adoptive father removed from birth certificate

[L-eiga]

Thank you Shandra, but be careful, they already had me booted for defending myself against that self rightious cow. I had to create a new account just to check for any other advice, which I'm sure will also be deleted. You are right, I asked for legal advice not a psychiatric evaluation, beleive me, I know I'm unhealthy from this, that's what happens to rape survivors, and I have been through my therapy for it, I just dont think it's right that I should have to live with my rapists name. It's a real shame I couldn't just get a straight professional answer until after I spilled that can of worms on here. Then I get deleted for sticking up for myself. I will definately be recommending this site to all of my freinds.

 

[Isis1]

Thank you Shandra, but be careful, they already had me booted for defending myself against that self rightious cow. I had to create a new account just to check for any other advice, which I'm sure will also be deleted. You are right, I asked for legal advice not a psychiatric evaluation, beleive me, I know I'm unhealthy from this, that's what happens to rape survivors, and I have been through my therapy for it, I just dont think it's right that I should have to live with my rapists name. It's a real shame I couldn't just get a straight professional answer until after I spilled that can of worms on here. Then I get deleted for sticking up for myself. I will definately be recommending this site to all of my freinds.

i happen to love cows. they taste so freaking delicious grilled over the fire with garlic salt, sesame oil and pepper.

you were deleted by admin for being inappropriate on HER site. she can do that. she owns it. sticking up for yourself and being a potty mouth are two different things.

if you were raped when you were 14, legal dad could have had his rights terminated after being convicted. that's something your mother should have pursued back then.

 

[Proserpina]

i happen to love cows. they taste so freaking delicious grilled over the fire with garlic salt, sesame oil and pepper.

you were deleted by admin for being inappropriate on HER site. she can do that. she owns it. sticking up for yourself and being a potty mouth are two different things.

if you were raped when you were 14, legal dad could have had his rights terminated after being convicted. that's something your mother should have pursued back then.

Moo.

(I'd actually add a bit of cumin, but that's just me)

 

[Isis1]

Moo.

(I'd actually add a bit of cumin, but that's just me)

you know...i've yet to overcome my fear of cumin. i've been through my basil phase, my garlic phase, i'm going through my butter phase for a second time, my salt and pepper phase....but i haven't been brave enough for cumin yet. i need to start on that...

 

[shandramarie13]

Leiga, I am a rape survivor myself and if there is one thing I have learned it's that you only get it when you've been through it. I understand how powerful self image can be in the healing process, and how having his name can make you see yourself as an extension of him. You could go to therapy every day of your life and that aspect wouldn't change unless he was literally erased from that bc. Change your name, and don't get discouraged.

P.S.

I went back and read all of your posts, I didn't think you were a "potty mouth", I saw no curse words. And it's ok to get angry, but most people in power handle the anger of others by bannishing them from their sight. Don't let it get to you, it will only get in the way of your goal.

 

[Proserpina]

Leiga, I am a rape survivor myself and if there is one thing I have learned it's that you only get it when you've been through it. I understand how powerful self image can be in the healing process, and how having his name can make you see yourself as an extension of him. You could go to therapy every day of your life and that aspect wouldn't change unless he was literally erased from that bc. Change your name, and don't get discouraged.

P.S.

I went back and read all of your posts, I didn't think you were a "potty mouth", I saw no curse words. And it's ok to get angry, but most people in power handle the anger of others by bannishing them from their sight. Don't let it get to you, it will only get in the way of your goal.

Because the potty-mouthed posts were removed, dear, before you read them .

(by admin)

Why don't you two take this to PM?

 

[shandramarie13]

Oh, ok, valid point. I still wish you guys would take her a bit more seriously, I feel bad for this girl, how would you feel if you were in her shoes and a bunch of legal professionals seemed to be getting a kick out of your pain? She deserves a real and professional answer even if she does have mental problems and anger issues. I can tell from the second post she made that this is very important to her. I don't want to argue with anyone or cause a stink, I definately don't want to my account deleted for trying to make her feel better about this, but when I read that, my heart bled for her. Please, guys, just stop acting like it's a joke. Please. It is a real and painful situation that she is obviously taking every step she can think of to try and fix. Why is that funny?

