I am in the same situation as you are. I had to take my son to counseling, but I ended up having to stop that because of the cost. His counselor wanted to speak to his dad about what he was doing and how it was affecting my son and he wouldn't do it.He would say it wasn't from him. He comes and goes whenever he wants and never calls in between visits. He doesn't think this has any harm on my son. The best thing i have found to help so far is to be there and to get him interested in activities. They seem to help a lot.