Baby's last name

[neopandora]

I applied to have my name legally changed in January. My name was officially changed in mid March. The name I changed it to was not my maiden name (which I hated) but a name that I liked. Baby was born shortly before my name was changed legally. I gave baby my new last name before I had it, because I had my court date to change mine in a matter of days. I gave baby that name due to my ex saying so many times that he doesn't want to be involved. Yes, he is involved now but he is so flaky that I don't feel I can depend on him long term.

I'm curious as to how she gave the baby a last name that was neither the Mother's or the Father's at birth. Does anyone know if you can arbitrarily pick any surname at birth without purporting it is one of the parent's surnames?

Also, for what it's worth, I read this thread virtually in its entirety and never noticed a mob mentality OP was waaaay too concerned that Dad didn't want a child IF they were not going to be married - as if any parent expressing doubts of having a child while going through a divorce was the best option. From her original post, it seemed to me Dad sorted it all out long before child was born. I know lots of really great parents who expressed doubts about having a child in a whole lot of not-ideal-situations but that faded away once the child was born. Sounds like it's the case with this Dad.

OP - You and the Father have at least 18 years of parenting together and each of your lives to cooperate and raise this child. If you look at naming the child as one of the first parenting decisions the two of you will make together, you'll go a long way toward coparenting effectively.

The alternative is for each of you to spend lots of money on lawyers, take lots of your time to stand in front of a judge to make these major decisions for both of you. And, I can pretty much promise you, that if you start in
Court with a child this young arguing over naming the child, you will be in Court often enough that after a couple more times in Court, the Judge will start making decisions neither parent will like just to attempt to make the two of you start working together.

 

[LdiJ]

I'm curious as to how she gave the baby a last name that was neither the Mother's or the Father's at birth. Does anyone know if you can arbitrarily pick any surname at birth without purporting it is one of the parent's surnames?

Also, for what it's worth, I read this thread virtually in its entirety and never noticed a mob mentality OP was waaaay too concerned that Dad didn't want a child IF they were not going to be married - as if any parent expressing doubts of having a child while going through a divorce was the best option. From her original post, it seemed to me Dad sorted it all out long before child was born. I know lots of really great parents who expressed doubts about having a child in a whole lot of not-ideal-situations but that faded away once the child was born. Sounds like it's the case with this Dad.

OP - You and the Father have at least 18 years of parenting together and each of your lives to cooperate and raise this child. If you look at naming the child as one of the first parenting decisions the two of you will make together, you'll go a long way toward coparenting effectively.

The alternative is for each of you to spend lots of money on lawyers, take lots of your time to stand in front of a judge to make these major decisions for both of you. And, I can pretty much promise you, that if you start in
Court with a child this young arguing over naming the child, you will be in Court often enough that after a couple more times in Court, the Judge will start making decisions neither parent will like just to attempt to make the two of you start working together.

In most states, you can give your child any surname you like. You could name your child "Blue Moon" if you wanted to. We are a bit different that way.

In Mexico every child must have two last names, the father's first, and the mother's last. In fact, its that way in most of latin america. I think it is that way in Spain too.

In Italy, every child must have the father's surname (or the mother's if unwed) and a married woman may NOT take her husband's last name. She must keep the last name she was born with.

 

[CourtClerk]

I'm curious as to how she gave the baby a last name that was neither the Mother's or the Father's at birth. Does anyone know if you can arbitrarily pick any surname at birth without purporting it is one of the parent's surnames?

Also, for what it's worth, I read this thread virtually in its entirety and never noticed a mob mentality OP was waaaay too concerned that Dad didn't want a child IF they were not going to be married - as if any parent expressing doubts of having a child while going through a divorce was the best option. From her original post, it seemed to me Dad sorted it all out long before child was born. I know lots of really great parents who expressed doubts about having a child in a whole lot of not-ideal-situations but that faded away once the child was born. Sounds like it's the case with this Dad.

OP - You and the Father have at least 18 years of parenting together and each of your lives to cooperate and raise this child. If you look at naming the child as one of the first parenting decisions the two of you will make together, you'll go a long way toward coparenting effectively.

The alternative is for each of you to spend lots of money on lawyers, take lots of your time to stand in front of a judge to make these major decisions for both of you. And, I can pretty much promise you, that if you start in
Court with a child this young arguing over naming the child, you will be in Court often enough that after a couple more times in Court, the Judge will start making decisions neither parent will like just to attempt to make the two of you start working together.

At this point, I'm encouraging people to spend as much time in court as humanly possible. We need the revenue.

 

[Ohiogal]

In most states, you can give your child any surname you like. You could name your child "Blue Moon" if you wanted to. We are a bit different that way.

In Mexico every child must have two last names, the father's first, and the mother's last. In fact, its that way in most of latin america. I think it is that way in Spain too.

In Italy, every child must have the father's surname (or the mother's if unwed) and a married woman may NOT take her husband's last name. She must keep the last name she was born with.

You are incorrect -- unless of course you want to back up that statement by naming the 26 states that that is possible in.

 

[CourtClerk]

No. Only from your viewpoint. But by all means go with that line. Then follow it up with the fact that you are done with this thread and since someone disagreed with you that the OP should seek legal counsel. We'll wait.

Watch it... this could be construed as being "flamed and bashed."

 

[Ohiogal]

Watch it... this could be construed as being "flamed and bashed."

Apparently we flamed and bashed knowsome because he kept stating he was an attorney and was reported to be verified. That is not flamed and bashed. That is making sure that the standards here are maintained.

 

[CourtClerk]

Apparently we flamed and bashed knowsome because he kept stating he was an attorney and was reported to be verified. That is not flamed and bashed. That is making sure that the standards here are maintained.

I don't need an explanation... everyone knows I care not what Ld thinks about anything.. including the weather.

 

[Ohiogal]

I don't need an explanation... everyone knows I care not what Ld thinks about anything.. including the weather.

Explanation not for you. Rather for those who believe that knowsome was bashed and flamed. Can we guess who that might be? Educating the ignorant is a specialization. Some of us excel at it. Others prefer to remain ignorant.

 

[neopandora]

At this point, I'm encouraging people to spend as much time in court as humanly possible. We need the revenue.

That made me almost spit my Coke out. I have a feeling that my advice on the matter probably went in one ear and out the other, so there's bound to be plenty of Court still left to be had.

 

[Proserpina]

That made me almost spit my Coke out. I have a feeling that my advice on the matter probably went in one ear and out the other, so there's bound to be plenty of Court still left to be had.

Welcome to the club