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[nlantrobus]

What is the name of your state?CA
Kind of long story, but will try to make it short, My son is 13 and has lived with me, however recently the school options around my house are pretty bad, his father who has visitation lives in a nice area and the school is wonderful, this year we enrolled him there and stated his address as his fathers. Althought I take him to school everday and then pick him up after his father signs his homework I am worried. I have never asked for an increase in child support (although everyone who hears how much pretty much laughs) but I really need to. He pays 79.50 on the 1st and 15th. I lost my job 3 months ago and struggle with just the everyday stuff let alone the gas. But I guess my question is, if I try to change the child support, can he get custody since I my son is going to school by his house?

 

[jen0923]

Kinda scarey - but I think things look more to your side. It sounds like you have a working relationship with the father, and you are doing what is best for your son, even though it is not easy, so that makes your case look strong. I would say try approaching the school board, I'm sorry I don't know the law there, but here in WI we recently had a law amended that states the school district can accept children that live outside the district. I would suggest seeing if you can get your son accepted from your address, now that he is already enrolled, perhaps it would be considered. Remember too, you are the mother and regardless of how politically correct it is - you still have more pull than the father. Losing custody is pretty tough to do, there would be an investigation of both parties and how and why, and it sounds like you have maintained a working relationship thus far. Plus, if this would be considered fraudulent behaviour, BOTH parents were involved, not just one of you I would not suggest rolling over for this guy regardless, $160 per month is not much (I know, I am supposed to recieve a whopping $140 per month). A 13 year old boy EATS that much in no time, get what you need to make this work, you son's future depends on it.

 

[Britlandco]

Nah

I wouldn't think so. It appears that you are working towards the best interest of the child in every way. Just because you are using his address for the school doesn't mean a thing. Modifying child support is a relatively simple process. The judge may lower your salary to minimum wage since you are not working or he may inpute it based on what you were making before you lost your job. Be careful and make sure these numbers don't backfire on you somehow!

 

[no$$4us]

CA--child support

You will not lose custody because he can provide for them better.
That is a common story men use when they don't want to pay.
There is always the threat that they are better off--but then they were okay with you not having a job when you were married.
They were happy with you raising the kids when you were married.
Suddenly the kids are a weapon to be used since you have less skills and not enough guts to hire a real attorney.
Get a really good attorney and just once --ask for what you want.
Get on the internet and get an internet detective service or public records information if you need to.
I found out my ex's attorney had 3 speeding tickets last year, he is a repubican and where he lives, who he is married to and where he would vote.
I found many of my ex' old address', he arrest record, he voting record, his driver's license history and much more.
Need help feel free to email me.
I am sick of the promises from child support but a big advocate in help yourself and email your city and state officials.
MAKE A SCENE girl --you count too.

 

[stealth2]

I would say try approaching the school board, I'm sorry I don't know the law there, but here in WI we recently had a law amended that states the school district can accept children that live outside the district. I would suggest seeing if you can get your son accepted from your address, now that he is already enrolled, perhaps it would be considered.

Think this through before actually doing it. MOST districts will accept out of district students if they have space - AT A PRICE. As in - tuition that can be on the order of $10,000+ per kid.

What you're essentially doing at this point is defrauding the school district. Dad's house is NOT your kid's legal address, nor does he live there. If the school finds out about what you're doing - expect to be paying them for the pleasure.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

You will not lose custody because he can provide for them better.
That is a common story men use when they don't want to pay.
There is always the threat that they are better off--but then they were okay with you not having a job when you were married.
They were happy with you raising the kids when you were married.
Suddenly the kids are a weapon to be used since you have less skills and not enough guts to hire a real attorney.
Get a really good attorney and just once --ask for what you want.
Get on the internet and get an internet detective service or public records information if you need to.
I found out my ex's attorney had 3 speeding tickets last year, he is a repubican and where he lives, who he is married to and where he would vote.
I found many of my ex' old address', he arrest record, he voting record, his driver's license history and much more.
Need help feel free to email me.
I am sick of the promises from child support but a big advocate in help yourself and email your city and state officials.
MAKE A SCENE girl --you count too.

This post has put you very close to crossing the line on this forum. Would you like to rethink this information or have someone do that for you?

 

[nextwife]

You will not lose custody because he can provide for them better.
That is a common story men use when they don't want to pay.
There is always the threat that they are better off--but then they were okay with you not having a job when you were married.
They were happy with you raising the kids when you were married.
Suddenly the kids are a weapon to be used since you have less skills and not enough guts to hire a real attorney.
Get a really good attorney and just once --ask for what you want.
Get on the internet and get an internet detective service or public records information if you need to.
I found out my ex's attorney had 3 speeding tickets last year, he is a repubican and where he lives, who he is married to and where he would vote.
I found many of my ex' old address', he arrest record, he voting record, his driver's license history and much more.
Need help feel free to email me.
I am sick of the promises from child support but a big advocate in help yourself and email your city and state officials.
MAKE A SCENE girl --you count too.

WTF is it your business where your ex's attorney lives or votes? It frankly has nothing to do with you.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

WTF is it your business where your ex's attorney lives or votes? It frankly has nothing to do with you.

Mary is having a talk with her as we speak

 

[stealth2]

WTF is it your business where your ex's attorney lives or votes? It frankly has nothing to do with you.

I sorta wondered that as well.

 

[nlantrobus]

You will not lose custody because he can provide for them better.
That is a common story men use when they don't want to pay.
There is always the threat that they are better off--but then they were okay with you not having a job when you were married.
They were happy with you raising the kids when you were married.
Suddenly the kids are a weapon to be used since you have less skills and not enough guts to hire a real attorney.
Get a really good attorney and just once --ask for what you want.
Get on the internet and get an internet detective service or public records information if you need to.
I found out my ex's attorney had 3 speeding tickets last year, he is a repubican and where he lives, who he is married to and where he would vote.
I found many of my ex' old address', he arrest record, he voting record, his driver's license history and much more.
Need help feel free to email me.
I am sick of the promises from child support but a big advocate in help yourself and email your city and state officials.
MAKE A SCENE girl --you count too.

Wow sounds like you went through alot, I have read others replies to you and althought some of this is extreme I understand how upsetting going through this is. Actually I have not tried to up the child support because of what I went through the first time. I am so tired of fighting, especially over what some may just naturally now what is right. I dont want money for myself, I have done without plenty but it would be nice if I could get my childclothes he would like, and right now he actually grew two shoe sizes withing 3 months. And when things get desperate, instead of asking for more help I have just asked for the support a week early.Anyways thank you for responding. And I guess alot of people have answered my question.

 

[Bitter Mom]

Who?

New to this forum. Seen Mary's name mentioned a few times. Is she the moderator? Just wondering...

 

[no$$4us]

who is Mary

I emailed the forum in response to Belizebreeze's threat and found out who Mary is. She is the moderator and I never was contacted as Belizebreeze's stated in the posts. I am glad I checked into this before I had to put up with any further intimidation.