adult stepchild adoption

[nanamonkey26]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California
I'm going to adopt my adult stepdaughter who has two young children. I know when I adopt her, her mother will have no parental rights any longer. But what about my stepdaughter's children? Her mother has narcissistic personality disorder and borderline personality disorder and my stepdaughter does not want her mother to have contact with her children. Will her mother have grandparent rights or still be legally related to my stepdaughter's children? My stepdaughter's ex-husband maintains a relationship with her mother. is there a way to restrict him from providing access to the children for her?

 

[Proserpina]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California
I'm going to adopt my adult stepdaughter who has two young children. I know when I adopt her, her mother will have no parental rights any longer. But what about my stepdaughter's children? Her mother has narcissistic personality disorder and borderline personality disorder and my stepdaughter does not want her mother to have contact with her children. Will her mother have grandparent rights or still be legally related to my stepdaughter's children? My stepdaughter's ex-husband maintains a relationship with her mother. is there a way to restrict him from providing access to the children for her?

If I may ask, what is the reason for the adult adoption?

 

[mistoffolees]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California
I'm going to adopt my adult stepdaughter who has two young children. I know when I adopt her, her mother will have no parental rights any longer. But what about my stepdaughter's children? Her mother has narcissistic personality disorder and borderline personality disorder and my stepdaughter does not want her mother to have contact with her children. Will her mother have grandparent rights or still be legally related to my stepdaughter's children? My stepdaughter's ex-husband maintains a relationship with her mother. is there a way to restrict him from providing access to the children for her?

Dad has the right to have a relationship with the kids. If he has court-ordered visitation rights, then he is allowed to exercise them. Unless there's a court order specifically stating otherwise, he's free to let the kids see his mother.

In order to prevent it, you would have to show that Grandma is a clear danger to the kids, probably by obtaining a restraining order against grandma. What evidence is there to support that?

 

[Rushia]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California
I'm going to adopt my adult stepdaughter who has two young children. I know when I adopt her, her mother will have no parental rights any longer. But what about my stepdaughter's children? Her mother has narcissistic personality disorder and borderline personality disorder and my stepdaughter does not want her mother to have contact with her children. Will her mother have grandparent rights or still be legally related to my stepdaughter's children? My stepdaughter's ex-husband maintains a relationship with her mother. is there a way to restrict him from providing access to the children for her?

The grandmother never had any rights to begin with. Grandparents do not have an inherent right to their grandchildren. Even if you do an adult adoption it might not prevent her from suing for gpv. Check the state statues of the minor children's residence.

Dad has the right to have a relationship with the kids. If he has court-ordered visitation rights, then he is allowed to exercise them. Unless there's a court order specifically stating otherwise, he's free to let the kids see his mother.

In order to prevent it, you would have to show that Grandma is a clear danger to the kids, probably by obtaining a restraining order against grandma. What evidence is there to support that?

Misto, If I read that right, father is on good terms with the maternal grandmother, but it doesn't change the answer that he has every right to take them to see her if that is his wish.

 

[ecmst12]

If she's an adult her mother doesn't have any parental rights ANYWAY.

 

[nanamonkey26]

The childrens' father does have the right at this time to take the children to see their maternal grandmother. That may change if we can get a restraining order as we do have pictures of 4 year old's wooden spoon bruises on his back and legs from grandmother, something my step-daughter experienced throughout her life and has seen her mother do to her children before. Picture Joan Crawford, Mommie Dearest.

My step-daughter encourages a relationship between her ex-husband and their children and doesn't have a problem with him having more time with them. It's her mother she has a problem with. She suffered emotional and physical abuse all her life from her mother and does not want to subject her children to the same.

Maternal grandmother left phone messages for her daughter saying that she would pay all attorney fees for father to get 50% custody so that she could have the children on his time. He had little interest outside his every other weekend visits before that. Maternal grandmother is now doing just this. She is paying all his attorney fees and is now paying for half of the court ordered evaluation.

However, my questions was, does legally severing the parent/child relationship between my step-daughter her and her mother via my adoption of her also sever the legal relationship between grandmother and grandchildren?

 

[nanamonkey26]

Proserpina, reason for adoption is that my step-daughter feels that I am the only real mother she has ever had. Her mother has narcissistic personality disorder and borderline personality (witch version) and has physically and emotionally abused her and her brother all of their lives. Both of them have severed their relationship with their mother. My stepdaughter and I are very close and we want to make it official that I am her mother and she is my daughter.

 

[Proserpina]

The childrens' father does have the right at this time to take the children to see their maternal grandmother. That may change if we can get a restraining order as we do have pictures of 4 year old's wooden spoon bruises on his back and legs from grandmother, something my step-daughter experienced throughout her life and has seen her mother do to her children before. Picture Joan Crawford, Mommie Dearest.

What happened when CPS were called?

Because CPS were called of course, right?

My step-daughter encourages a relationship between her ex-husband and their children and doesn't have a problem with him having more time with them. It's her mother she has a problem with. She suffered emotional and physical abuse all her life from her mother and does not want to subject her children to the same.

Maternal grandmother left phone messages for her daughter saying that she would pay all attorney fees for father to get 50% custody so that she could have the children on his time. He had little interest outside his every other weekend visits before that. Maternal grandmother is now doing just this. She is paying all his attorney fees and is now paying for half of the court ordered evaluation.

However, my questions was, does legally severing the parent/child relationship between my step-daughter her and her mother via my adoption of her also sever the legal relationship between grandmother and grandchildren?

I have to ask. Why does it matter?

Dad apparently seems to think Grandma has every right to see the children - and it's absolutely HIS right to allow contact during his parenting time. This would apply whether there is a legal relationship between grandma and grandchildren or whether grandma was someone he met on the street 3 days ago.