SueBee1062
Junior Member
I'll explain
I should have pointed out I was speaking specifically of my ex-husband, not people in general.
My ex-husband actively keeps his name off leases, renter's agreements, phone bills, etc. He doesn't want to be found because not only is he horribly in arrearages for his 17 year old daughter, he hasn't paid one cent in support for our son. LA County wants him and Sacramento County will be wanting him too as soon as I can find him and serve him with contempt orders. He has to live with friends (or out of his car) because not only can't he rent a place in the traditional manner, he has to keep his name off all contracts....so he can't be tracked.
Yes, I am very bitter and angry. My son goes through absolute hell wondering why his father only calls him on his birthday and Christmas. I don't even tell him about the child support arrearage. I just tell him, when he asks, that his dad has never paid the support and he is supposed to pay us $708 month. That money is for my son, not me personally. I have my own job and pay my own way. Being a single parent, on my own financially, isn't easy and my son feels the effects. So, yes, I'm very angry and bitter. My judgment is not clouded however.
The only reason I give a rat's a$$ about what or where my ex works or how he goes about it, is because he's trying to evade the support my son needs and it isn't fair. To my son. I've accepted the fact that I'll probably never see any support for my son, I don't budget around it at all. But I owe it to my son to at least try to collect what's court ordered.
I'd like to spray him with the hose when he DOES appear on our front porch to see my son on his birthday and on Christmas. He deserves it. I think I'm the pillar of maturity for letting the deadbeat see my son at all, when I'd lilke to hose him down the front walkway. I do it for my son, not him. Big jerk.
No, I'm not jealous of him AT ALL. I pay my taxes, pay into my social security, have employer provided healthcare for my child. I've very proud of myself. Good for you if you work under the table. Many people do, and still pay their taxes, they just do it separately. That's cool. I wasn't talking about you or those people. I was referring to my ex.
AnswerMeNOW said:
I should have pointed out I was speaking specifically of my ex-husband, not people in general.
My ex-husband actively keeps his name off leases, renter's agreements, phone bills, etc. He doesn't want to be found because not only is he horribly in arrearages for his 17 year old daughter, he hasn't paid one cent in support for our son. LA County wants him and Sacramento County will be wanting him too as soon as I can find him and serve him with contempt orders. He has to live with friends (or out of his car) because not only can't he rent a place in the traditional manner, he has to keep his name off all contracts....so he can't be tracked.
Yes, I am very bitter and angry. My son goes through absolute hell wondering why his father only calls him on his birthday and Christmas. I don't even tell him about the child support arrearage. I just tell him, when he asks, that his dad has never paid the support and he is supposed to pay us $708 month. That money is for my son, not me personally. I have my own job and pay my own way. Being a single parent, on my own financially, isn't easy and my son feels the effects. So, yes, I'm very angry and bitter. My judgment is not clouded however.
The only reason I give a rat's a$$ about what or where my ex works or how he goes about it, is because he's trying to evade the support my son needs and it isn't fair. To my son. I've accepted the fact that I'll probably never see any support for my son, I don't budget around it at all. But I owe it to my son to at least try to collect what's court ordered.
I'd like to spray him with the hose when he DOES appear on our front porch to see my son on his birthday and on Christmas. He deserves it. I think I'm the pillar of maturity for letting the deadbeat see my son at all, when I'd lilke to hose him down the front walkway. I do it for my son, not him. Big jerk.
No, I'm not jealous of him AT ALL. I pay my taxes, pay into my social security, have employer provided healthcare for my child. I've very proud of myself. Good for you if you work under the table. Many people do, and still pay their taxes, they just do it separately. That's cool. I wasn't talking about you or those people. I was referring to my ex.
