birthing expenses

[dgingrich]

By the way, we already know from domestic relations, that when we take 100% custody of the child, the 650.00 he pays for CS/birthing expenses will NOT be dropped. The entire 650 per month will still be taken from his paycheck to pay back the birthing expenses and his income tax check will be intercepted until every penny is paid back. In the meantime it still shows that he is in arrears on CS on his credit report 16,500.00 when he is not. We tried to get a loan to buy a house earlier this year but couldn't because of this. I don't make enough on my own to qualify for a loan. Guess he should just quit his job, become a fulltime "student" and cry poverty so he can also get his legal bills paid for by the citizen's of PA. Eggdonor also claims that the only money she has coming in on a regular basis is grant money for her schooling even though she hasn't been in school since May.

 

[stealth2]

That wouldn't work, either. His debt to the state would simply accrue interest.

 

[dgingrich]

Yeah, I know. He has every intention of repaying this. The funny thing is, when she was preggers my BF had insurance that would have covered this, but instead of letting him know he gets a 3 am phone call from the hospital saying she just had a baby. Because the wheels of welfare had already been put into motion there was no stopping that train. The child was a preemie and in the hospital on life support for a while, hence the huge bill.

 

[annefan]

The poor child!!!
It's obvious from the lifestyles and the drama, NOBODY wants to pay a meager price back to the state for the BENEFIT AND JOY of having this child with them!

Repulsive.

 

[annefan]

.....We tried to get a loan to buy a house earlier this year but couldn't because of this. I don't make enough on my own to qualify for a loan. Guess he should just quit his job, become a fulltime "student" and cry poverty so he can also get his legal bills paid for by the citizen's of PA. Eggdonor also claims that the only money she has coming in on a regular basis is grant money for her schooling even though she hasn't been in school since May.

And count your lucky stars you couldn't jump the gun and purchase a house. Guess who would own a small chunk of it?

Imagine this small child when he or she is all grown up hearing you refer to his/her mother as Eggdonor. This thread is disgusting.

 

[dgingrich]

Let's see, mom see's the child one nite per month, contributes NOTHING to his welfare and well being, abandons one child, but takes the other with her. Could care less if this child has anything to eat, warm to wear, roof over his head, does well in school, is a productive citizen, is taught respect, to love others, to keep his head high, that he is truly loved by the ones who have him. YEP sounds like an eggdonor to me. I just finished rebuilding a room that this child destroyed because his "mommy" didn't call when she said she would for the third nite in a row. Try to explain why mommy didn't come for him when she said she would. Try to explain why mommy only takes him overnite when she's supposed to have him for three days at a shot. Please don't judge until you have walked in someone else's shoes. I only came here looking for some advice, not to be frickin strung up like some ungrateful wench. Nobody was whining about having to pay this back to the state, I was only wondering why it's only the father who has to pay it back? If the lying ***** would have been upfront from the get go, we wouldn't be having this conversation.

 

[annefan]

Please don't judge until you have walked in someone else's shoes.

I have. Yours.

I only came here looking for some advice, not to be frickin strung up like some ungrateful wench.

Not an ungrateful wench. A SMARTER wench.

So you only came on here looking for some advice? Well, here's some advice: Remove Thyself. It is HIS issue, it is HIS business. Not yours. YOU are taking it upon yourself to step in where you don't belong (i.e. the kids bedroom, comforting the kids in MOMs absence, etc. etc.etc.) Dear soul, you WILL know better someday.

 

[dgingrich]

O.K., does that include not taking care of this child as if he were my own? Should I let the mother of the year do it because she has shown such a good track record? Anyway I look at it, it is my business. It effects everything I do and everything I say. If I didn't step in and make it my business God knows where this child would be right now. Forgive me oh great Senior's for wanting this child to have some semblance of a normal childhood. Next time I come across a child that needs an adult to step in I'll just keep in mind the advice of you great Senior's and mind my own business. "It takes a village" remember?

 

[babymakesone]

If I didn't step in and make it my business God knows where this child would be right now.

How involved is the child's father in his life? It seems like you step in & take care of everything. Is he doing anything or just being a "sperm donor"?

I understand how hard it can be to step back, but it does make things easier. Yes, be there for the child when he needs you, but remember that you & his father are not married so you aren't his stepmother yet. Things can happen & you 2 could end up breaking up. Then what?

 

[annefan]

O.K., does that include not taking care of this child as if he were my own? Should I let the mother of the year do it because she has shown such a good track record? Anyway I look at it, it is my business. It effects everything I do and everything I say. If I didn't step in and make it my business God knows where this child would be right now. Forgive me oh great Senior's for wanting this child to have some semblance of a normal childhood. Next time I come across a child that needs an adult to step in I'll just keep in mind the advice of you great Senior's and mind my own business. "It takes a village" remember?

It takes a village my azz. You want to make decisions for a child? You want to fix a bedroom for a child? You want to comfort a child? Go adopt a child then. I find it hard to believe that THIS child had a 'for adoption' sign written on his forehead. S/he has TWO parents. That's it. And it's very disheartening to see one of them is a former convict and the other really doesn't care. But it is NOT your place to involve yourself. But you won't listen to a word of advice from another who HAS been in your shoes. So, I've done what I could as far as 'advice' is concerned. But when your life turns upside down and you are propelled to blame someone for your future woes...just look in the mirror.
I am done, thank you and have a good life. Good luck to you, you're going to need it!

 

[annefan]

...And it's SeniorITA member. I don't have enough breath to make it to SENIOR status.

 

[LdiJ]

Regardless of all that, BOTH parents chose to make this child. Why should only ONE be asked to pay for the birthing costs? I mean, I could see that if mom were lying in a coma somewhere unable to work, but if both parents are able bodied, both parents should bear the financial responsibility.

My understanding is that normally the ncp is only made to pay back 1/2 of the birthing costs. Since the child was a preemie it wouldn't surprize me at all if the actual birthing costs weren't double what he is being made to pay back. That just occurred to me today.

 

[babymakesone]

My understanding is that normally the ncp is only made to pay back 1/2 of the birthing costs. Since the child was a preemie it wouldn't surprize me at all if the actual birthing costs weren't double what he is being made to pay back. That just occurred to me today.

I would have to agree with this. When I had my child at the end of 2001 by c-section, the total bill for ME was over $13,000; my child's bill was over $4,000. We were in the hospital for 3 1/2 days with no problems (other than the c-section).