 

[Proserpina]

Oh, ok, valid point. I still wish you guys would take her a bit more seriously, I feel bad for this girl, how would you feel if you were in her shoes and a bunch of legal professionals seemed to be getting a kick out of your pain? She deserves a real and professional answer even if she does have mental problems and anger issues. I can tell from the second post she made that this is very important to her. I don't want to argue with anyone or cause a stink, I definately don't want to my account deleted for trying to make her feel better about this, but when I read that, my heart bled for her. Please, guys, just stop acting like it's a joke. Please. It is a real and painful situation that she is obviously taking every step she can think of to try and fix. Why is that funny?

Why do you think that none of us have hurt and been hurt in a similar manner?


This is NOT an emotional support board. We deal with legalities. Even those of us who may have perhaps been abused. Or perhaps have suffered the loss of a child. Maybe have been widowed. Have dealt with something similar.

Do you really think that we're somehow robots incapable of feeling? You'd be wrong. Very wrong.

 

[shandramarie13]

Yes, I agree with you whole heartedly. In my opinion Liega started this thread with a very simple, nonemotional post, and got angry when she was met with such a provoking answer. Honestly, I would like to know if there may be a loop hole any where or another avenue all together that could accomplish this goal for her because I feel for her and think she deserves the chance to try anything that she thinks would make her happier in her life with as little obstacle as possible. Even if she did create that obstacle herself by trying to keep emotion out of it in the first place.

 

[justalayman]

Oh, ok, valid point. I still wish you guys would take her a bit more seriously, I feel bad for this girl, how would you feel if you were in her shoes and a bunch of legal professionals seemed to be getting a kick out of your pain? She deserves a real and professional answer even if she does have mental problems and anger issues. I can tell from the second post she made that this is very important to her. I don't want to argue with anyone or cause a stink, I definately don't want to my account deleted for trying to make her feel better about this, but when I read that, my heart bled for her. Please, guys, just stop acting like it's a joke. Please. It is a real and painful situation that she is obviously taking every step she can think of to try and fix. Why is that funny?

I'll let you in on a secret. I am very close to a person this happened to only it wasn't her adopted father. I have been helping her deal with this for about 35 years now.

OP's issues were addressed and once it was understood why she even asked, I do not see where anybody made fun of her or made light of the situation.

 

[shandramarie13]

All I was trying to say in the first place was that I think she deserves a straight answer without a big stink and for some reason my saying that seems to have caused another big stink. If you look, nextwifes answer didn't give her any of the information she asked for, it only states what she probably already knows and ends with a question that doesn't matter, I can see why it would have upset her. She was a kid and shouldn't be punished for her parents' poor decisions. I honestly don't think she should have had to address those issues to get a professional answer in the first place, but you are right, once she had to do that, almost everyone has been professional. They even took time to discuss what they'd be having on their lunch break. But as I said earlier, I definately don't want to argue with a bunch of legal professionals. I for one am going to stop clogging this girls page with petty nitt picking and hope she gets the answer that may point her in the right direction**************

Hang in there Leiga.

 

[nextwife]

This thread was not posted as a "Can a child who was raped by a parent have his name removed from the birth certificate" thread.

Because the question she should have asked if she wanted a correct answer really is unrelated to adoption. We can't read minds.

Try reading the archives by doing a search under "remove adoptive parent from birth certificate" and you will see that most of those were due to moms playing musical daddy.

 

[stealth2]

Thank you Shandra, but be careful, they already had me booted for defending myself against that self rightious cow. I had to create a new account just to check for any other advice, which I'm sure will also be deleted. You are right, I asked for legal advice not a psychiatric evaluation, beleive me, I know I'm unhealthy from this, that's what happens to rape survivors, and I have been through my therapy for it, I just dont think it's right that I should have to live with my rapists name. It's a real shame I couldn't just get a straight professional answer until after I spilled that can of worms on here. Then I get deleted for sticking up for myself. I will definately be recommending this site to all of my freinds.

Then just change your name, already!

 

[Silverplum]

All I was trying to say in the first place was...

Something highly insulting on a personal level to one of our senior members. Others have quoted your mean words already.

Your comments and "thoughts" are entirely unwelcome here.

 

[Antigone*]

Then just change your name, already!

That would resolve her whole issue to the best legal community's ability. The OP has several other issues that only the OP can make better(worse).

I can tell at the moment that she is hell bent on worse rather than better ~ and I didn't need crystal to tell me that