from the Peanut Gallery
I had many many issues with having a different last name as my child- I hyphenated because of it. Years later I remarried and came upon similar problems again....so I changed my name to be a hyphenated version of both xhusband's names. Now I don't have any part of my maiden name, BUT I have each of my children's last names. Boy has it helped!
I moved once and school records were sent to NCP instead of me, I had months of untangling for benefits (ins.) and even difficulty obtaining a passport at one time.
To address the OP's issue though- I think in society is often a very important issue for a father to have his children carry their last name. And I agree with that belief. Try offering up the idea of Mom hyphenating- or let her know you'll be filing in court for a name change. I don't advise court fights over names, but if the issue is so important to you- that's an idea/avenue to try.
My 2c, Take or Toss
I had many many issues with having a different last name as my child- I hyphenated because of it. Years later I remarried and came upon similar problems again....so I changed my name to be a hyphenated version of both xhusband's names. Now I don't have any part of my maiden name, BUT I have each of my children's last names. Boy has it helped!
I moved once and school records were sent to NCP instead of me, I had months of untangling for benefits (ins.) and even difficulty obtaining a passport at one time.
To address the OP's issue though- I think in society is often a very important issue for a father to have his children carry their last name. And I agree with that belief. Try offering up the idea of Mom hyphenating- or let her know you'll be filing in court for a name change. I don't advise court fights over names, but if the issue is so important to you- that's an idea/avenue to try.
My 2c, Take or Toss