Can a person give up their rights and not pay child support?

[dgingrich]

You are right. I don't understand it. I have a son who's father hasn't seen him in almost 2 years. Walks right by him in Wallyworld like he doesn't even know who he is. I also have a stepson who's mom abandoned him. But if your hubby has given up on his children than that's on him. Why don't you get another job so hubby can go after mommy dearest?

 

[StepmomsAreBest]

You are right. I don't understand it. I have a son who's father hasn't seen him in almost 2 years. Walks right by him in Wallyworld like he doesn't even know who he is. I also have a stepson who's mom abandoned him. But if your hubby has given up on his children than that's on him. Why don't you get another job so hubby can go after mommy dearest?

We were asked to leave this thread.

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

Uh.....hello. My husband isn't stupid. What do you think is going to happen if he works 3 jobs. Duh. Child support will dig their greedy little claws in it.Now that was not "Classy"

He already tried bringing in extra income. Only to have his CS increased because he was making more money. Ain't gonna happen again. Wouldn't that work out for the best? At least he'd know how to find his children, right?

Don't you get it? H-E D-O-E-S N-O-T K-N-O-W H-I-S C-H-I-L-D-R-E-N. THAT IS HIS FAULT!

The desire to fight for them is GONE, as they are complete strangers to him now. That is pretty sad. They may be better off.

As I said before, unless you have gone through this before, you can NEVER understand how a parent can get to the point of giving up. You don't have to go through it to understand that he had seven years.

AGAIN! He has rights under the law and did not utilize them for seven years.


I'm not getting into a pissing match with you, you just don't get it. Not my problem.



Sorry Stealth, missed your comment.

 

[dgingrich]

Anyway GIJane, this is just my opinion. Please do not give up on your child. You may not think so but she needs you. She is acting out for a reason. If there is anything you can do, do it if you haven't already. Keep a journal. Maybe someday you will be able to show it to her and she will understand where you were coming from. Keeping a journal really helped me (although I wasn't in your situation, It helped my son to understand alot of things later down the road)

 

[MinCA]

What you all don't understand is that the CPs here don't want the other parent around, just their money. If they can't afford the children on their own, then they should gladly allow the NCP some time to take care of the children, feed them, clothe them. By keeping the child(ren) away from the NCP is to say that the NCP is not really a parent. Why should my husband have to pay his ex-wife child support when she has him so alienated from him that the little girl calls another man Daddy? And her current boyfriend helps. If that jerk is so willing to help this b*tch keep a girl away from her father and wants the girl to call him Daddy, then he can pay for it. They are outright rich, we are living at half the poverty line from having to take off so much time to go to court. I am disabled.

The best way I can make to get you to understand. Say you and I bought a car together (chioldren are property here, like a car). I take the car and tell you you can't use it, or enjoy it, or have any say what I do with it, but you have to pay for the maintenence anyway, and for the gas. If I couldn't afford it on my own, I'd better be willing to allow you to have the car part of the time so that expenses could me more fairly split.

It's SELFISH of a CP to keep the children from the NCP, and even alienate, then to tell that NCP to also had over all his money.

This isn't about not loving the children or not wanting to support them. But if you are being scratched from being a parent, why should you have any parental responsibilities regarding money?

And if you are going to start on, "But if two people bring a child into this world together..." think of it this way. If financial responsibities should be split, so should parenting reponsibilities. Both people should have equal time raising that child. Bring a child into this world together, support the child together. but also raise the child together, if not side-by-side, then through 50-50 custody unelss one parent is truly unfit (no child molester should be allowed unsupervised visits!).

No loving, safe parent should be reduced to the status of visitor, or worse, as an invisible cash machine.

 

[stealth2]

What you all don't understand is that the CPs here don't want the other parent around, just their money.

A totally ignorant comment.

 

[SITLYNNE]

Paradise,
I'm still looking for the post and thread that stated " child support can be suspended because of contempt of visitation order" This advice was given to OP by ? (not sure). I re-read it several times because of my own situation. I am almost certain it was in the custody/visitation forum. The only other forums I read are child support, and I can't find it there either. It was posted last night after 3pm or this morning. As soon as I find it, I'll let you know.
gijanemom, I also am keeping a journal for my kids when they grow up. It may never help them, but it sure helps me feel better.

Paradise: found that post

OP_BlueHawksinAZ "ex using every trick in book to keep me from seeing my son" posted 2-4-05 6:56pm
response by: BlondeLebinese posted today at 6:22am
"You can also get any child support Suspended during the tiem of the Denial of Visitations. You have to file a petition and go to court.

Is this information not correct? Or in the OP state is this the law?

 

[StepmomsAreBest]

What you all don't understand is that the CPs here don't want the other parent around, just their money. If they can't afford the children on their own, then they should gladly allow the NCP some time to take care of the children, feed them, clothe them. By keeping the child(ren) away from the NCP is to say that the NCP is not really a parent. Why should my husband have to pay his ex-wife child support when she has him so alienated from him that the little girl calls another man Daddy? And her current boyfriend helps. If that jerk is so willing to help this b*tch keep a girl away from her father and wants the girl to call him Daddy, then he can pay for it. They are outright rich, we are living at half the poverty line from having to take off so much time to go to court. I am disabled.

The best way I can make to get you to understand. Say you and I bought a car together (chioldren are property here, like a car). I take the car and tell you you can't use it, or enjoy it, or have any say what I do with it, but you have to pay for the maintenence anyway, and for the gas. If I couldn't afford it on my own, I'd better be willing to allow you to have the car part of the time so that expenses could me more fairly split.

It's SELFISH of a CP to keep the children from the NCP, and even alienate, then to tell that NCP to also had over all his money.

This isn't about not loving the children or not wanting to support them. But if you are being scratched from being a parent, why should you have any parental responsibilities regarding money?

And if you are going to start on, "But if two people bring a child into this world together..." think of it this way. If financial responsibities should be split, so should parenting reponsibilities. Both people should have equal time raising that child. Bring a child into this world together, support the child together. but also raise the child together, if not side-by-side, then through 50-50 custody unelss one parent is truly unfit (no child molester should be allowed unsupervised visits!).

No loving, safe parent should be reduced to the status of visitor, or worse, as an invisible cash machine.

Amen. I couldn't have said it better myself!

 

[stealth2]

Amen. I couldn't have said it better myself!

So you agree that all CPs here are only interested in the money and cutting the other parent out?

 

[StepmomsAreBest]

So you agree that all CPs here are only interested in the money and cutting the other parent out?

Maybe not ALL CP's. My mom never pulled this crap with my dad when they divorced. Nor did my stepfathers ex wife. Yes there are NCPs out there who flat out don't care about their kids and don't want to see them or help support them financially even though they are more than able to. But there are also quite a few NCPs who DO love their kids and DO want to help parent them. But they have an ex who uses the kids as weapons because he/she is upset that their ex moved on with his/her life and remarried, etc. Many (not ALL) CPs demand their weekly "paycheck" and give little or nothing in return to the NCP. It's not right. I think everything should be 50/50, give and take. So long as the NCP isn't a child molester or abusive to the kids, their is no reason at all why he/she shouldn't be granted the opportunity to help raise the children he/she had a hand in creating.