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Hello All, I'm back again looking for some advice on whether to submit documentation to my personnel file on my recent encounter with my boss. I find this site to be very informative. I have been here not too long ago describing my situation at work with my boss and his sidekick manager (both of whom hate me so much and have so much power that they can justify anything they do with me). Anyway, I hope you recall; here's the latest encounter:
I had to submit a requisition for a day off (tomorrow actually) which happens to fall on a day when my counterpart is in progress with her vacation. It is the first time that I had to go to my boss with this since he gave ME (not my counterpart) a stipulation 4 years ago that I was never to be off at the same time as her. He declined the day. I thought I would be honest with him, and I explained that my family was really in a predicament and needed my help - I had to take my dad to the hospital for testing as he needed to have major surgery right away. This ensued into a very heated debate where he questioned my knowledge of the time off requisition form, questioned my awareness of his rule, analyzed every member of my family posing solutions to my predicament, telling me that if I don't show up to work on that day, I would be considered abusive and "insubordinate" - that magic word again.
As upset and worked up as I was, I answered him truthfully on every count. I told him that I was well aware of the purpose of the form and that my counterpart was on vacation, but I had no choice but to ask for the day off. On every proposition he put to me in his endeavor to resolve my family situation I explained my situation: My 2 sisters (one of which works also) are tied down with children in school and were not able to be out of town all day because they had to pick the kids up. My boss kept probing deeper into my family telling me that I also worked full time, telling me that my brother-in-law should take off from his job, etc., etc., etc. I just continued to answer him rationally explaining every family member's situation and role. My boss kept chanting "it's not my problem, it's not my problem, they are not YOUR kids, they are not YOUR kids." Upon being accused of being abusive and insubordinate, I said that I disagreed with his judgment and perceived his judgement as "harsh" as I have NEVER gone to him with a situation in the 4 years that he made his rule upon ME. He persisted that I did not check out all of my avenues and he ended with his seemingly simple proposition of rescheduling my dad's testing. Upon my finding out if the neurosurgeon's office would reschedule my dad's testing, I should approach my boss again.
I never approached my boss again (and who would!). I did have my father call his surgeon's office and learned that because of time constraints and the urgent need of his surgery, his pre-testing could not be rescheduled. The next day I, matter-of-factly, presented this revelation of knowledge to my boss as an fyi without asking for reconsideration of the day off, and I just walked away!
My boss immediately ran to personnel to consult with our employment manager. (I found this out on my own, not by my boss).
[My boss knows of my family situation but he is coached and fueled by his sidekick manager/wife who hates me so much and keeps me under close watch. Sidekick shadows me so as I do not get away with anything that could be perceived as a perc for herself. Sidekick knows of my situation at home also, but hates me soooooo much that she gave me a statement at one point a while back telling me that "I" will never be given ANY consideration.]
My boss insulted and threatened me as usual except that in this encounter he also insulted my family by belaboring on his premise that "I" did not check out all of my resources to take care of my father. My family and I are intelligent people and are aware of what our situation at hand is. I would only go to my boss when absolutely necessary as I have developed my daily practice of avoiding my boss and not say ANYTHING to him at all. I do remain in solitary confinement on the job. My boss oozes with personality, compassion, and niceness to all of his family/friends at the workplace and is always called a nice man. I guess that he just could not be nice to me, as usual, and help me out in my bind instead of making it harder for me.
Later that evening my boss emailed me (I saw the email from my home). In the email he stated that he reconsidered and would grant me the day off due to my "dire" circumstances. However, the paragraph that followed just litigated everything that I described above with the threat (and promise) that he would not be as flexible with me in the future, along with an except from our attendance policy describing an unscheduled absence as an occurrence on the attendance record. Needless to say, I declined the day off so as not to jeopardize anything that I may have to do in the future. My father, unfortunately, is going on his own into the city by train as disabled and decrepit as he is. Maybe a vagrant will offer him some assistance and help him to walk.
Anyway, back to my first paragraph, I am just seeking advice on whether I should submit this documentation to my personnel file, and/or perhaps, even have someone in personnel read it (but not the employment manager). Any advice as always is appreciated. You're the experts.
Hope everybody had a nice holiday.
