My husband gave up (after having sole legal/physical custody for 7 years), teenagers, you know, don't like the rules. Long story, I'm not going to go into it.
A good story, my nephews finance (23), told me she found her father (no contact since 2 years old) by way of some links I gave her. Asked if she should contact him, which of course! They wrote at first, then talked. She traveled from VA to MA to see him. He never mentioned on the phone what he wanted to show her and she never asked him directly why he *left*. When she arrived at his house, he opened up his bottom dresser. The entire thing was filled with old letters (complete with checks) RETURNED TO SENDER/REFUSED by HER MOTHER. The same MOTHER who said he went to the store for milk & never came back. That she had never heard from him again. That he was just trash. LIAR! He was at sea, she left for another man, then kept moving, moving, moving. (20 years ago, fathers had little rights). Needless to say, the relationship with Mommy Dearest has dwindled to nothing these days....sometimes, what goes around, come around ..and sometimes, it does so IN SPADES.
Best of luck to you!
KAT
A good story, my nephews finance (23), told me she found her father (no contact since 2 years old) by way of some links I gave her. Asked if she should contact him, which of course! They wrote at first, then talked. She traveled from VA to MA to see him. He never mentioned on the phone what he wanted to show her and she never asked him directly why he *left*. When she arrived at his house, he opened up his bottom dresser. The entire thing was filled with old letters (complete with checks) RETURNED TO SENDER/REFUSED by HER MOTHER. The same MOTHER who said he went to the store for milk & never came back. That she had never heard from him again. That he was just trash. LIAR! He was at sea, she left for another man, then kept moving, moving, moving. (20 years ago, fathers had little rights). Needless to say, the relationship with Mommy Dearest has dwindled to nothing these days....sometimes, what goes around, come around ..and sometimes, it does so IN SPADES.
Best of luck to you!
KAT