed off at ME".

first, your getting snippy with the seniors wont get you many responses. If in doubt about the CO and you and the ex are interpreting it differently, sometimes you have no choice but to get a judge to clarify. Clearly the dispute resolution process sounds odd in your CO, you can file a motion to clarify and then request a status conference with the judge, which is less invasive and less $$ than a hearing. Unfortunately if you are back in courts as many times as you have been, the Courts are already "pissed" off at the two of you.

 

[fairisfair]

Thank you for that......I don't really think it's healthy for my kids to create a divide....my kids are my kids, I don't call any of them half anything. That's now how our family works, I'm glad someone gets that.

And you're right, the bus issue is kind of least important. I actually consulted an attorney who said to take it to court, and he was the one who mentioned that the court would take into considerations what he called "artificially inflated hardships", for example the transportation issue and the fact that we have to pay a lot out of pocket, currently, for her to be involved in activities that would be free/part of the curiculum at the school I'd like her to go to. The attorney also said that maintaining the sibling bond is an important thing...I don't really think the court views that issue as coldly as other members here do.

Anyways....I consulted an attorney, I'm just kind of wary of them because, well, they stand to make money off me if I hire them. And, back to the whole begining, I've seen how the judge has reprimanded my ex in court for brining frivolous things in. I've been lucky enough to keep my nose pretty clean in the eyes of the court so I'd like to keep it that way. I don't want to bring it if the court is just going to say "You could have done it on your own and not wasted our time". Sometimes, though, it's just the roll of the dice on what judge you get I guess.

Oh get over it. Silver's comment was in no way disparaging of the relationship between your CHILDREN but rather a comment on the fact that your DAUGHTER has a DIFFERENT father, that what works for you and happy hubby and the "new" family does not have to work for him.

I doubt seriously that your child's father is concerned with every other aspect of her education and yet is basing his decision on her "friends".

 

[Silverplum]

Oh get over it. Silver's comment was in no way disparaging of the relationship between your CHILDREN but rather a comment on the fact that your DAUGHTER has a DIFFERENT father, that what works for you and happy hubby and the "new" family does not have to work for him.

I doubt seriously that your child's father is concerned with every other aspect of her education and yet is basing his decision on her "friends".

I'm the one who told her she was about to make a dang fool of herself in court.
To tell the judge that half siblings are "siblings" is not smart nor is it a good move. It merely INVITES a smacking, to tell the (pun so very intended) HALF truth.
To tell the judge that the MAGNET school has ~wah!~ lots of homework is the very definition of making a fool of oneself.

Etc. etc. I am not here to lay it all out for someone who can't grasp basic concepts.

 

[penelope10]

Oh get over it. Silver's comment was in no way disparaging of the relationship between your CHILDREN but rather a comment on the fact that your DAUGHTER has a DIFFERENT father, that what works for you and happy hubby and the "new" family does not have to work for him.

I doubt seriously that your child's father is concerned with every other aspect of her education and yet is basing his decision on her "friends".

I have two daughters from two marriages. They are eleven years apart and NEVER went to school together. This did not keep them from bonding. So I personally do not feel that the court is going to agree that the kids all need to go to the same school to feel bonded.

One thing that I noticed in OP's posts (and I could have missed it) is what are the kiddo's grades? Op has not presented anything to proof that daughter is struggling academically, and if so what were the steps taken to get the child help?

From the facts presented this is more of an issue of convenience for Mom and the new family. Matters of convenience don't necessarily match up with what is in the best interests of the child in the eyes of the court. If Dad is not willing to give permission for the change, you can always go back to court. But be prepared to show that his is indeed about what is best for Daughter, not you, not new spouse, etc.