Hello All, I'm back again looking for some advice on whether to submit documentation to my personnel file on my recent encounter with my boss. I find this site to be very informative. I have been here not too long ago describing my situation at work with my boss and his sidekick manager (both of whom hate me so much and have so much power that they can justify anything they do with me). Anyway, I hope you recall; here's the latest encounter:
I had to submit a requisition for a day off (tomorrow actually) which happens to fall on a day when my counterpart is in progress with her vacation. It is the first time that I had to go to my boss with this since he gave ME (not my counterpart) a stipulation 4 years ago that I was never to be off at the same time as her. He declined the day. I thought I would be honest with him, and I explained that my family was really in a predicament and needed my help - I had to take my dad to the hospital for testing as he needed to have major surgery right away. This ensued into a very heated debate where he questioned my knowledge of the time off requisition form, questioned my awareness of his rule, analyzed every member of my family posing solutions to my predicament, telling me that if I don't show up to work on that day, I would be considered abusive and "insubordinate" - that magic word again.
As upset and worked up as I was, I answered him truthfully on every count. I told him that I was well aware of the purpose of the form and that my counterpart was on vacation, but I had no choice but to ask for the day off. On every proposition he put to me in his endeavor to resolve my family situation I explained my situation: My 2 sisters (one of which works also) are tied down with children in school and were not able to be out of town all day because they had to pick the kids up. My boss kept probing deeper into my family telling me that I also worked full time, telling me that my brother-in-law should take off from his job, etc., etc., etc. I just continued to answer him rationally explaining every family member's situation and role. My boss kept chanting "it's not my problem, it's not my problem, they are not YOUR kids, they are not YOUR kids." Upon being accused of being abusive and insubordinate, I said that I disagreed with his judgment and perceived his judgement as "harsh" as I have NEVER gone to him with a situation in the 4 years that he made his rule upon ME. He persisted that I did not check out all of my avenues and he ended with his seemingly simple proposition of rescheduling my dad's testing. Upon my finding out if the neurosurgeon's office would reschedule my dad's testing, I should approach my boss again.
I never approached my boss again (and who would!). I did have my father call his surgeon's office and learned that because of time constraints and the urgent need of his surgery, his pre-testing could not be rescheduled. The next day I, matter-of-factly, presented this revelation of knowledge to my boss as an fyi without asking for reconsideration of the day off, and I just walked away!
My boss immediately ran to personnel to consult with our employment manager. (I found this out on my own, not by my boss).
[My boss knows of my family situation but he is coached and fueled by his sidekick manager/wife who hates me so much and keeps me under close watch. Sidekick shadows me so as I do not get away with anything that could be perceived as a perc for herself. Sidekick knows of my situation at home also, but hates me soooooo much that she gave me a statement at one point a while back telling me that "I" will never be given ANY consideration.]
My boss insulted and threatened me as usual except that in this encounter he also insulted my family by belaboring on his premise that "I" did not check out all of my resources to take care of my father. My family and I are intelligent people and are aware of what our situation at hand is. I would only go to my boss when absolutely necessary as I have developed my daily practice of avoiding my boss and not say ANYTHING to him at all. I do remain in solitary confinement on the job. My boss oozes with personality, compassion, and niceness to all of his family/friends at the workplace and is always called a nice man. I guess that he just could not be nice to me, as usual, and help me out in my bind instead of making it harder for me.
Later that evening my boss emailed me (I saw the email from my home). In the email he stated that he reconsidered and would grant me the day off due to my "dire" circumstances. However, the paragraph that followed just litigated everything that I described above with the threat (and promise) that he would not be as flexible with me in the future, along with an except from our attendance policy describing an unscheduled absence as an occurrence on the attendance record. Needless to say, I declined the day off so as not to jeopardize anything that I may have to do in the future. My father, unfortunately, is going on his own into the city by train as disabled and decrepit as he is. Maybe a vagrant will offer him some assistance and help him to walk.
Anyway, back to my first paragraph, I am just seeking advice on whether I should submit this documentation to my personnel file, and/or perhaps, even have someone in personnel read it (but not the employment manager). Any advice as always is appreciated. You're the experts.
Hope everybody had a nice holiday.