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What is the name of your state? CA
My sister (who's in her mid 30s) has been with her husband (who's also in his mid 30s) for many years and recently gave birth to a baby girl almost 5 months ago. They had a common law marriage (was never legalized) and was living together for almost a year when she finally decided to leave him for good. She left him because according to her, he was unfit (as a husband and a father), irresponsible, lazy, and very immature. He was unemployed for several months, but kept that fact hidden from her until she found out through his sister. Every day, he would leave for the day and would not return until 9 or 10 p.m. at night. He is not motivated to find work or feel that he needs to work on anything to improve their relationship (even for the benefit of his child). They were arguing a lot and my sister did not feel that this was a good environment to raise her daughter in.
She is now living with my parents and has made the decision to not have any contact with her husband and she does not want her daughter to have any contact/relationship with him either. She has been there for about a month now and her husband has not made any attempt to contact or visit with his daughter. He does not seem interested in being involved in his daughter's life or my sister's and he is not willing to change for anybody....so my question is how or what would my sister need to do at this point to obtain sole custody of her daughter?
She works full time and in the next several weeks, she will have to drop her daughter off to daycare and she does not want to worry about coming to pick her daughter up one day and find out that she has been taken by her father (who has not been involved in her care, but may take her out of spite for my sister). She wants to do what is within her legal right as a mother to ensure that her daughter can be raised in a loving, healthy environment with responsible people who can provide her with good, moral values and have a positive influence in her life. Thank you for your assistance in this matter.
from Concerned Sister
My sister (who's in her mid 30s) has been with her husband (who's also in his mid 30s) for many years and recently gave birth to a baby girl almost 5 months ago. They had a common law marriage (was never legalized) and was living together for almost a year when she finally decided to leave him for good. She left him because according to her, he was unfit (as a husband and a father), irresponsible, lazy, and very immature. He was unemployed for several months, but kept that fact hidden from her until she found out through his sister. Every day, he would leave for the day and would not return until 9 or 10 p.m. at night. He is not motivated to find work or feel that he needs to work on anything to improve their relationship (even for the benefit of his child). They were arguing a lot and my sister did not feel that this was a good environment to raise her daughter in.
She is now living with my parents and has made the decision to not have any contact with her husband and she does not want her daughter to have any contact/relationship with him either. She has been there for about a month now and her husband has not made any attempt to contact or visit with his daughter. He does not seem interested in being involved in his daughter's life or my sister's and he is not willing to change for anybody....so my question is how or what would my sister need to do at this point to obtain sole custody of her daughter?
She works full time and in the next several weeks, she will have to drop her daughter off to daycare and she does not want to worry about coming to pick her daughter up one day and find out that she has been taken by her father (who has not been involved in her care, but may take her out of spite for my sister). She wants to do what is within her legal right as a mother to ensure that her daughter can be raised in a loving, healthy environment with responsible people who can provide her with good, moral values and have a positive influence in her life. Thank you for your assistance in this matter.
from Concerned Sister