I used to be a stepmother. The child called me mom and her mother had a fit, so it stopped. Regrettably though, any male BUD that she had was to be called Dad. My children were also very young when both my ex and I remarried and have had more children since. I think the kids just find it weird to hear the younger siblings using Mom and Dad, so we ALL just became Mom and Dad. It's great when the other children try to brag that their parents are still together cause mine both come back with "So? I have 2 mom's and 2 dad's! That's more than you have!"
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I used to be a stepmother. The child called me mom and her mother had a fit, so it stopped. Regrettably though, any male BUD that she had was to be called Dad. My children were also very young when both my ex and I remarried and have had more children since. I think the kids just find it weird to hear the younger siblings using Mom and Dad, so we ALL just became Mom and Dad. It's great when the other children try to brag that their parents are still together cause mine both come back with "So? I have 2 mom's and 2 dad's! That's more than you have!"
Just Blue
Senior Member
Iagree. If I had to deal with a step and that step wasn't trying to usurp my position and rights as a parent ...I would have no problem with my child/ren calling her "mom".
The four of you have an exceptional relationship.
i was thinking...if i was a stepmom, i'd be a little freaked out if some child starting calling me mom. that's just too weird for me. i know what it's like to have some woman (paternal grandmother) make my child call her mom. i don't remember my blood curdling like that before. i got to hear that lovely conversation first hand. my son corrected her.
yes, there are exceptions, but deep down, i really feel that ANY parent feels a slight tinge of jealousy at another person being called their beloved name. no matter how grown up they are trying to be. but then, that's just how i feel.
yes, there are exceptions, but deep down, i really feel that ANY parent feels a slight tinge of jealousy at another person being called their beloved name. no matter how grown up they are trying to be. but then, that's just how i feel.
kimberlywrites
Senior Member
My kids call stepmom her name, but stepmom said to me once "when the kids are with you, they're your kids. When they're with me, they're MY kids."
Um, no. Just....no. NO! I hated the way that sounded. They are ALWAYS my kids.
Um, no. Just....no. NO! I hated the way that sounded. They are ALWAYS my kids.
kimberlywrites
Senior Member
and this woman is still alive??
She followed it up with a big hug, as if to console me.
My hands were tempted to travel to her neck, but I was sitting there stiff as a board.
and this woman is still alive??
As Blue mentioned, we have an exceptional relationship. I feel nothing when she calls them her children. Her son on occasion has called me mom and she shrugs it off. As far as the four of us are concerned, all the kids are OURS.
I really think it just depends on the people involved.
kimberlywrites
Senior Member
Yeah. I might not have minded except the reason we were chatting in the first place was because of how she treats the kids when she's with them. She said she has "things wrong in my personality that make me say mean things." Basically she was telling me to butt out because when she has the kids, they're hers, yada yada yada.