adopting stepchild in Pennsylvania

[dierlingtr]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Pennsylvania

My question is this, my husband and I have been married for over 5 yrs now. We have 2 children together and we would like for my husband to adopt my 8 yr old daughter. She has my ex-boyfriend on her birth certificate as "father" even though we both knew he was not the biological father. (I was 16 and lacked judgment at the time which is why he is even on the birth certificate). He has not had any contact with my daughter since before she was a year old, he has never financially paid for anything to help support my child, and doesn't even live in the same state and hasn't for many years. We are military and constantly moving and I'm afraid we will get stationed overseas which will pose a problem since we need to have her passport with his consent. I do not know where he is anymore since we do not speak and the only thing I have is his address from 7 yrs ago. Is there a way my husband can still adopt her without this man being present? I have searched for the answers on the internet but can not find what I am looking for. We started the process in VA when we lived there but did not have time to finish it. My husband has been her father since she was 22 months old and we would like to finally like to finish the process of making it legal. Any advice or help would be greatly appreciated.

On another note, her biological father is not on the birth certificate because he didn't want anything to do with us when he found out I was pregnant.

Thank you in advance.

 

[Proserpina]

Legal daddy will, at the very least, need to be notified.

You ideally need to speak with an attorney - adoption is not a DIY procedure even in the simplest cases, and yours might end up a bit more complicated.

 

[Silverplum]

Legal daddy will, at the very least, need to be notified.

You ideally need to speak with an attorney - adoption is not a DIY procedure even in the simplest cases, and yours might end up a bit more complicated.

What with the fraud, and all.

 

[dierlingtr]

Even if I don't know where he's at? I mean I can send a letter to his old address but I doubt he still lives there. It was his parents house and from what I remember they were condemning the entire street. (they lived in Detroit, MI). When in VA we did have a military attorney working on it. Maybe we should wait until we're back in VA so we can speak to the Marine attorneys again?

Legal daddy will, at the very least, need to be notified.

You ideally need to speak with an attorney - adoption is not a DIY procedure even in the simplest cases, and yours might end up a bit more complicated.

 

[dierlingtr]

What fraud?

What with the fraud, and all.

 

[Silverplum]

What fraud?

See the bolded admission/s of fraud in your own post, O Obscure One:

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Pennsylvania

My question is this, my husband and I have been married for over 5 yrs now. We have 2 children together and we would like for my husband to adopt my 8 yr old daughter. She has my ex-boyfriend on her birth certificate as "father" even though we both knew he was not the biological father. (I was 16 and lacked judgment at the time which is why he is even on the birth certificate). He has not had any contact with my daughter since before she was a year old, he has never financially paid for anything to help support my child, and doesn't even live in the same state and hasn't for many years. We are military and constantly moving and I'm afraid we will get stationed overseas which will pose a problem since we need to have her passport with his consent. I do not know where he is anymore since we do not speak and the only thing I have is his address from 7 yrs ago. Is there a way my husband can still adopt her without this man being present? I have searched for the answers on the internet but can not find what I am looking for. We started the process in VA when we lived there but did not have time to finish it. My husband has been her father since she was 22 months old and we would like to finally like to finish the process of making it legal. Any advice or help would be greatly appreciated.

On another note, her biological father is not on the birth certificate because he didn't want anything to do with us when he found out I was pregnant.

Thank you in advance.

 

[dierlingtr]

That wasn't fraud. We were young and dumb. I thought I was going to be with him forever and the everyone knew including the medical staff that he was not the bio dad. We were also given an affidavit stating he would take responsibility for her. Is that really fraud when all parties are aware of it? I believe it's more stupidity on my part. Plus, I thought we were going to stay together and get married and all that silly teen stuff. Is that still fraud when all parties are aware of it and don't have a problem with it? I doubt I'm the first person to do this.

See the bolded admission/s of fraud in your own post, O Obscure One:

 

[Silverplum]

That wasn't fraud. We were young and dumb. I thought I was going to be with him forever and the everyone knew including the medical staff that he was not the bio dad. We were also given an affidavit stating he would take responsibility for her. Is that really fraud when all parties are aware of it? I believe it's more stupidity on my part. Plus, I thought we were going to stay together and get married and all that silly teen stuff. Is that still fraud when all parties are aware of it and don't have a problem with it? I doubt I'm the first person to do this.

How old are you now, 17?

I'm not seeing a grownup able to have a rational and intelligent conversation, here.

Whether you *think* a thing is illegal, or not, is of no import.

 

[dierlingtr]

Just trying to understand where your coming from. I didn't realize it was still classified as fraud when all parties including the bio dad and myself knew and understood. Thanks for the come back too... looks like your pretty mature yourself.

How old are you now, 17?

I'm not seeing a grownup able to have a rational and intelligent conversation, here.

Whether you *think* a thing is illegal, or not, is of no import.

 

[Silverplum]

Just trying to understand where your coming from. I didn't realize it was still classified as fraud when all parties including the bio dad and myself knew and understood. Thanks for the come back too... looks like your pretty mature yourself.

Perhaps you will learn to act like a grownup in legal situations, in future, instead of "pretending" to be a moron.

 

[Proserpina]

Even if I don't know where he's at? I mean I can send a letter to his old address but I doubt he still lives there. It was his parents house and from what I remember they were condemning the entire street. (they lived in Detroit, MI). When in VA we did have a military attorney working on it. Maybe we should wait until we're back in VA so we can speak to the Marine attorneys again?

YES. Even if. Even if, at the end of the day, he is served/notified via publication.

And because you DON'T know where he is, you NEED an attorney if only for that reason.

(since when did JAG get involved with civil adoption matters, out of interest?)

 

[dierlingtr]

I was 16 and made a mistake. Please don't act like your holier then thou. I came here for information to see what we need to do to get our family complete. I didn't come here to talk to a rude know-it-all that needs to put me down for past mistakes when I'm pretty sure you're not perfect either. Now maybe someone with HELPFUL information may come a crossed this thread and actually try to help.

Perhaps you will learn to act like a grownup in legal situations, in future, instead of "pretending" to be a moron.

 

[Silverplum]

Oh, yeah.

I was 16 and made a mistake. Please don't act like your holier then thou. I came here for information to see what we need to do to get our family complete. I didn't come here to talk to a rude know-it-all that needs to put me down for past mistakes when I'm pretty sure you're not perfect either. Now maybe someone with HELPFUL information may come a crossed this thread and actually try to help.

Your "past mistakes" ARE CURRENT PROBLEMS. But I'm not going to help you further.

Hire an attorney.

 

[dierlingtr]

They're the attorneys on base. We're allowed to use them at our (the military members) digression such as adopting a stepchild. Since this is the case, it looks like we'll put it on hold until we can talk to them again. Thank goodness we'll be moving back there within the next year.

Thank you for your help. I truly appreciate it.

YES. Even if. Even if, at the end of the day, he is served/notified via publication.

And because you DON'T know where he is, you NEED an attorney if only for that reason.

(since when did JAG get involved with civil adoption matters, out of interest?)

 

[dierlingtr]

That's true but many 16 yr olds wouldn't imagine this and many step parents never decide to adopt so it wouldn't be an issue for many.

Thanks for ending this.

Oh, yeah.



Your "past mistakes" ARE CURRENT PROBLEMS. But I'm not going to help you further.

Hire an attorney.