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Can I still see my kids? NY visitation question
What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?I live in New York State.
Back in January of this year, 2004, my ex wife met a new guy that she is now remarried to. In January, she had asked me if her new husband can adopt my two children. I agreed, because of the situation at the time. It has been 9 months now since I have seen them, and the adoption has not gone through yet. She does have a downpayment on it, and has paid all the fees, I have proof of this.
Just recently she took me back to court for more money for the children. I pay $100 a week for the two of them, plus I am paying $25 a week for childcare costs. It is taken right out of my check, and I am not behind on payments. I believe that she is not going to finish the adoption any time soon.
As the court is concerned right now, I still have visitation for every other weekend. It has not been changed. I did write a letter to the court over another matter, and told them that I had agreed it would be best not to see the children if they are being adopted. I want to ask my ex to start seeing my kids again, if the adoption is not going through. I do want to see them anyway, I have missed them everyday. I haven't seen them since the first week in January. If I call her and ask her to see the kids again, and I still have a court order to see them, do I have a leg to stand on? I know that she will say no, she is one of those people that likes to be in control of everything. She had the kids calling me by my first name, and the new guy Daddy, 2 weeks after she met him. If I start seeing them again, I know she will try to get it so I can't see them. But I have nothing that can be used against me to prove I'm a "bad father" I have a son of my own that I've had since he was born.
Basically, even though I wrote a letter to the court that I agreed to not see them, but it was never taken to court, can she still be in violation of the visitation court order? I don't want to be a pest about it, but when I ask to see them and am denied, can she get into trouble then? I don't want to start trouble, I just want to see my kids again. Any advice you can give would help. Thank you very much.
What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?I live in New York State.
Back in January of this year, 2004, my ex wife met a new guy that she is now remarried to. In January, she had asked me if her new husband can adopt my two children. I agreed, because of the situation at the time. It has been 9 months now since I have seen them, and the adoption has not gone through yet. She does have a downpayment on it, and has paid all the fees, I have proof of this.
Just recently she took me back to court for more money for the children. I pay $100 a week for the two of them, plus I am paying $25 a week for childcare costs. It is taken right out of my check, and I am not behind on payments. I believe that she is not going to finish the adoption any time soon.
As the court is concerned right now, I still have visitation for every other weekend. It has not been changed. I did write a letter to the court over another matter, and told them that I had agreed it would be best not to see the children if they are being adopted. I want to ask my ex to start seeing my kids again, if the adoption is not going through. I do want to see them anyway, I have missed them everyday. I haven't seen them since the first week in January. If I call her and ask her to see the kids again, and I still have a court order to see them, do I have a leg to stand on? I know that she will say no, she is one of those people that likes to be in control of everything. She had the kids calling me by my first name, and the new guy Daddy, 2 weeks after she met him. If I start seeing them again, I know she will try to get it so I can't see them. But I have nothing that can be used against me to prove I'm a "bad father" I have a son of my own that I've had since he was born.
Basically, even though I wrote a letter to the court that I agreed to not see them, but it was never taken to court, can she still be in violation of the visitation court order? I don't want to be a pest about it, but when I ask to see them and am denied, can she get into trouble then? I don't want to start trouble, I just want to see my kids again. Any advice you can give would help. Thank you very much.
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